First, let’s get some facts straight. Research shows that more than 80% of us fail at keeping our New Year’s resolutions because we unconsciously set ourselves up for failure. One of the main reasons is, without awareness, we focus on the downside of not achieving their goals. That means we're ... Views: 1135
“In the beginning, it is difficult letting go.
But as you get into the swing of it,
you will feel lighter and fresher and better able to see what you really need.
That is what I imagine spring cleaning is truly about.”
—SUSAN JEFFERS, END THE STRUGGLE AND DANCE WITH LIFE
FYI: (The ... Views: 1133
Communication:
1: A process by which information is exchanged between individuals
through a common system of symbols, signs or behavior.
2. Personal rapport (a relationship characterized by agreement, mutual understanding,
or empathy that makes communication possible or easy.)
-Merriam ... Views: 1113
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it,
then there is no need to worry.
If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying.
There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”
― Dalai Lama XIV
Do any of you recall “duck and cover” from the ... Views: 1106
Without question, your subconscious rules your conscious choices and has its own set of rules.
Rule #1: The subconscious does not think in the traditional sense but reacts out of the brains primitive fight or flight programming.
Rule #2: The subconscious moves us towards what gives ... Views: 1073
Risk taking is a subjective experience. One person’s risk may be another’s hobby. Sometimes risk is forced on you. Your mate of 20 years suddenly demands a divorce, or your job is terminated after thirty years. Imposed risks are often perceived as negative. Sometimes taking a risk involves ... Views: 1051
“Future shock is the shattering stress and disorientation that we
induce in individuals by subjecting them to too much change in too short a time.”
—ALVIN TOFFLER, Future Shock
Since we will always move away from what creates the most pain to what creates the least, the question becomes ... Views: 1050
Each person holds so much power within themselves that needs to be let out.
Sometimes they just need a little nudge,
a little direction, a little support, a little coaching,
and the greatest things can happen.
-Pete Carroll, American football coach
What’s your opinion of peak ... Views: 1009
Risk taking is a subjective experience. One person’s risk may be another’s hobby. Sometimes risk is forced on you. Your mate of 20 years suddenly demands a divorce, or your job is terminated after thirty years. Imposed risks are often perceived as negative. Sometimes taking a risk involves ... Views: 989
Love is the medicine for the sickness of mankind. We can live if we have love.
—DR. KARL MENNINGER, American psychiatrist
Think about the books and poetry you have read, and the movies and television programs you have seen. What force is almost always at work? It’s the struggle to ... Views: 886
Some of us think holding on makes us strong;
but sometimes it is letting go.
-Hermann Hesse, Poet
I strongly suggest you read Part 1 of this series:.
http://www.jamesmapes.com/how-to-let-go-of-the-rope-part-1
FYI: (The Conscious Mind=The Rider; The Unconscious Mind=The ... Views: 878
Please watch is two-minute clip before you read the article: https://youtu.be/JpCrCJL26ic
I define connection as the energy that exists between people
when they feel seen, heard, and valued;
when they can give and receive without judgment;
and when they derive sustenance and strength ... Views: 834
“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”
― Ernest Hemingway
Communication—particularly loving communication—is a two-way street, the second means of setting the stage for it is active listening.
Listening is much more than just sitting still and looking at the ... Views: 833
“Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others, for those voices.
Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth.”
—KATHERINE MANSFIELD, British short-story writer
I invite you to watch this three-minute video on YouTube: ... Views: 828
Study, learn, but guard the original naivete´. It has to be within
you, as desire for drink is within the drunkard or love is within
the lover.
—HENRI MATISSE, French painter
I have always thought that my formal education was a bust. I disliked most of my classes, not because of the ... Views: 775
“Fear makes us stupid!”
-James Mapes
The dictionary defines ‘idiot’ as a stupid person. While the word is not socially acceptable, it serves a purpose here.
Fear and uncertainty are not your friends.
When we are fearful, we catastrophize. Without knowing it, we make a lot of ‘doom & ... Views: 734
Red phosphorus and potassium chlorate are stable chemicals when kept in isolation, but when they are mixed together and shaken, they explode. There is undeniable energy and a transformation takes place.
Quantum Leap Thinking, or QLT, is a collection of ideas, concepts, distinctions, and ... Views: 714
LEARNING CAN BE A LIFETIME PROCESS ONLY
WHEN THE CIRCLE OF LEARNING IS IN CONTINUOUS MOTION.
Kids are fascinated with asking questions, but the question stage is supposed to be part of a process, not an end in itself. Children often get stuck in the question mode. They ask questions and ... Views: 695
“Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me.
A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins,
leading me to a sense of ownership.
Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom.”
– Henry Cloud, American author
Do you set boundaries ... Views: 651
” I love creating partnerships;
I love not having to bear the entire burden of the creative storytelling,
and when I have unions like with George Lucas and Peter Jackson,
it's really great; not only do I benefit, but the project is better for it.”
- Steven Spielberg
We create ... Views: 648
“Always plan ahead. It wasn’t raining when Noah built the ark.”
-Richard C. Cushing, author, “Mission of the Teacher”
While in college working on my master’s degree, my mentor said to me, “James, it’s never enough in life to have a ‘Plan B’.” If you’re going to stay ahead of the ... Views: 625
“When home feels out of control, no matter what the reason,
unsettledness and anxiety can seep in,
and then the chaos becomes internal as well as external.”
—Myquillyn Smith
You can either let the coronavirus destroy your emotional self with mind-numbing fear and inaction or- you ... Views: 551
Fruitcakes in the kitchen
Fruitcakes on the street
Struttin' naked through the crosswalk
In the middle of the week
Half-baked cookies in the oven
Half-baked people on the bus
There's a little bit of fruitcake left in every one of us
-Jimmy Buffett
In my lifetime, I never dreamed we ... Views: 474
“Sometimes the worst place you can be
Is in your own head.”
-Unknown
I feel like a mime lately. All the COVID-19 “air hugs” and using my hands more to be understood makes me feel a bit awkward. I also find myself raising my voice to penetrate the barrier of a mask. And, like many, I ... Views: 463
“Human dignity is the same for all human beings:
when I trample on the dignity of another, I am trampling on my own.”
-Pope Francis
When my book, Quantum Leap Thinking: An Owner’s Guide to the Mind was published in 1996, I hoped most individuals would conclude that we are all connected. I ... Views: 432
If you have always done it that way, it is probably wrong.
—CHARLES KETTERING, inventor of the electric starter for automobiles/
Founder of the S-Kettering Foundation
We are in a time of turbulent change in every area of our lives. The impact on our mental and physical health is ... Views: 383
“You may not control all the events that happen to you,
but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
– Maya Angelou
I’ve been pondering writing this article for some time. What has prevented me is every time I sit down to write, I have an immediate sensation of feeling frustrated which ... Views: 371
“The simple act of paying attention can take you a long way.”
-Keanu Reeves, actor
My suitcase disappeared on one of my trips recently. It just failed to show up. I stood there in the baggage claim area stupidly watching everybody else’s luggage before I finally admitted it was lost and ... Views: 362
When you think of PTSD, (post-traumatic stress disorder) what comes to mind? The most common traumas that lead to PTSD are soldiers returning from war, firefighters, police, and sexual assault victims. Some who suffer divorce or loss of a loved one show signs of PTSD for years. After the ... Views: 339
“Don’t saw off the branch you are sitting on.”
- International Proverb
“Don’t shoot yourself in the foot!” I heard this warning from my grandpa when he addressed my childhood anger issues.
What does it really mean?
Shoot yourself in the foot: “To damage or impede one's own plans, ... Views: 336
Liming:
Caribbean Dictionary:
Referring to the art of doing nothing while sharing food, drink,
conversation and laughter. Chilling or hanging out.
Idle:
American Dictionary
Adjective: Avoiding work or being lazy.
Verb: spend time doing nothing.
Running in idle:
Mapes’ ... Views: 267
In Part #1 of ‘Negative vs. Positive Thinking’, I gave you an overview of the conscious and unconscious mind and a glimpse into positive and negative thinking. Review on link below:
https://www.jamesmapes.com/james-mapes-blog/negative-vs-positive-thinking-part-1/
In Part #2, we are going ... Views: 88
What is the imagination? It’s elusive. Mark Twain said, “You can’t depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.” And, Albert Einstein wrote, “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”
The imagination is like a rambunctious, slightly crazy, ... Views: 0
Without question, your subconscious rules your conscious choices and has its own set of rules.
Rule #1: The subconscious does not think in the traditional sense but reacts out of the brains primitive fight or flight programming.
Rule #2: The subconscious moves us towards what gives ... Views: 0
Without question, your subconscious rules your conscious choices and has its own set of rules.
Rule #1: The subconscious does not think in the traditional sense but reacts out of the brains primitive fight or flight programming.
Rule #2: The subconscious moves us towards what gives ... Views: 0