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- Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Worthless If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may have been treated like he was nothing and not given the love that he needed during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this now that he is an adult. Even so, how he was treated will have had a big impact on him. The seeds that were planted will have grown ...
Views: 420 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That His Needs Are A Burden If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with all of his needs. So, when it comes to his basic needs, such as his need to eat and sleep, he could be fine. But, when it comes to his emotional needs, such as his need to be seen and ...
Views: 309 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That Men Are Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is a man and no longer a boy, it could be said that his childhood will be behind him. This stage of his life will be well and truly over, so it won’t matter what took place during this time. However, while this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this stage of his ...
Views: 321 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That Women Are A Threat To His Survival If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man wants to develop a loving and harmonious relationship with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he has been able to make much progress. He could be in a position where he hasn’t been able to find a woman who is suitable. Alternatively, he might have dated at least one woman but for ...
Views: 297 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Lot Of Hurt If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be out of touch with how he feels and to be in a collapsed physical state. Due to this, he can typically go through the motions in life, not feeling alive or as though his life has much meaning. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, he might not ...
Views: 329 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Emotionally Shut Down Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may be in tune with his feelings when he is by himself and even around a man, this may seldom be the case when he is around a woman. What will be normal, then, is for him to be out of touch with his body when he is in their presence. This could be something that he is acutely ...
Views: 482 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Anxious Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to act like one. The reason for this is that he might not be able to spend much time by himself. When he is by himself, he could soon feel very uncomfortable and end up doing whatever he can to find ...
Views: 319 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man End Up With An Avoidant Attachment Style If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was asked to describe himself, one of the things that he could say is that he is independent. Unlike some people, then, he won’t need others and this will also mean that he won’t be ‘needy’. He can see himself as being strong and capable, whilst viewing people like this as weak and ...
Views: 401 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Abandoned If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a man may have been in a relationship that seemed to be going well and then, out of nowhere, it came to an end. As a result of this, he could be in a pretty bad way and find it hard to function. When he is not feeling low and flat, he could be filled with a deep sense of sadness and ...
Views: 343 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Humiliated By A Woman If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about the interactions that he has had with women over the years, he could find that he has often felt ashamed and worthless in their presence. He could see that in most of these cases, it was because he was often put down. Due to the experiences that he has had, he ...
Views: 337 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Rejected By Women If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man was to see a woman who he is attracted to, it doesn’t mean that he would take the next step. Instead, he could talk himself out of speaking to her and let the chance pass. Then again, he might not need to talk himself out of doing something as he might not believe that it is ...
Views: 270 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Treated Badly By Women If He Had A Cruel Mother? - by Submitted on May 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have had a number of experiences with women that were anything but pleasant. This can mean that he has been in a number of relationships that greatly undermined him. Additionally, there can be all the interactions that he has had, both at work and in his everyday ...
Views: 338 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect Women To Behave Negatively If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a man’s early years will be well and truly behind him, it doesn’t mean that how he was treated during this stage of his life won’t have had a lasting impact on him. However, due to his brain’s ability to repress both pain and memories, he might not remember a great deal about what took ...
Views: 359 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Experience Conflict With Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that, in general, his relationships with women have been anything but harmonious. Therefore, when the ‘battle of the sexes’ is mentioned, he probably won’t find it hard to relate to what is being spoken about. When it ...
Views: 446 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Intimacy If He Had A Controlling Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could find is that even though he wants to have a relationship with a woman, he pulls away from a woman as soon as things get serious. Or, perhaps to be more accurate, this happens as soon as he starts to become emotionally attached to a woman. He could then think about all the ...
Views: 210 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Intimacy If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man fears getting close to a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. He is then going to unconsciously do what he can to keep women at a distance, but he won’t realise this. Thanks to this, he might often be in a position where it is as though someone or ...
Views: 373 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had A Cruel Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperMost if not all of the experiences that a man had during his formative years might have been forgotten about by his conscious mind. Therefore, most of what took place during this stage of his life could be a mystery. Nevertheless, while this might be the case, it doesn’t mean that what took ...
Views: 324 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he generally finds it hard to be himself around women. There are then going to be moments when this is not the case, but this will be the exception as opposed to the rule. Upon closer inspection, he may see that this is how ...
Views: 349 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could see, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at a distance. He could find that this is something that typically just happens, without him consciously choosing to be this way. This can mean he has been single for most of his life and has ...
Views: 282 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man fears women, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. If so, being this way will have a big impact on his life but he won’t realise what is going on. But, while he won’t be aware of this, a friend or family member, for instance, could be aware of this. It might ...
Views: 333 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Anxious Around Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on May 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels edgy. And, if he was to look even closer, he may find that this is usually how he feels when he is around a woman or women. Furthermore, in order to handle what is going on for him and feel more ...
Views: 363 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Comfortable Being Treated Badly By Women If His Mother Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could be with a woman who doesn’t treat him very well. So, what can be normal is for him to be put down, humiliated, ignored, rejected and there may even be times when he is hit. He might have been with her for a number of months or he might have been with her for a number of ...
Views: 297 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Comfortable Being Treated Badly By Women If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has been with a number of women who didn’t treat him very well. This could show that he has been in a number of abusive relationships. Now, if he were to think about one of these relationships, he might end up feeling angry and very ...
Views: 216 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Comfortable With One-Sided Relationships If He Had A Self-Absorbed Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he has the tendency to be in relationships that are out of balance. These will then be relationships where he is giving a lot but receiving very little. Thanks to what they have been like, he could be well and truly ...
Views: 210 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Empty If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to connect with how he feels, he could find that he feels as though he is missing something. It is then going to be as if there is a hole inside him that needs to be filled. And, if he were to go deeper into this inner emptiness, he could come into contact with a lot of pain. He ...
Views: 329 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Empty If His Mother Was Unable To Love Him? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man feels as if something is missing, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. One reason for this is that he could live in a way that allows him to avoid how he feels. So, he could spend a lot of time in doing mode, which will stop him from having to be with how ...
Views: 271 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Guilty For Being Happy If He Grew Up With A Depressed Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he finds it hard to experience both ‘positive’ feelings and good things for very long. Therefore, whenever he has felt good, it might not have been long before his mood changed. And, whenever an area of life is going ...
Views: 290 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Inferior To Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a relationship with a woman, he could spend a lot of time trying to please her. As a result, he will be focused on her needs and will do what he can to meet them. The outcome of this is that he won’t be connected to a number of his own needs and will neglect himself. Due to how ...
Views: 184 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Invisible If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have a physical body and, therefore, will be visible to others, it doesn’t mean that he will feel seen. In general, he could feel invisible and wonder if he even exists. As a result of this, he could often feel powerless and helpless and believe that he has very little if ...
Views: 383 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Invisible If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he often feels unseen and unheard and as though he doesn’t even exist. He is then going to have a physical body and be able to be seen by others but he will seldom feel seen. If he were to take a closer look ...
Views: 308 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Uncomfortable Being Treated Well By Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see is that when he is treated well by a woman, he ends up feeling uncomfortable. As a result of this, he can wonder why he is unable to feel at ease when this takes place. So, if he were to think about when he last dated a woman or was in a relationship with a woman who ...
Views: 203 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Unlovable If He Had A Mother Who Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may have the desire to be in a loving relationship, it doesn’t mean that he will believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he might have had this desire for quite some time and not been able to make much progress. He could look back on his life and see that he ...
Views: 391 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Unsafe Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man may find it hard to feel at ease when he is around women. Due to this, he could often act in a very submissive and easy-going manner when he is around them. What this will mean is that who he is will rarely if ever show up when he is in the company of a woman. Instead, a ...
Views: 355 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he experiences life, what could soon stand out is that he doesn’t feel as though he has any value. He could see how this has held him back when it comes to his career and his relationships with the opposite sex. He might have continually made one ...
Views: 345 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If His Mother Treated Him Like An Object? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect, is that he rarely feels good about himself and often feels down as a result. He could find that he has been this for as long as he can remember. Consequently, it is going to be a challenge for him to appreciate his time on this earth. ...
Views: 368 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Attach To A Woman If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to only have casual encounters with women, which will mean that he will only share his body and perhaps his mind. This might be the only thing that interests him, with him having no desire whatsoever to experience more. He might sometimes be told that he has ...
Views: 353 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Attach To A Woman If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have walked away from a number of women just as things were starting to get serious. Then again, this might have been something that has only taken place on one occasion. However, regardless of how many times he has had this experience, he might not want to have this ...
Views: 174 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Attach To A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has been dating a woman for a little while, he can become emotionally attached to her. However, while part of him can feel comfortable with this, another part of him can feel very uncomfortable. If this other part of him is not as strong, it might not stop him from being able to ...
Views: 223 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust A Woman If He Had A Neglectful Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving the ability to trust will not only allow someone to go about their day-to-day life it will also allow them to live a fulfilling life. The reason for this is that, on one side, without it, they wouldn’t even leave their bed, let alone their home. And on the other, it wouldn’t be ...
Views: 447 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who have let him down and even betrayed him. Thanks to this, he might be very cautious when it comes to women. So, he might keep them at a distance both emotionally and physically or just emotionally. When it comes to the former, he ...
Views: 216 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hate Himself If He Had A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to experience ‘negative’ thoughts and to feel bad about himself. Thanks to this, he can spend a lot of time feeling low and depressed. Also, he might seldom take action and do what he can to achieve his goals. Taking this into account, he is unlikely to live a ...
Views: 297 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hate Women If He Had A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what might enter his mind is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of women. He could then think about how this is because he has had many experiences with them that haven’t been very positive. So, when it comes to the experiences that ...
Views: 229 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Dysfunctional View Of Love If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after being brought up by an abusive mother, a man was able to realise that his early years were dysfunctional and then to reach out for support, he might not end up in a relationship with an abusive woman. He would then have been through hell but there would be no reason for him to replay ...
Views: 363 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Inner Model Of Women If He Had A Mother Who lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to think about the experiences that he has had with women over the years, he might soon experience a number of ‘negative’ feelings. This is because he may have been with a number of women who were not very loving. So, these women might not have typically been interested in his ...
Views: 341 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Inner Model Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man can have the desire to deeply connect to a woman, he may also have the need to keep his distance. The experiences that he has had with them throughout his life may appear to be what has given him this need. As a result of this, it is going to be a challenge for him to fulfil ...
Views: 379 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Self-Image If His Mother Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, what could soon stand out is that he doesn’t have a very positive view. He could find that he feels worthless and unlovable. After coming to see this, he could soon start to think about how this is impacting his life. So, he ...
Views: 254 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative View Of Himself If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to talk to another person about how he sees himself, they could struggle to understand why he sees himself in this way. The reason for this is that he could believe that he is worthless and unlovable. He could end up being told that these are just beliefs and that they don’t ...
Views: 191 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative View Of Himself If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man is going to be only too aware that his physical body was created and birthed by his mother, but it might not occur to him that his self-image was largely created and birthed birth by her too. One reason for this is that he might not even think about how he sees himself. But, even if he ...
Views: 345 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative View Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he sees women, he might find that he doesn’t have a positive view of them. He could see them as cold, critical, cruel and emotionally unstable and unpredictable, among other things. As to why he sees them in this way, it is likely to be a sign that ...
Views: 274 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative View Of Women If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on how he sees women, he could find that he doesn’t have a positive view of them. So, he could see them as being out of reach, cold, critical and emotionally unstable. This can show that, over the years, he has been with a number of women who were like ...
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