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- Living In The Mind Leads To A Very Unstable Existence - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a conversation I had with someone the other day, it made me think about how different it is to live in the body compared with the mind. In a way, living in the mind is similar to being on a bouncy castle, while living in the body is similar to being a tree. The reason for this is that ...
Views: 1036 - Locus Of Control: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Develop An External Locus Of Control? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people that believe that they have control over their life and then there are people that don’t. Due to this, these people are likely to have two very different experiences on this earth. When it comes to the people that fit into the first category, it could be said that they are ...
Views: 705 - Loneliness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Experience Loneliness? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what could soon stand out is that they often feel cut off from others and alone. They could see that this is how they have been for most of their life. What could enter their mind is that this is just how their life is and that ...
Views: 251 - Looking Good: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Looking Good? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t have to look very far to see how obsessed people have become with looking good in the western world. And this is not limited to one gender; both men and women are involved in this. For a woman it could relate to: the kinds of clothes they wear, make-up, body shape, hair style, ...
Views: 2453 - Looking Perfect: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Want To Look Perfect? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media has been presenting images of people that have been edited for years, and as time has passed, social media has also allowed people to present images that have been edited. As a result of this, someone can go from being manipulated by the media at one point in time, to being ...
Views: 1452 - Loss: Can Early Deprivation Make It Harder For Someone To Handle Loss? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has experienced a breakup, lost a loved one, or had a pet pass on, for instance, they could end up embracing how they feel and allowing themselves to grieve. This is then likely to be a time when they won’t behave as they usually would. So, they might no longer have the desire ...
Views: 309 - Loss: Can Someone Feel Guilty After A Parent Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having recently lost a parent, someone could find that they are now experiencing a number of different feelings. There can also be a sense of shock around what has happened, with them finding it hard to accept that they will never see this parent again. When it comes to how they feel, ...
Views: 426 - Loss: Can Someone Lose The Desire To Be Alive After They Have Experienced A Loss? - by Submitted on May 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has recently experienced a loss, they could be in a very bad way. They can have moments when they feel very sad and can’t stop crying, and moments when they shut down and are unable to feel anything. Along with this, they can find it hard to get out of bed in the morning and ...
Views: 152 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Cause Someone To Get Stuck In The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences loss, it might be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life; however, there is also the chance that they won’t be able to do this. In this case, it is could be quiet some time before they are able to do what they used to do before. What this comes down to ...
Views: 1722 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Stop Someone From Being Able To ‘Move On’? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the loss of a loved one is one of the hardest things to experience on this earth. This can relate to a family member, a partner, a friend, and even a pet. When this takes place, someone can end up being mentally, emotionally and physically floored. It can be as if their ...
Views: 1251 - Loss: Does Today’s Highly Masculine Society Make It Harder For Someone To Grieve A Loss? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough experiencing a loss is part of the human experience, working through a loss is not something that is generally seen in the same light. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone to experience loss and then to carry on as normal. They could then have lost a family member, their ...
Views: 923 - Loss: Is It Normal To Grieve A Number Of Years Later? - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done. If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be ...
Views: 1694 - Loss: Is It Possible To Get Over A Loss? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s fast-paced world, there is often the need for instant gratification, and when something doesn’t happen straight away, it can lead to all kinds of problems. This can be a time when someone will experience a strong emotional reaction, and the sooner they get what they want the sooner ...
Views: 1629 - Loss: Is Time A Great Healer? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times when one can experience a loss and it won’t have much of an effect on them, and then there are times when this won’t be the case. And what can define how much of an impact a loss has on them can all depend on their level of emotional attachment. For example, if one had a ...
Views: 1699 - Loss: Should Someone Let Go Of Another Person's Possessions After They Have Passed On? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one losses someone, they may feel the need to let go of their possessions soon after. Or if they don’t feel this way, the people around them may encourage them to have clear out, so to speak. It could be said that the reason this would be seen as a good idea is that when something is ...
Views: 1791 - Loss: Why Is It Harder For Some People To Handle The Loss Of A Parent? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that getting older is generally part of life, experiencing loss is also part of life. And while getting older can be difficult, experiencing loss can be something that is even harder to handle. This can be put down to the fact that aging is a slower process, which allows ...
Views: 951 - Loss: Why Would Someone Idealise Another Person When They Pass On? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how old someone is, there is a strong chance that they have experienced loss at one point or another. In fact, this could be something they have experienced on a number of occasions. What this shows is that it is not necessary for one to reach a certain age before they lose someone ...
Views: 1626 - Love Bombing: Are Some People Easy Targets For 'Love Bombers'? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was single and they were to meet someone who showed a lot of interest in them, they could find that they end up being drawn to them. And what might also play a part here is that one may be physically attracted to them. Through being in this person’s presence, one could start to ...
Views: 825 - Love Or Control: What Would You Choose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s relationships what is often classed as love is nothing more than control. The desire to control another person and their behaviour then becomes more important than it is to love and honour the other person. The question is: what would make a person want to control another? If they ...
Views: 1953 - Love: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Love? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is likely to be born with the need to both receive and give love, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with these needs now that they are an adult. In fact, they could be unaware of both of these needs. However, even if they are not aware of these needs, a lot of what ...
Views: 396 - Love: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Need To Be Perfect To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, someone can believe that they will only be loved if they are perfect. Naturally, if they are in this position, it is going to be more or less impossible for them to be loved by others. At the same time, they can be loved by others, but, thanks to what is going on inside them, they ...
Views: 310 - Love: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Need To Earn Love? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s developmental years, they needed love to grow and develop and, as an adult, they also need love in order to be at their best. However, although they will need love as an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this need. But, even if they are not aware ...
Views: 380 - Love: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Unconsciously Look For Love? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though just about everything that someone does can be a way for them to try to be loved, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Instead, they can just see themselves as someone who is highly motivated and wants to be successful. Being this way can mean that will ...
Views: 351 - Love: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Struggle For Love? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is not uncommon is for someone to continually end up in relationships with people who are unable to be there for them. Ending up with people who are ‘emotionally unavailable’ is then going to be the norm. The outcome of this is that when they have been in a relationship, they will have ...
Views: 335 - Love: Do Some People's childhoods Set Them Up To Reject Love? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to receive, there are others who are unable to do so. What this means is that although someone needs something, it is not possible for them to have it. There are then going to be others who experience life differently, and it will be possible for them ...
Views: 2593 - Love: Where Does Love Come From? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people say money makes the world go round, other people say that it is love that makes the world go round. Each outlook deserves to be heard and the outlook that one has is likely to depend on what they’re like as a person. If one was an idealist they might say it is love and yet ...
Views: 2133 - Love: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Love Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone would like to love and appreciate themselves, it doesn’t mean that one finds this easy or even possible to do. But, this love is not an adaption and what appears when one doesn’t love themselves. Here, something known as unhealthy narcissism can appear; with one having ...
Views: 3064 - Loyalty: Is Being Loyal Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why people have dogs is because they are loyal companions. And while this is one of their strengths, it can also cause them to be taken advantage of. Yet, even though this can set them up to be treated badly, it doesn’t mean they will simply run away. Instead, a dog is ...
Views: 8266 - Loyalty: Is Your Need To Be Loyal Keeping You Stuck? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can have the need to achieve something in their life, it doesn’t mean they are able to achieve it. And while this may be a sign that their expectations are too high, this might not be the case. As a result of this, they are likely to be in a position where they are used ...
Views: 1556 - Make Up: Can Wearing A Lot Of Make Up Make It Harder For Women To Accept Their Appearance? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one generation can start to experience something around a certain age, it doesn’t mean that the next generation will start to the experience the same thing around the same age. There is the chance that one generation will end up starting something far earlier than the generation ...
Views: 1445 - Makeup And The False-Self - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I saw a picture of a woman’s face on social media and this picture had received a fair amount ‘likes’. That wasn’t it though, as she had received a number of positive comments. One of these comments went into how good she looked and there were others that went even further, ...
Views: 1060 - Male Feminists: Is It A Surprise For Male Feminists To Be Accused Of Harassment? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, a number of women accused a well-known Hollywood producer of raping, assaulting, and sexually harassing them. And, since then, a number of other women have come forward. It hasn’t stopped there, though, as a number of other high profile men have also been accused of the same ...
Views: 1140 - Man Up: Is Saying 'Man Up' Sexist? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there is far less pressure on men and women to conform to certain roles, and this has made it easier for them to be themselves. However, change doesn’t happen overnight, and while so much has been archived, there is still work to be done. In the past, men had to be ‘strong’ ...
Views: 2213 - Managers: Do Some Managers Only Employ People They Can Control? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are going to be managers out there who employ the people who are the best candidates; there are going to be others who have a different approach. As a result of this, there is a strong chance that they will be employing people for the wrong reasons. An Analogy Let’s say that ...
Views: 1336 - Manifestation: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Manifest What They Want? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is into self-development, they will have probably heard of the Law of attraction. However, even if someone is not into self-development, there is still the chance that they have heard of it. This could be a law that they have used to transform their life; then again, it might not ...
Views: 594 - Manifestation: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Manifest Something If They Feel Unworthy? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to attain a thing, meet a certain type of person, or have a certain experience, they could do what they can to manifest what they desire. So, what they can do is use a visualisation technique where they imagine that they have already achieved what they want to achieve. This ...
Views: 100 - Manifestation: Can Someone's Early Years Define What Their Resonance/Vibration Is Like As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAccording to the law of attraction, positive thoughts attract positive things and negative thoughts attract negative things. There are those that believe this and there are those that believe that this is load of rubbish. This doesn’t mean that there are only two type of people, though, as ...
Views: 826 - Manifestation: Can The Law Of Attraction Allow Someone To Avoid Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a life that is anything but fulfilling, someone could end up coming across the law of attraction. Thanks to this, they could soon come to the conclusion that this law will allow them to finally live a life that is worth living. It could be as though their luck has finally ...
Views: 448 - Manifestation: Can The Law Of Attraction Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter learning about the law of attraction, someone could soon come to the conclusion that they need to feel good as much as they can and to have positive thoughts. This is because both their feelings and their thoughts will play a big part in what they do and don’t experience. So, as the ...
Views: 342 - Manifestation: Do Some People’s Childhoods Make It Harder For Them To Manifest A Fulfilling Reality? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that it is not just someone’s thoughts that influence their reality; it is also their feelings. Therefore, it is going to be essential for them to pay attention to what is taking place in their mind, along with what is going on in their body, and to make sure that they are not ...
Views: 861 - Manifestation: Does Someone Need A Strong Ego In Order To Accept That They Create Their Life? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are people that can accept that they are co-creating their reality, there are others who are unable to accept this. In addition to this, there are those that haven’t even considered that this is so. It could be said that this is not much of a surprise, considering the fact that ...
Views: 525 - Manifestation: Is The Law Of Attraction A Lie? - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years now, a lot has been said about something called the law of attraction. In most cases, this law is used to back up the view that someone’s thoughts create their reality. As a result of this, if someone wants to experience or to attain something, they will need to have the ...
Views: 617 - Manifestation: Why Doesn't The Law Of Attraction Work? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEver since a certain film was released over a decade ago, it has resulted in a lot of people being aware of the so-called ‘law of attraction’. At its root, this law basically says that our thoughts create our reality. So, in order for someone to create their ideal life, the only thing they ...
Views: 1175 - Masculine And Feminine: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Embrace Both Sides? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPhysically men and women are very different; with a woman being an example of the feminine and a man being an example the masculine. But while this much is true, on the inside they are both made of masculine and feminine traits. And for a long time, men generally behaved in ways that were ...
Views: 2006 - Masculinity: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Masculinity If He Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could spend a lot of time being in a passive state and not feel the call to do a great deal. By being this way, he is typically only going to take action when he has to or when he is encouraged to do so. When it comes to the former, this will relate to when he has to go to ...
Views: 620 - Masculinity: Can Childhood Trauma Case A Man To Disconnect From His Masculinity? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although there are many ways that masculinity can be defined, there are a number of things that are likely to be part of everyone’s understanding of it. And when it comes to the masculine element or energy, this is something that both men and women can embody. Therefore, while this ...
Views: 709 - Masculinity: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Masculine Aspect? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be in a position where they find it hard to stand their ground. Therefore, instead of assertive themselves when it is necessary, they just allow other people to walk over them. Along with this, they may have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say ...
Views: 740 - Masculinity: Do Some Men Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development or if they simply stay up to date with what its taking place in the mainstream media, they may have heard people talk about how men need to embrace their feminine side/nature. This is because they are out of touch with this side of themselves, and unless this ...
Views: 2111 - Masculinity: Do Some Men’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Reject Their Masculinity? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that more men need to get in touch how they feel and to feel comfortable enough to express what is taking place within them. Said another way, they need to embrace their feminine side. However, while this is what is often said, it doesn’t mean that this is the only challenge ...
Views: 947 - Masculinity: Do Some Women's Childhoods Set Them Up To Become Overly Masculine? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, it has been said that men have become more feminine and women have become more masculine. Naturally, this is a generalisation and doesn’t apply to every man/woman in the western world. And when something like this is said, it could simply be an observation that someone has ...
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