​True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Express Themselves?

When one has the ability to express what is taking place within them, they will probably be seen as someone who is in tune with themselves. They will be able to share their thoughts and feelings, and being this way will affect every area of their life.

Authentic

Being this way is going to allow them to have relationships that are deeply fulfilling, and this is because they won’t need to wear a mask. If they did, they would need to ignore what is taking place within them.

The people in their life will know who they are and one will then know that these people like them who they are. On the other hand, if one was playing a role, part of them could wonder if these people would stay around if they knew who they were.

A Waste of Energy

Having these thoughts as well as wearing a mask would take away a lot of their energy, energy that could be used elsewhere. Thus, through not being this way, they will be able to use this energy more constructively.

It can be directed towards their relationships and their career, among other things. Ultimately, the more energy they have, the easier it will be for them to achieve whatever they want to achieve.

On A Mission

For example, one could work for somewhere else or they could be self-employed, and they might have a fairly normal job or they could do something that is a bit different. But regardless of who they work for or what they do, they will need to have the drive to get things done.

And if they were doing something to please other people, it could be a lot harder for them to find the drive that they need. Each day of their life would be like a means to an end and this would make it harder for them to be present.

One Step Back

Alternatively, one could be at the beginning of their life and this could mean that they are studying, or they may have gone back to college/university. Either way, they could feel as though this is what they need to do and that they are on the right track.

If they were to look ahead, they may see that there is a lot that they have to do before they are ready to go to the next stage, yet this might not faze them. What they are doing will be in alignment with their needs and this will make it easier.

Another Benefit

Standing their ground is likely to be something that they don’t struggle with, thereby allowing them to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ when they need to. This will reduce their chances of being walked over by others and agreeing to do things that they don’t really want to do.

If they are walked over by someone, it will then be the exception as opposed to the rule. Naturally, this is going to save then a lot of drama and it will cause other people to respect them.

Emotional State

When someone experiences life in this way, they are likely to feel as though they have control over their life. This will allow them to feel empowered, with this having a positive effect on their wellbeing.

Still, this doesn’t mean that they will never feel down or angry, or that their life will always go as they want it to; what it means that this won’t be how they are used to experiencing life. If one of their friends was to share their thoughts on what they are like, they could say that they have high self-esteem.

The Most Important Thing

Based on this, having high self-esteem is going to be the key to living life in this way. Therefore, if someone finds it hard to express themselves, it will be vital for them to work on their self-esteem.

Once this has been topped up, so to speak, they will be able to listen what is taking place within them and to allow this information to influence their life. Yet, even if this was to take place, it doesn’t mean that their life would totally change.

Another Problem

The reason for this is that if someone doesn’t feel as though it is safe enough for them to assert themselves, it might not matter how they feel about themselves. What this comes down to is that their need to feel safe is far more important than anything else.

But once they feel safe enough to express themselves, everything else should fall into place. If someone doesn’t feel safe enough to express themselves, it is going to be necessary for them to look into why this is.

What’s going on?

There is the chance that there was a time in their life when they felt overwhelmed and as though their life was at risk. This could be how they felt in their adult life, or it could go back to how they felt as a child.

If they have experienced life in this way for as long as they can remember, it could be a sign that they were abused during their early years. These experiences would have caused them to believe that is wasn’t safe for them to exist.

Awareness

In addition to what they would have come to believe, there would have also been the effect that these experiences had on their body and mind. The years will have passed but they will still be carrying trauma and beliefs that don’t serve them.
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If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist or a healer.