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- Femininity: How Can A Woman Be More Feminine? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was to find that she has the tendency to attract men who are not very masculine and/or if she is tired of trying to make everything happen through force, she may look into what she can do to embrace more of her feminine aspect. Still, having a strong masculine element may have allowed ...
Views: 1159 - Femininity: What Can Happen When A Man Rejects His Feminine Nature? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA lot has been said recently about the attack on masculinity and even about how men in general are being undermined. When it comes to masculinity, it is often made out that men are the only ones who have this element, which is then why men end up being seen as bad. This is, of course, not ...
Views: 930 - Femininity: Why Do Some Women Criticise Women Who Act Feminine? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are men who are more feminine than masculine, there are also women who are more masculine than feminine. Now, if someone believes that men are an expression of the masculine and women are an expression of the feminine, it can be hard for them to understand why this is ...
Views: 1084 - Fifty Shades Of Grey: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThis was a film that I had already heard about due to the book being so popular, and although I did plan to read the book, I didn’t get round to it in the end. However, from what people had said about the book, it sounded like something that I would enjoy writing about. Now that I have ...
Views: 2121 - Fight Instinct: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to both survive and thrive, it will be essential for them to have the ability to stand up for themselves and make it clear when something isn’t acceptable. This will allow them to protect their physical, mental and emotional self. There will be moments when they will need ...
Views: 319 - Fight Instinct: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a source of energy or fuel that exists in each person on this planet, and this can be seen as their fight instinct. Another way of looking at this part of someone would be to say that it is their aggression. In addition to giving them the energy that they need to take action and to ...
Views: 395 - Fight Instinct: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf the word ‘aggression’ is mentioned, it is usually an indication that someone has behaved in an aggressive manner. It could also show that someone is an aggressive person, with them having the tendency to behave in a destructive way. But, although it would be easy to see aggression as ...
Views: 722 - Fight Instinct: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Fight Instinct If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, it will be necessary for someone to relax and recharge, and, at other times, it will be necessary for them to take action and get things done. The fire that is inside them won’t be activated when they are relaxed and it will be when they are not. However, to say that this fire will ...
Views: 283 - Fight Instinct: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where someone lives on this planet, they are going to need to be able to stand their ground and to protect themselves. What this will do is stop them from being walked over by other people. Now, this is not to say that everyone who one will come across will have the desire to harm ...
Views: 1085 - First Chakra: Can Developmental Trauma Mess Up Someone’s First Chakra? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with having a physical body, someone also has an energy body, and this part of them contains seven energy centres. The first one can be found at the bottom of their body, while the last one can be found at the top of their head. When each of these centres is in balance, they are likely ...
Views: 377 - Focus On What You Want, Not On What You Don’t Want - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of weeks ago, I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine called Wain Gordon. This was a time when he spoke about how important it was for us to put our energy into what we want to experience. He said that it is easy to focus on what we don’t want and to completely ...
Views: 925 - Focus: Do You Focus On What You Can't Control? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world it is highly unlikely that one will have trouble finding something to focus on. No matter where they look or where they, there is going to be something to place their attention on. And at times this will mean that their time and energy is being used wisely and at other times, it ...
Views: 1968 - Focus: Does What We Focus On Grow? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that what shows up in their personal reality is the result of random factors and that one is nothing more than an observer, they might end up receiving the approval of the majority of people around them. And this is because the western world generally ...
Views: 1867 - Food: If Something Tastes Good Does It Mean It Is Good? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is no longer necessary for someone to go to another country in order to eat a certain type of food. The only thing they need to do is to go to a populated area and they should soon find what they are looking for. If they don’t, it may be a sign that they need to go somewhere ...
Views: 1612 - Football: Did Cristiano Ronaldo “Cry Like A Little Girl” During The Portugal vs. Slovenia Football Match? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSince the match between Portugal vs. Slovenia in the European football championship, a lot has been said about the emotion that Cristiano Ronaldo expressed after he missed a penalty. Some people have criticised him for crying after he missed a penalty, while others have been supportive. When ...
Views: 298 - Forgive Them For They Know Not What They Do! - by Submitted on May 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring my early years when I was being hit, put down and neglected, I didn’t know what was going on. The people who had brought me into the world were not behaving in a way that showed me I could trust them; they were behaving in a way that showed me I couldn’t trust them. This was not ...
Views: 1055 - Forgiveness Is Important! - by Submitted on May 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was talking to someone who spoke about what a friend of theirs had done in the past and it was clear that they hadn’t been able to move on from what had happened. A number of years had passed since that time, but it was as if it had happened the day before. Hearing about ...
Views: 1268 - Forgiveness: Does Forgiveness Happen Through Force? - by Submitted on May 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is harmed in some way by another person, it has been said that they can hold onto how they feel or they can forgive them. If one holds onto how they feel, it could be said they will continue to suffer. Not only will they have gone through a tough time as a result of the other ...
Views: 1625 - Forgiveness: Does Someone Need To Forgive Themselves In Order To Let Go Of The Past? - by Submitted on May 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been harmed by another person, they could end up being told that they need to forgive them. This could be put forward as the only way for them to truly move on from what has happened. For this to take place, they will need to let go of the ‘negative’ feelings that they have ...
Views: 607 - Free Speech: Are Facts Too Offensive In Today's World? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the need to say something, it doesn’t mean that they will say what is on their mind. And what can define whether or not they speak up is if what they have to say is politically correct. A Risk Now, what they could find is that it is safe for them to express what is on their ...
Views: 1228 - Free Speech: Are People With Emotional Problems Being Used To Control Others? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt seems that there is a not a moment that goes by when someone isn’t offended about something. In fact, it could be said that this has become a competition for some people, and the person who is the most offended is the one who wins the prize. This might not be completely accurate though, ...
Views: 1277 - Free Speech: Do People Need To Be Protected From Other People's Views? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is not as if people have just started sharing their views, there is a difference when it comes to how things used to be. For one thing, the internet has given people a platform to do so. Restricted In the past, someone would have generally shared their views with their friends ...
Views: 1817 - Free Speech: Does Someone Lack Self-Control If They Harm Another Person For What They Believe? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are going to be times when one will come across people who have a similar outlook to them, they are also going to be times when they don’t. When this happens, they could find that someone will have a completely different way of looking at something. Part of Life It could be ...
Views: 1263 - Free Speech: Does The Attack On Free Speech Show How Feminized The Western World Has Become? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile men are a physical expression of the masculine and women are a physical expression of the feminine, it doesn’t mean that each sex only has masculine or feminine traits within them. Now, this is not to say that each person on this planet is made up of half of one side and half of the ...
Views: 1028 - Free Speech: Has The Term 'Hate Speech' Been Created To Silence People? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to share their thoughts about ‘hate speech’, they might have a number of things to say. Firstly, they could say that it has no place in today’s world, which is why it is a good thing that it is banned. The Main Benefit On top of this, they could say that it will be a ...
Views: 1038 - Free Speech: Is Being Offended A Great Way To Control People? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the western world, offending someone is often seen as being as bad, if not worse, than actually causing harm. When someone has this view, words are going to be seen as another form of violence. It will then be necessary to punish a person who has said something that is ‘offensive’, and ...
Views: 1162 - Free Speech: Is It Dangerous For Someone To Think Critically In Today's World? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone goes along with the status quo, it is unlikely that they will have to worry about saying the wrong thing. Through accepting what they have been told by the mainstream media, politicians, and what they have learned whilst they were in the education system, amongst other things, they ...
Views: 971 - Free Speech: Why Are Some Students Full Of Rage? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has watched at least one video of a speaker give a talk at a university, they may have seen a number of students try to silence the speaker. After seeing this, they may have wondered what was going on. This would have been somewhere where people are supposed to go to engage their ...
Views: 1130 - Free Speech: Why Does The 'Silent Majority" Exist? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, there have been a number of surprising results in the political realm, and this is often put down to the fact that there is a ‘silent majority’. At the same time, it wouldn’t be accurate to say that everyone was taken aback by these results. The Difference What this comes ...
Views: 1194 - Free Speech: Why Is The United Kingdom Banning Free Speech? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAs time goes by, it is becoming increasingly difficult for someone to speak their mind in the United Kingdom. Free speech – the ability for someone to share their views – is gradually been curtailed. As a result of this, certain things are now being called ‘hate speech’. But even though free ...
Views: 1165 - Freedom Or Safety: What Would You Choose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAfter recent experiences and awareness’s in my life and also from what is happening it the public domain, I felt it was right to talk about my views and understandings of these two incredibly important areas of life. The Dichotomy On one side we have a great need to feel safe and on the ...
Views: 2526 - Gender Roles: Can Gender Roles Stop People From Growing? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years, men were seen as being one way and women as being another way. And as time has passed, these differences are no longer as extreme as they used to be. But while some things have changed, in regards to what men and women are like, there is still work to be done. This is ...
Views: 1867 - Gender Wars: Has The Time Come For Men And Women To Heal Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the mainstream culture, it is not uncommon for men to be put down and to be seen as the bane of the earth. This doesn’t mean that women are not also seen as the problem, but this could be seen as something that takes place underground, to speak. So, while there are plenty ...
Views: 908 - Giving Up: Is Giving Up Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that one can be told when it comes to being successful, and what they may have heard on more than one occasion is that they should never give up. This could be something they have heard from their finds and/or family, or they may even have heard it from someone ...
Views: 1343 - Gratitude: Is Gratitude Dangerous? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one does something for another and they are grateful, it is going to create a better impression than if they were ungrateful. This response if likely to endear them to the giver and it could mean that the other person is only too happy to offer their hand in the future. And the same ...
Views: 1809 - Gravity: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe trailer to this film really caught my eye and stood out like very few films do. And while some are quiet engaging and interesting, this was gripping and instantly pulled me in. It soon became apparent that George Clooney and Sandra bullock were in the film. After watching it, I mentioned the ...
Views: 2340 - Greatness: Do Only Some People Have Greatness? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are both general and specific ideas and opinions around what greatness is. And what will form these ideas and opinions will be influenced by the age that one lives in, the society they are raised in and what one values themselves. This can range from the current societal models, such ...
Views: 2438 - Greatness: Should Someone Have To Hide Their Greatness In Order To Avoid Offending Others? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be good at something, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable letting other people know. But if this doesn’t relate to what they can do, it could relate to their appearance. In this case, one could feel the need to cover up their body, or to hide their face in some ...
Views: 1358 - Grief: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Grief If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they usually feel, what might become clear is that they often feel low and even depressed. This could be how they have felt for as long as they can remember. There could also be moments when they don’t feel anything, which will give ...
Views: 709 - Grief: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Grief If They Experienced Development Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel down and depressed. If they are not in this shut down state and they are in touch with how they feel, they could typically feel very sad. So, being out of touch with how they feel is not going ...
Views: 458 - Grief: Is Grief A Mental Illness? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs time goes by, more and more normal human experiences are being given labels, and what was part of life at one point in time, ends up being seen as a mental illness at another. For example: if one was experiencing anxiety in the past, they might believe that it is just part of life. It is ...
Views: 1881 - Grief: What Can Happen When Someone Has Grief Trapped In Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAfter one has certain experiences in their life, they are generally going to feel certain emotions. And as we are all emotional beings, this is normal and what is to be expected. But just because this is normal and part of being human, it doesn’t mean that this is what always takes place. ...
Views: 3804 - Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to engage in the grieving process, it could show that they have lost someone in their adult life. Then again, what it could illustrate is that their childhood was a time when their needs were rarely, if ever, met. Consequently, one is going to be grieving a time in their life when ...
Views: 847 - Grieving: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Being Able To Embrace Life? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperExperiencing loss is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that someone will grieve after they have experienced a loss. As a result of this, they can do their best to carry on as normal. Still, this is not to say that they will consciously avoid how they feel as this can be ...
Views: 318 - Grieving: Why Do Some People Try To Stop Others From Grieving? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of things that separate human beings, they are also plenty of things that bring them together. For instance, no matter what someone’s gender is or where they are from on this planet, they are still part of the human race. There are of course many other ways in which ...
Views: 1806 - Grounded: Is Human Touch An Important Part Of Feeling Grounded? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear people say that they feel ungrounded and while this may be a term that is more commonly used amongst people who are into self development, it is something that anyone can experience. It therefore won’t matter if they are into self development or not, as they can still ...
Views: 1878 - Guidance: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Dependent On External Guidance? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find is that it is often difficult for them to know what to do. So, there will be how this affects them each day and the effect it has on their life as a whole. As a result of this, they are likely to have two ways of deciding what it is that they need to do. First, ...
Views: 392 - Guru Worship: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Follow Gurus? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the desire to develop themselves, they can end up getting into self-development. On one hand, this could be something that they only dip their toes into, so to speak, and on the other hand, it could consume their whole life. One Outlook When it comes to the former, it could ...
Views: 1168 - Happiness: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Happy All the Time? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can come across as happy or at the very least, as though everything is fine. Due to this, the people in their life could describe them as a ‘happy person’, and, because of this, they might feel uplifted after they have spent time in their presence. However, while this is ...
Views: 369 - Happiness: Can Money Buy Happiness? - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile money can give someone the power to buy most things in life, it is often said that what it can buy is happiness. It then won’t matter how much money someone has, as the size of their ‘bank account’ won’t make any difference. And while being happy is something that most people want to ...
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