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- Hoarding: What Causes Hoarding? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that has surely been around for many, many years. In the very beginning of human evolution it was probably only food that was hoarded for those moments when it would be in short supply. However, in the modern day world, this can relate to just about everything on this ...
Views: 2169 - Hollywood: Are The Actors Who Talk About Politics Going To Cause Hollywood To Lose A Lot Of Money? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, actors did most of their talking in the films that they were in, and there would have been what they said in interviews, for instance. This would have related to the talk shows that they were on and the magazines that they were featured in. Other than these options, the people ...
Views: 1302 - Hollywood: Do Hollywood Actors No Longer Exist To Distract People? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone wants to relax, they could end up looking for a film to watch, and there are going to be a number of ways for them to do this. For one thing, one could go and watch something at the cinema. This may then mean that they will have to wait a little while, and this could be because ...
Views: 1248 - Hollywood: Is It A Surprise To Hear About How Immoral Hollywood Is? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has paid attention to the news recently, they might be aware of the fact that a certain film producer has been accused of sexually harassing, assaulting, or raping a number of women. Then again, this could be something that they are not even aware of. This could show that they ...
Views: 1708 - Honour Your Own Healing Journey - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMaybe you have been on the healing path for a number of years now or maybe you have only just started out. Either way, what you may find is that you have the tendency to compare your own life with others. Let’s say that you are working through some heavy stuff at the moment and someone else ...
Views: 547 - Hope: Is Hope Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is going through a challenging time in their life, they may hope that that this will soon change. What this could show is that one area of their life is not going as they would like it to go, or there might be a number of areas that are like this. Another Factor In addition ...
Views: 1336 - Hopeless: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on May 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn life, there will be hurdles that are both big and small that need to be overcome but that doesn’t mean that someone will believe that they have what it takes to handle these. Before they even come into contact with a hurdle, they could feel hopeless and helpless. Therefore, before they ...
Views: 378 - Hopeless: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have very little motivation or desire to do anything. They might simply not see the point in doing much. This can be how they typically experience life and they might rarely if ever feel a strong need ...
Views: 356 - Hopeless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless? - by Submitted on May 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has recently gone through a breakup, they could find that they feel deeply hopeless and helpless. They are then going to be in a state of despair and it will be as though their life is over. This may have been a relationship that lasted for a number of months or it might have been ...
Views: 368 - How Deep Do You Want To Go? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets into self-development, it could be because they have mental and emotional challenges. As a result of this, they can look for a way to change how they experience life. One thing that they can end up being told is that their thoughts create their feelings, which can give them ...
Views: 1172 - How Do I Know If My Higher Self Is Talking To Me? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust under a week ago I wrote an article titled, ‘You Can’t Have Anything Until You Don't Need It.’ I wrote this article after I had looked through, ‘Creating Money: Attracting Abundance’ by Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer. Along with the part of the book that I spoke about in the ...
Views: 971 - How Do You Develop Courage? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was looking through a book called, ‘How to Survive Without Psychotherapy’ by David Smail. From what I read, it was clear that this was someone who was not too keen on the type of approach that is often taken when it comes to mental and emotional problems. He didn’t like the ...
Views: 820 - How To Develop Self-Compassion - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat you may find is that although it is relatively easy for you to be compassionate towards others, it is not as easy for you to be compassionate towards yourself. So if another person makes a mistake, you could offer words of support; but if you were to make a mistake, it could be a very ...
Views: 826 - How To Stay Humble - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was out shopping, I saw an image of a famous athlete with the words “stay humble” written on it. This is someone who is at the top of their game and is known all over the world. It is clear that this person realises how important it is for them to keep their feet on the ...
Views: 936 - How To Stay Humble On The Spiritual Path - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years I have wondered why there are people on this planet who are aware and people who are not aware. More specifically, I have thought about why there are people who are abusive and people who are not. Now, clearly just about everyone acts in ways that are destructive from ...
Views: 975 - How To Take Action And Live Without Regrets - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find is that when they look back on their day or their week, there are a number of things that they wished they had done. They could spend hours wondering why they didn’t do something and beat themselves up in the process. The months are then going to go by and one is not ...
Views: 859 - Human Chameleon: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause You To Be A Human Chameleon? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to be themselves, and while they can adapt, this is not something that always takes place. Not only do they have a sense of themselves, but more importantly, they will feel that it is safe for them to be themselves. At times, they’re going to understand the ...
Views: 1733 - Human Contact: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what has been taking place in recent years, it has meant that a lot of people have been starved of human contact. However, there are those who were in this position before all this was going on. For someone like this, spending time alone and away from others will just be what is ...
Views: 520 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Human Contact With Death? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship, it doesn’t mean that they won’t have ended up pulling away from at least one relationship. In fact, this may have been something that has taken place on more than one occasion. Either way, when this has taken place, ...
Views: 310 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Human Contact? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can be happy spending time by themselves and rarely if ever be or reach out to others. If they are around others, it could be a sign that they are at work or out shopping. ...
Views: 350 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are those who are able to be by themselves and to be with others, there are also those who are unable to relate to this. As a result of this, they are likely to feel uncomfortable around others and they can feel uncomfortable being by themselves. For that reason, their life is ...
Views: 679 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To See Human Contact As A Threat To Their Survival? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it is going to mean that it is important for them to experience human contact. This is something that will have a positive effect on their wellbeing. Nonetheless, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will experience a great deal of ...
Views: 290 - Human Contact: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Human Contact? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time by themselves, having very little interest in being around others. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they might not wonder why they are this way or have the need to change their life. Then ...
Views: 283 - Human Contact: Can Someone Prefer Things Instead Of People If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an interdependent human being and thus needs others, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They could spend a lot of their time by themselves and rarely if ever reach out to others. This could mean that they will have a job or a career that doesn’t involve a lot ...
Views: 365 - Human Contact: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some needs that human beings will need to have fulfilled in order to survive, there are other needs that can go unfulfilled without leading to someone’s death. This is not to say that it won’t have an effect on someone’s wellbeing though. For example: if one doesn’t receive ...
Views: 2080 - Human Doing: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is practically always on the go, it is not going to be difficult for them to find people who believe that they are living in the right way. One can be seen as someone who is taking life by the horns, as opposed to waiting around for things to happen. If one was ...
Views: 487 - Human Doing: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Just Be? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMany societies around the world are full of people who are more or less always on the go. This is how it has been for many, many decades and it is unlikely to change any time soon. When someone lives in this way, they are unlikely to believe that they are living in a way that is not ...
Views: 406 - Human Doing: Can Early Deprivation Turn Someone Into A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt is part of the human experience for someone to spend time asleep and time awake. One way of looking at this would be to say that they will then spend part of their life being and part of their life doing. At the same time, this wouldn’t be completely accurate as there will need to be ...
Views: 314 - Human Doing: Can Someone Act Like A Human Doing If They Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a human being and can, thus, be as well as do, it can be as if they only have the ability to do. They are then going to be more like a human doing than a human being. So, practically from the moment that they wake up until the moment that they go to sleep, they can be ...
Views: 107 - Human Doing: Can Someone Be A Human Doing If They Received Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do ...
Views: 353 - Human Doings: Does Toxic Shame Turn People Into Human Doings? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf an alien came to planet earth and asked someone who they are, one is likely to say that they’re a human being. But without needing an alien to land on the earth, this is the description that one could use. However, although one is a human being, it doesn’t mean that one acts like one. ...
Views: 1652 - Human Touch: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Strong Need For Human Touch? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong need for human contact, it can seem as if they would be aware of it. However, even if they do, this could still be something that they are typically unaware of. What this means, then, is that this need will generally be outside of their conscious awareness. But, while ...
Views: 403 - Humanity: Is Humanity Failing? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to become aware of what is taking place in the world and this is because of how connected the world has become through technology. For instance, one only needs to turn a TV or a computer on or to look at their phone. Here, one will have the chance to consume ...
Views: 3097 - Humans Beings Have Been Conditioned To Be Submissive - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFrom a very young age most of us were taught to respect authority; it started with our parents, then went onto include our teachers, and continued with the people we worked for. There will also have been the government, the media, and there might have even been different religious leaders. ...
Views: 1133 - Humble: Is Being Humble Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone achieves something, they could tell other people about it or they could simply carry on with their life. As a result of this, there is the chance that everyone they know will find out about what has taken place, or there is the chance that no one will. A Closer Look Now, if ...
Views: 1909 - Humour: Do Some People Use Humour As A Defence Mechanism? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that make life easier to handle on this planet, and being able to laugh is one of them. This ability serves a similar purpose to oil; it allows life to flow that little bit easier. Without oil, a machine would soon end up seizing up, but while the world probably ...
Views: 846 - I Believe In You - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperPerhaps you are going through a challenging time right now or maybe your life has been tough for a while. Either way, a big part of you may wonder if you have what it takes to move forward. So even if a small part of you believes that you do have what it takes, this part of you won’t exert ...
Views: 1050 - I Hated Women! - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for the media to blame all men for everything and for all women to be portrayed as innocent victims. This is all part of what is known as ‘identity politics’, where everyone is put into a group and no one is seen as an individual. Someone is then a victim ...
Views: 1646 - I Met A Special A Dog - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out walking the other day, I ended up seeing someone who I usually talk to. Usually, I speak to him outside his house while he is working in his garden but this time he was out walking his dog. The last time I remember seeing the dog was when he was running around a field, ...
Views: 427 - I Now Know Why Customer Services Is So Bad In The UK! - by Submitted on May 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperMany years ago, I went through a stage where I would get really annoyed about how bad the service was when I went into certain places. I couldn’t understand why this was taking place and why something hadn’t been done about it. I thought that this showed that something wasn’t right up top, ...
Views: 877 - I Ran A Half Marathon - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of September, whilst I was out I came across a sign that said there would be a half marathon taking place soon and, on this day, the road would be closed. When I saw the sign, it was just under three days until the race. This event pulled me in and I instantly started to think ...
Views: 423 - I Wanted To Embrace The Swedish Culture! - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I knew that I would be going to Sweden, Stockholm, I started to think about what it would be like. Going away didn’t consume my mind, though, as I was engaged with what was taking place in my life. I wanted to go away, no doubt about it; but I wasn’t in a position where I needed to ...
Views: 1103 - I Watched 'Ready Player One' The Other Night - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFirstly, if you haven’t watched 'Ready Player One' and you plan to watch it, it might be a good idea to read this article at a later date. The reason for this is that I don’t want to give any of the film away or to influence how you perceive it. I had heard about this film a number of years ...
Views: 1170 - I Went On A Hoffman Process Introduction Day - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I ended up hearing about the Hoffman process and I was told that this was a powerful process. This was put forward as something that would allow someone to let go of the patterns in their life that are holding them back. I wanted to find out more about this process, and ...
Views: 1076 - I Went To Sweden For A Few Days - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of March, I ended up going to Stockholm, Sweden for a few days and this was somewhere where I had never been before. As a result of this, I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. Having said that, what I did know is that it was going to be fairly cold and that it was supposed to be ...
Views: 1122 - Idealisation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Idealise Others? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people who are in the public eye, there are others who are behind the scenes. One could be in the public eye because of what they do or it could be because they just wanted to be famous. Therefore, it is something that takes place directly or it is something that takes ...
Views: 1630 - Identification: Can Someone Hold Onto Their Story If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons that someone can look for answers and reach out for support is because they are unable to move forward. What this could mean is that they don’t feel worthy and deserving of having what they desire. There is then going to be where they are and where they want to be, but ...
Views: 354 - Identification: What Is Your Ego Identified With? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are two types of identification that can come to mind when this word is heard. Number One The first is known as a defence mechanism and occurs when one appreciates or values the behaviour of another person. And from that moment, one chooses to follow or express through their ...
Views: 3069 - If We Only Focus On What People Have Achieved, We Will Overlook What They Have Overcome! - by Submitted on May 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of last year, I shared a quote about how someone can overlook what another person has overcome if they only focus on what they have achieved. The main reason I had created this quote was due to how people had responded to me, when I went into what I did in the past. After I ...
Views: 1114 - If You Don’t Face Your Pain, You’ll Take It Out On Someone Else! - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was at school I was friends with someone who wouldn’t put up with being treated badly by others, and this meant that he ended up having a lot of fights. It didn’t even have to get to this point for him to harm someone though, as he would end up doing this even if he thought that they were ...
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