What you deserve and what you think you deserve sometimes have completely different answers.

It all comes down to our thoughts, our beliefs about ourselves, and our self worth.

To give an example - imagine you are looking for a life partner. All you have ever wanted in life is to find someone who loves you for you - who appreciates you - who cares about you - and who would give anything to be with you. You know you deserve this.

And yet...the partners you actually end up with are afraid of commitment, treat you horribly, don't appreciate you, and don't care about you.

How does this keep happening to you?

It happens because we attract to us what we think we deserve - not what we actually deserve.

In the example above, somewhere along the way you created a belief system about what you thought you were worth. And most likely this was an unconscious belief that started as a result of things you were told when you were young.

Once you become aware of your beliefs about your own self worth, you can begin to make changes. You can start saying affirmations letting yourself know that you are worth so much more than you are settling for. You can surround yourself with loving friends who build you up and love you unconditionally. You can learn to love yourself - possibly for the first time in your life.

And then you can start journaling about the person that you want to attract into your life - the person you know you deserve to be with.

Our thoughts and self worth attract the life we live. And this applies to relationships, work, money, friends - everything in our life!

Let's all attract into our lives what we actually deserve - knowing that we are worth it.

Author's Bio: 

Jodi Chapman is the author of the inspirational blog, Soul Speak; the upcoming book, Coming Back to Life: How an Unlikely Friend Helped Me Reclaim My True Spirit; and the bestselling Soulful Journals series, co-authored with her amazing husband, Dan Teck. www.jodichapman.com