Empower yourself by learning the technique of effective eye contact
To begin with, ask yourself one question, “What is the function of your eyes?” For me, the 2 inbuilt eyes from birth are intended to be used far more than the daily routine and inert viewing of objects, people and happenings around us. They play an important and vital role in effective communication process and rapport building with your prospect.

As a guideline, you should maintain eye contact with the other party 2/3 of the whole communication process. But it does not mean that you look at her eyes for 20 minutes, and then turn away for 10 minutes. The correct way is to keep in contact for 7 seconds and then away for 3 seconds, and etc.

Eye contact doesn’t mean staring into the person’s eye, but instead it is being described as a contact in the “eye-nose” triangle. What is the “eye-nose” triangle? It is an imaginary triangle from the 2 eyes to the nose of a person (See illustration). This is the area that you should concentrate 65-70% of eye contact. Should you sense any discomfort or resistance from the other person; you will have to reduce the percentage of contact.
Eyes are an interesting part of the human body. As the saying goes, “Eyes are the windows of one’s soul”, you can see the inner feeling through this gateway. For example, when a person comes across someone or something very appealing to them, their pupil size will naturally grows significantly larger. This is one of the body language that is being controlled by our sub-conscious that cannot be hidden or faked.

A few powerful predictor examples of eye contact are namely:

1. Enlargement of the pupils indicates that the person you can engage in shown interest in what you are saying or in you.

2. If a person is blinking far faster than they normally do, this show anxiety and annoying feeling of this person, it might indicate the person is actually lying.

3. If you are engaged in a conversation with someone and their eyes are easily distracted by the surrounding environment, this indicates that you have not earned the interest of your listener. Remember this, if you are in a conversation with someone and your eye is consistently looking around the surrounding, it is being perceived as a rude action, so be careful where your eye is looking.

The eyes have it all

By simply looking into a person’s eye, you can easily tell what the person is experiencing at the moment, like happiness, surprise, disgust, fear, anger and sadness or even mixture of the mentioned.

Be self empowered by paying attention to the eyes and we can learn a lot of things about the prospect, this will in turn lead to success in communicating and building rapport with her.

Author's Bio: 

“Succeed does not come to you, you have to go to it” Using this philosophy, I decided to create this self help website to push myself to achieve self empowerment and also to motivate all of my friends out there who are reading and staying with me throughout this empowering journey.

More about me…
I am born in the island of Millionaires, guess where? It is Singapore, just a little tiny ret dot in the world but had achieved incredible results in a short 30 years with the highest percentage of millionaires here. Do you want to be a Millionaire? “Of course!” is the reply of most people but how many people can achieve it? You might be telling yourself that all these millionaires are either born with a silver spoon in their month with wealthy parents or just that they are very lucky to be successful. “How lucky they are? How I wish I have what they I have?”

I can tell you here, “You are wrong!” How do you define luck? For me, I will define luck as “LUCK = OPPORTUNITY + ACTION”. So I will always bear this in mind and getting prepared for the opportunity and take massive action when it arises. This will be the mindset of the millionaire.

For me, I might not be a millionaire now, but working progressively towards this goal. “Dream big and take baby steps” is my strategy. My ultimate goal is to achieve personal growth and financial growth. With this strong desire in mind, I am taking action every day to empower myself to change my mindset from a victim to winner one.

Remember this in mind, “You will never FAIL unless you QUIT”.

Do join me in this enriching journey and empower yourself to achieve anything you want in life.