I remember watching Cheryl Richardson tell Oprah that women must start putting themselves at the top of their own priority list. Even above the needs of their children. I also remember watching the audience; perhaps for the first time ever, boo a guest of Oprah’s.

Now this was about ten years ago and while many women have begun to see the importance of self-care and putting their needs ahead of others, most women still have not gotten the message.

We hear heart-breaking stories of women being so stretched beyond their means that they forget their children in the car, ON the car, at school or daycare. Just this past weekend a woman speeding to get to her son’s baseball game hit me in my car. She was so rushed and distracted that she neglected to slow down at the yield sign and the impact was such, that she spun my SUV 180 degrees!

When she got out of her car and came over to mine apologizing and telling me where she was going, I could see her unraveling right before my eyes. All I could think was that she needed to tend to HER needs so she could better handle the needs of her son.

Even the airlines tell you, place YOUR mask on FIRST then tend to others. If you don’t have oxygen, you can’t help your children. If you don’t have space to breathe, to care for your Self, to refuel your tank, what do you have to give your kids?

I’ll tell you what. You have a short fuse that lacks patience, understanding, compassion and generosity. You CANNOT give these things to others if you have none for your self. You gain energy and strength by filling your emotional tank with self-care and self-nurturing.

Not only that, what kind of example are you setting for your kids? You’re teaching them that everyone in their life is more important then they are. You are teaching them that their needs can only be met once everyone else’s are. You are the model that your children are learning from.

You can tell them till you’re blue in the face that they are important, but what you are SHOWING them is something completely different.

When you neglect your Self you are neglecting your child’s caregiver.

Would you ever dream of treating your child’s teacher the way you treat your Self? Knowing that they are overtired, stressed out, malnourished and overworked? If you knew that about her teacher wouldn’t you find a different teacher who is healthy, calm, at peace and full of generosity for your child?

Why are you any different?

Your Assignment

This is a quick and simple strategy to begin the process of putting your Self a little higher on your priority list.

Pick one day during the week, if you make it the same day it will be easier to make a habit. Let’s say you choose Monday’s. Every Monday you do ONE THING for you.

How do you decide what that one thing is?You ask your Self.

Start with a few deep breaths. Close your eyes and place your hands over your heart. Connect to that space around your heart and when you feel relaxed and connected ask of that heart space: ‘what do I need right now?’

Now comes the important part. Listen. Do whatever your heart tells you. This is your Inner Wisdom speaking to you. It knows what’s best for you and what will serve you in every moment.

Make this commitment to your Self and your kids.Take better care of their mom, so their mom can take better care of them.

I’d love to hear about your experience with this.Please share your comments below.

Author's Bio: 

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Aimee Yawnick has been mentoring women to make personal growth and development a priority for over 15 years. First, in the Health and Fitness Industry, now as a Personal Life Coach. With proven tools and systems Aimee helps her clients move swiftly and smoothly from a life of just ging through the motions and merely existing to being an active participant and living life to the fullest!
If you are a highly motivated and results-oriented woman who understands the value of developing your SELF, and you are ready to accelerate your personal growth in order to play a BIGGER GAME in your personal and professional life, contact Aimee today.