When we are madly in love with someone, that person seems like a world to us and nothing seems to exist beyond this world. All our thoughts and actions encircle that person so much so that we even forget our own self. Although, we would never want to come out of that relationship, there could come such circumstances which may force this to happen.

When such things happen, it is bound to cause great pain and we find ourselves in despair. It feels like the end of the world. Since that person was everything in life, it is hard to imagine living life without that person. We just keep sobbing over it as we don’t find interest in anything else. But this doesn’t take us anywhere, does it?

So, although it seems impossible to get over this reality at this point in time, let us get some tips of the possible ways to make it happen in some time:

1.Time is the best healer. Give some time and eventually you will get over it.

2.We dread being lonely. The fear of loneliness stops us from getting over that person. So start loving yourself. You will then enjoy when alone too! Also, try to be more social. Meet your friends and family more often.

3.Since you were madly in love with the person, it is natural that your broken heart will in turn cause a madly agonizing pain now. There is nothing one can do about it. But you can surely try to keep accepting the fact wholeheartedly that this is how it was supposed to be. You will begin to feel better then. Accepting doesn’t mean we have to stay stuck in our pain and remain unhappy. Rather, accepting gives us the opportunity to come out of the problem and give new perspective to life.

4.Keep yourself engaged by channeling your thoughts and energy in some activity so that negative thoughts don’t keep daunting you. Try new hobby that makes you happy and hone your skills to boost your confidence.

5.Convey your feelings to your parents or close friends. This will help you a lot.

6.You can even journal down your feelings. This will help vent out your emotions and make you feel light-hearted.

7.Take out special time and meditate. This will give you lot of solace and peace. And at the end of meditation, also spend around fifteen minutes or so introspecting the emotions that are arising inside you at that moment. You can specially check whether any anger, outrage, blame, etc. seems to be surfacing. If so, surrender these feelings in the feet of God and let them go.

Embrace whatever good or bad happened in your life and let it go. Spending time and energy in blame game, one feels drenched and exhausted. This will also hinder your process to get over. So, with all the love in your heart, forgive your partner and seek forgiveness from Him for any hurt caused to each other so far. Whatever happens is because of our unfolding karmas. Why not pay off our karmic debt with a loving heart then?

8.Akram Vignan, the spiritual science, enlightens us with the scientific principles that show how no one is at fault and to be blamed in this world. It is worth taking out some time to study this science, and if you have any questions, you can get them clarified too. If this interests you, https://www.dadabhagwan.org/ is a good starting point.

9.Even when our relationship has ceased to exist today, we’ve loved him so much that we certainly would like to wish only well-being of this person, isn’t it? So, daily pray for this person’s well-being in all aspects, “Oh God! May he / she attain worldly as well as spiritual happiness and progress, always!!” Your positive vibrations will certainly reach the other person, which in turn will make you feel relieved and happy too.

10.Whatever happens, happens for a reason. Though we may not understand it right away because of our trauma, but later we will surely thank God for it.

11.Pujya Dadashri says, we are really a Pure Soul. And therefore, we are very powerful. We can become or get whatever we wish for. So, if we say I am full on infinite strength, we will get the strength to get to the destination we wish to.

12.The love we have for someone is the worldly love. In this love, there is bound to be some expectation for sure. And expectation inevitably causes suffering. But where there is pure love, there are no expectations. And hence there is only bliss. Gnani Purush is the Embodiment of pure love!!! So, let us get over worldly love and look for pure love which is possible by the grace of Gnani Purush, by attaining Self-Realization.

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Author's Bio: 

Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization.