Can you tell the difference between selfish behavior, innocent forgetfulness or lack of social skills and outright intentional Emotional Abuse? All people have need for social support, interaction, loving kindness and cooperation from their community. We are also responsible for our own actions and self care without expecting others to do our personal work for us. It is human nature to put our own needs first and to “give in order to get.” But sometimes people with low self-esteem and an overblown sense of entitlement cause Emotional Abuse.

Do you know someone who is always making promises but it turns out the only thing you can count on is that they will never follow through? They seduce you with flattery, say things to make you feel special in order to get your loyalty, sympathy or cooperation. They ask for special favors that if you do for them they will return in the future. They’ll put in a good word to his boss about that job promotion. She will get more business for you if you just do that one landscaping job at a deep discount. You comply because you want to be a good person (which you will discover is really a sign of co-dependency). Then, when the time comes to make good on their word, they make excuses that lays the blame squarely in your lap. These are typical traits of an abusive person or even Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Until you learn the signs of Emotional Abuse and Narcissism you are leaving yourself open to manipulation. There are several types of abusers who show up in various social situations. The Narcissistic boss or friend. Abusive Husband.. Narcissism, Emotional Abuse and other controlling personality behaviors derive from early childhood experience that caused incomplete attachment. Attachment psychology, the formation of trust and self identity in early childhood, is the foundation of research into Emotional Abuse and its counterpart Narcissism.

Although a person who causes Emotional Abuse may seem like they are aware of and in control of their emotions, their egoistic and overbearing behaviors actually betray their deeply wounded egos and self doubt. There is an even deeper hidden dynamic going on. Every abuser or narcissist who seeks his ego fix must have a codependent who supplies it.

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Kim Cooper

Author's Bio: 

At Narcissism Cured we help you to deal with the person who is suffering from the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the friends and family members do not have to suffer forever. There are techniques and activities through which a person suffering from NPD can be cured of this disorder. Visit our website for more information regarding Emotional Abuse..