in a previous article I explained, carefully, how women are actually easy to understand, using the Age/Fertility/Role model with it's 3 interlocking cycles.
Today I thought I'd expound on the first cycle
The Age Cycle, consists of the phases;
From birth woman are designed to; Survive, Seduce, Select, Satisfy, and Sanitise in that order, within the Age Cycle.
Pre-puberty, girls have little going for them as far as physical seduction charms and body lures offer.
So pre-puberty is a vital time to inculcate the skills of psychological warfare woman will need once they have the weapons of mass seduction bestowed.
Young girls are physiologically superior to young boys. Their legs are longer, they mature faster and they can match a boy punch for punch on the playground. This ensures survival at a physical level. After puberty when develop cumbersome breasts, converging femurs, reflex angled elbows and reduced upper body musculature. They have to have the psychological elements already entrenched for survival.
Thus pre-teen girls focus on developing acute observation skills, bitchiness, pack hunting mentality and control strategies. They learn a lot of this from their mothers or older peer models. Watch them in the parking lots; the kids that is.
They are forever forming alliances, honing verbal skills, information gathering(gossiping), and testing emotional games like pout, bitch, sulk, whine, ignore and a myriad of other strategies on any available boy, including brothers and fathers.
Once puberty is reached girls develop physical stimuli which fortunately for them are already pre-loaded into men. Their body proportions change.
Legs grow faster accentuating physical maturity
Breast develop as buttock mimicry and a suggestion of baby nurturing possibilities.
Upper body musculature slows, reinforcing the need for protection
Hips widen and femurs converge, advertising the larger buttocks with an alluring wiggle.
Fortunately for woman, men are programmed to instinctively respond to this, otherwise they'd just lead trouble free lives, dreaming of faster cars and free beer.
With this potent physical cocktail added to the previous psychological stage the young woman is ready to go out and select and conquer a mate.
Selecting future genetic material is a challenging task and woman need to determine through trial and error which particular male will impregnate them and then stick around to protect and provide for the offspring.
This means practice and girls routinely break 15.4 hearts testing their subjects before settling on one. Because Men have large egos, making them easy to seduce, a girls job is to get close enough to determine good genetic structure (nice teeth), hereditary warnings, (family madness) and a high certainty of domination and compliance. This is done through dating, which has three function.
Firstly she will get a sense of the genetic strength of the possible mate as above.
She can test if she will tolerate the mate for an indeterminable future.
She will test her ability to annoy him and yet keep him, as this is the ultimate test; how far can he be abused and controlled before he breaks? If only men understood this they could relax and be less perplexed and even join in the game with little surprises and games of their own.
If he passes the selection test, she will focus on satisfying, with ritual role playing of housewife, mother, nurturer comforter and ally. Ironically this phase is possibly the least satisfactory when trying to keep the relationship together. Marriage is a social custom, designed to hold the pair together and make it difficult to separate, and to endorse and confirm roles. Even with this elaborate structure, most marriages fail. If the marriage survives, babies, teens etc, the final sanitizing phase is reached.
In this phase the couple above come to accept their roles in society, their relationship and the world and get on with it the best they can. Intuitively they understand the model and realise what they have done, being liberated from guilt and doubt and conformity. They learn to be themselves and become less demanding of their partners and themselves and actually start to enjoy life.
George Forder is a writer and trainer from South Africa.
He blogs stories, dreams and counsel at www.zanclus.blogspot.com and lives
at www.spindrift.co.za. His chief interests are the human conditions and helping people solve problems in a practical, self-empowered way. Challenge him;he'll appreciate it.