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- Irrational Feelings: Do You Have Irrational Feelings? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one feels a certain way, it doesn’t mean these feelings reflect what is currently taking place in their life. One can then come to the conclusion that their feelings are irrational. This could be something that one experience from time to time or it might be a regular ...
Views: 2529 - Irrational Thoughts: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have ‘Irrational’ Thoughts? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while, someone may have experienced thoughts that are having a negative effect on their wellbeing. Along with these thoughts, there can be feelings that also arise. These thoughts and feelings are then not going to be positive and empowering; they will be negative and ...
Views: 298 - Irritation: Why Do Some People Irritate Us? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the amount of people on this planet, it is clear that one is not going to get along with everyone. There will be some people that one completely clicks with and therefore experiences very few instances of conflict and disharmony. And there will be others, on the other side of the ...
Views: 2401 - Is Ancestral Trauma Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn some people’s eyes, it is someone’s formative years that will have had the biggest effect on what they are like. For others, someone’s DNA that will have had the biggest effect on how they turned out. There are then those that believe that it is not one or the other, it is actually both. ...
Views: 887 - Is Dubai A Physical Representation Of The Conscious And Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, I have come across a number of people who will be moving to Dubai, and this has made me think about the place. I have never been there, but I have seen pictures, videos and heard stories about it. On the surface, it seems as though it is paradise on earth; everything looks perfect ...
Views: 835 - Is Inspired Action An Important Part Of The Manifestation Process? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter becoming clear about what it is that they want to attain, or experience, someone may believe that the next step will be for them to have the right thoughts. Through ‘thinking positive’, what they desire will show up. If they have this outlook, it is likely to show that they have been ...
Views: 529 - Is It A Surprise For Someone Who Is Popular To Be Lonely? - by Submitted on May 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I watched a short video about someone who lived a very lonely existence even though they were extremely popular. On the outside, they looked happy and as though they were connected to life, but when they were by themselves, they felt unhappy and disconnected. The image that ...
Views: 1047 - Is It A Surprise That So Many People Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on May 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhenever I have looked through a paper or a news website over the years, I have often come across news stories that go into how so many people are suffering mentally and emotionally. What often comes up is that these people’s lives are being derailed by anxiety, depression and/or suicidal ...
Views: 1222 - Is Our Life Defined By Ancestral Trauma? - by Submitted on May 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, a few articles were written about how trauma from slavery and the holocaust can be passed down. What this means, then, is that it doesn’t matter how many years have passed since these things took place, as what happened can have an effect on their descendents. Hard to ...
Views: 1268 - Is Our Past All Over Our Present? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, when I was walking around a city, I saw a number of street names that reflected its medieval past. This was in addition to all of the buildings from this period that were dotted around. What played a part in me noticing these names and the builders is my interest in medieval ...
Views: 285 - Is Past Life Trauma Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was working with a therapist in 2007, I thought that I was working through lot of pain that was from my past lives. However, after working through this pain, my life didn’t really change. As time went by I came to believe that dealing with past life issues was a waste of time and I ...
Views: 871 - Is Social Media Making You Do Things That You Wouldn't Usually Do? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was reading a paper, I came across a story about someone who said that they became a sex addict thanks to social media. This person said that they had got sucked into a social media site and this caused them to go down a path that they wouldn’t have gone down ...
Views: 733 - Is Your Environment Having A Negative Effect On Your Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to mental and emotional health, what is taking place internally can often be the point of focus. This will include: the thoughts that someone has, what their beliefs are, and their brain chemistry. So if someone is not operating at their best, and they were to get into ...
Views: 683 - Is Your Story Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I was reading something that went into how our story can allow us to lead a fulfilling life or it can do the opposite. This was something that I had heard about a number of years before, but after hearing it again, it reminded me of how powerful our story is and it made me ...
Views: 816 - Isolation: Can Someone Have The Need To Isolate Themselves If They Had Intrusive Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they typically need to be by themselves in order to feel settled and at ease. Along with this, this can be when they generally experience a sense of freedom and are able to be themselves. On the other hand, ...
Views: 329 - Isolation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAristotle once said that human beings are social animals and although this was said many, many years ago, it may as well have been said yesterday. Some of the environments that humans live in are different to how they were in the past, but this hasn’t changed the fact that humans need each ...
Views: 3723 - Isolation: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one will want to spend time by themselves and there will be times when they want to be around others. This is not to say that one will spend the same amount of time with others as they will by themselves; as it is not black and white. How one spends their time will ...
Views: 2308 - Isolation: Why Do Some People Lose The Desire To Be Around Others? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that human beings are social creatures and this is something that is hard to deny. Not only do human beings need others in order to survive, they also need others in order to thrive. Still, this doesn’t mean that every human being on this planet will be able to accept this, ...
Views: 779 - It Is Important To Be Able To Cry! - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was sat next to someone and soon after this, their partner came over and had a good cry in their presence. I was in awe of how easy it was for this person to cry and that it didn’t even matter that I was there. It was then clear that this person had a good connection with ...
Views: 865 - It Takes Courage To Heal Ourselves! - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, I was speaking to someone who had a less-than nurturing childhood, and this was something that had left them in a bad way. There was the impact it had had on how they saw themselves and then there was the trauma that they were carrying. Then again, it might be more accurate ...
Views: 1374 - It’s Important To See People As Individuals! - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperJust under a month ago I was looking through a book called ‘Strengths Finder 2.0’ by Tom Rath. This is a book that gives someone the chance to find what their hidden talents are and to go over the ones they are already aware of. So, when I opened the book and looked at the contents page, I ...
Views: 1410 - Join Me On Thursday For A Live Video Call! - by Submitted on May 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I was speaking to Errol Campbell, an intuitive coach, author and teacher, and he said about doing a video together. The idea he put forward was to talk about the inner child and the impact this part of us can have on our life. I was on board with this idea and I was looking ...
Views: 1223 - Judgemental: Why Are Some People So Judgemental? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperTo be judgmental is part of life and it is something that everyone does to some degree or another. There will be some instances where this is seen as good thing and other times when this will be seen as bad or inappropriate. If one was to see an athlete or sports star cheat or break certain ...
Views: 4788 - Just Be: Do Some People Need To Learn How To Just Be? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that it is hard for them to take action, with this being something that they need to work on. At the same time, they may find that they are able to take action when it comes to certain areas, yet struggle in others. Either way, it will be vital for them to do what ...
Views: 834 - Katie Wright: Is It A Surprise That Kate Wright Finds It Hard To Love Herself? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFairly recently, the mainstream media shared a story about Kate Wright, someone who first came to prominence after being in a British TV program. In this story, it said that Katie had ‘bad anxiety’ and ‘struggled to love herself’. Now, I don’t know much about her and I have only watched a few ...
Views: 877 - Labelling People: Do Some People Label Others In Order To Avoid Thinking? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go on holiday, they could take the time to try different types of food, or they could continue to eat the food that they are familiar with. If the former was to occur, it could be said that they are embracing their time away. Yet if the latter was to take place, it could be ...
Views: 1513 - Lack Mentality: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Lack Mentality? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on what often goes through their mind, they could come to the conclusion that they have a scarcity mindset. They could see that they often think about how there is not enough. This can relate to there not being enough money, opportunities, ...
Views: 291 - Law Of Resonance: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Manifest What They Want? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMany years ago, in 2006, the law of attraction came bursting onto the scene thanks to a documentary film. However, this law wasn’t new, it had been around for over a hundred years by name and the teachings themselves had been around for thousands of years. So, although these teachings were ...
Views: 460 - Law Of Resonance: Can Inner Child Work Allow Someone To Change Their Resonance? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt the deepest level, so beyond mere appearances, it has been said that human beings and everything else for that matter, are vibrating energy. This is might not be something that someone is willing to just accept. Due to the feedback that their fives senses provide them, this can be seen as ...
Views: 533 - Law Of Resonance: Can Positive Thinking Make It Harder For Someone To Attract What They Want? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving a positive mental attitude is often seen as a key part of what will allow someone to live a life that is worth living. As a result of this, someone can do their best to stay positive at all times. This will involve having positive thoughts and feelings and doing what they can to avoid ...
Views: 410 - Law Of Resonance: Can Someone Use The Law Of Resonance To Attract What They Desire? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about something that they wanted to attain or experience, they could soon think about what it is that they need to do to achieve their goal. So, a number of steps could enter their mind, and, before long, they could take the first step. As the days, weeks and perhaps ...
Views: 303 - Law Of Resonance: Does Someone Need To Let Go Of Their Resistance If They Want To Manifest Something? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of their time and energy focusing on what they don’t want. This can be something that just happens and it can be seen as a result of what their ancestors when through a long time ago. Ages ago, when human beings had to fight off predators to ...
Views: 831 - Law Of Resonance: Is The Law Of Resonance The Antidote To The Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a victim mentality, they are essentially going to believe that they have no control over their life. What will be in control of their life will be the situations, circumstances and events that they find themselves in and the people with who they cross paths with. In other ...
Views: 432 - Law Of Resonance: Will Someone Manifest More Of What They Are Trying To Avoid? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where one area of their life is not going as they want it to go and they experience a lot of “negative” feelings, they can end up doing what they can to change their life. This can be seen as the right approach to take; after all, simply putting up with what is going ...
Views: 392 - Learned Helplessness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Helpless? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that their life is not very fulfilling. So, just about every area of it might not be going how they would like it to go. Now, this might be something that has been at the back of their mind for quite ...
Views: 288 - Legitimate Suffering: What Is Legitimate Suffering? - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a saying by Carl Jung that says - “Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering”. And while this has got to be one of his most famous quotes, it is not easily understood. In today’s world it is often advocated that one should avoid pain at all costs. This is something ...
Views: 3169 - Let Your Feelings Guide You - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was reading ‘The Integrity Of Personality’ by Anthony Storr, there were a lot of things that stood out. This is a book that came out a few decades ago, but it is full of great information. And one of the things that stood out was when he basically said that a therapist can’t make a ...
Views: 852 - Letting Go Off Self-Hate Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may hate themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will actually realise this. What this means is that this will be something that is just outside of their conscious awareness. However, not being aware of this won’t mean that their life won’t be affected by what is taking ...
Views: 721 - Letting Go: Can The Past Exist In Our Body? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to say that they want to let go of the past, and this is likely to be due to the fact that it is holding them back in some way. Therefore, the sooner they are able to do this the better their life will be. A Number of Options Fortunately, it ...
Views: 1331 - Letting Go: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Letting Go? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperLife is constantly changing and never stays the same. But while this is the truth about reality, it doesn’t mean that letting go and going with the flow of life is necessarily easy or straightforward. The outer world is constantly changing and transforming, and yet the inner world and what is ...
Views: 1672 - Letting Go: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Holding Onto The Past? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one can drive, they will know that they can either go forwards or they can go backwards; what they can’t do is to go in both directions at the same time. In the same way, one can either stay stuck in the past or they can embrace the present. Therefore, in order for one to be able to live ...
Views: 1241 - Letting Go: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Feminine Nature Is They Always Need To Be In Control? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to move something, they would pick it up and then put it down once they have found the right spot. While it was in their hands, they would have held on and, when they put it down somewhere, they would have let go. Two Sides It could be said that there are times in life when ...
Views: 1053 - Letting Go: How Can Someone Let Go Of The Past? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are experiences that one can have that won’t stop them from being able to carry on with their life; there are other experiences that can stop them from being able to move forward. When this happens, time will pass but their point of focus is going to be on what took place in the ...
Views: 1513 - Letting Go: Is Crying An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what they used to wear when they were younger, they are likely to see that they no longer wear the same clothes. Perhaps they got to a point where they no longer fitted them and this caused them to wear something else. They had to let go and while they may have ...
Views: 1547 - Letting Go: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is unable to let go, they’re going to end up using their energy to hold onto what they no longer need. And as they no longer need what they’re holding onto, it is not going to affect their ability to receive anything new. What one is holding onto no longer has a purpose and it is ...
Views: 1906 - Letting Go: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs soon as something ends, there is the chance for something to begin; just as when something begins, there is the chance for something to end. This is the cycle of life, and something that will continue until the time that one passes on. However, this is not something that always takes ...
Views: 1587 - Letting Go: Is Life Too Short To Hold Onto The Past? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that human beings don’t live forever; there comes a point in everyone’s life when their time will come to an end. When it comes to when this will be, it can depend on a number of different factors. Due to this, it is often said that life is too short to waste time; each ...
Views: 1326 - Letting Go: Why Is It Hard To Let Go? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the term letting go is mentioned, it would be normal to think about physically letting go of something. Just like how one might open their hands and drop something. However, the letting go that I am about to describe here, has more to do with psychologically letting go. This is something ...
Views: 2601 - Listen To Your Own Inner Guidance - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago I was speaking to someone who said that it was time for them to put a book together and to have it out before the end of the year. After having put this off for a number of years, this person knew that it was time for them to take action. When I heard this I just paid ...
Views: 745 - Listening: Do You Listen With Your Head Or Heart? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is an essential human need to be listened to and truly heard by others. This leads to a sense of validation and the experience of being mirrored. From the moment one is born this need is there and it will stay there until the moment they pass. Although this need is essential to ones ...
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