Many people have heard of the law of attraction and have tried to use it to make their dreams come true. And many people, including myself, had spectacular success with this technique. Unfortunately, for many people this method does not seem to work and they become discouraged and even cynical.

What is the missing link that clarifies the law of attraction ?

In my experience of working with this law for 25 years the most important point is to work onlywith wishes that will definitely bring happiness. We probably all had the experience when we really wanted something only to find that it didn’t suit us once we got it. There is no point wasting time and energy on these kinds of dreams.

So, what are these wishes that will always bring genuine happiness? The answer is – only wishes that contain altruistic love for others will make us happy in the long-term, as well. For example, if we wish for a soulmate and focus only on ourselves and our partner there will be a great risk of picking the wrong person. But if we focus on how we want to benefit the whole world through the love and happiness we will generate in our relationship our personal happiness will be an almost guaranteed by-product.

The missing link of the law of attraction is the skill of bringing altruistic love into all of our wishes. For example, if we want to buy a house we can focus on all the people who will be happy there and if we want to lose weight we can focus on how we will teach our weight-loss secret to all our friends.

Why is altruistic love so important?

Manifesting our dreams by using the power of our mind only works if we can clear out our unconscious mind from all our deep-seated resistance. Doing this is not easy because our unconscious mind is simply not accessible for most of us. However, if we pursue our personal wishes with an altruistic motivation we will automatically clear out our unconscious mind of all our hidden blocks that would otherwise sabotage our manifesting practice. Let me explain:

Unconscious guilt-feelings

One of the biggest barriers to manifesting our dreams are unconscious guilt-feelings. And as long as these feelings are not thoroughly dealt with our wish cannot manifest. Being loving and altruistic is one of the easiest ways to let go of this unconscious guilt and feel more deserving. It works because everybody feels more deserving if they are motivated by love. On the other hand, no amount of affirmations and ‘trying’ to feel more deserving can replace an altruistic motivation because these methods simply cannot reach into our unconscious mind.

Craving and greed

The second biggest barrier to manifesting our dreams is craving and greed. Every time we succumb to frustration and depression when we do not get what we want fast enough we weaken our wish-power. But if we can combine our wishes with a genuine altruistic motivation we will experience much less craving. And that, in turn, will make us much more successful in attracting people who will help us, ‘lucky’ opportunities and finally the manifestation of our aim.

Working for our wish

There are a few more common stumbling blocks that many people experience when they are trying to make their dreams come true. Some peoples’ biggest obstacle is failing to work in an organised and effective way for their wish. Unfortunately, it is usually not enough to visualise and make powerful declarations. We have to go out and do what common sense dictates, as well. No matter how much we trust our intuition we also need to be rational and hard-working.


Another major obstacle is resentment. It may seem puzzling but if we hold grudges against only one single person it will stand in the way of manifesting our dreams. Grudges and other strong negative emotions need to be removed before we can become successful with the law of attraction. Yet again, pursuing our dreams with a loving motivation will help us to overcome this obstacle, as well.


Yet another typical stumbling block is dealing with set-backs. Sadly, many people are quick to believe that their wish ‘it is not meant to be’ once they encounter a few major set-backs. Unfortunately, they don’t realise that it is they themselves who are in charge about what is meant to be or not. If we delegate our power to any other force other than ourselves we will greatly weaken our creative strength.

Waiting time

The last problem I want to discuss is the waiting time. Our wishes are like seeds and there is a natural time lag between sowing the seeds and germination. Unfortunately, we often don’t appreciate this cycle and succumb to feelings of frustration and hopelessness if we can’t get what we want fast enough. Luckily, the more successes we have with manifesting the easier it will be to be patient because our confidence and trust will grow with each fulfilled dream.

By having a loving motivation we can overcome or lessen all of these problems and barriers – even on the level of our unconscious mind – and manifest the most spectacular dreams. I wish you the best of luck

Author's Bio: 

Tara Springett holds an M.A. in Education and is a fully qualified psychotherapist. She has post-graduate qualifications in gestalt therapy, body awareness therapy and transpersonal therapy. She has worked as a drugs counselor, counselor for adolescents and general psychotherapist since 1988.
Tara has been a dedicated Buddhist practitioner since 1986. In 1997 she received encouragement from her Buddhist teacher to teach others. Tara has since taught on-going meditation groups and combines Buddhist wisdom and her experience in counseling when assisting her clients with their personal growth, self development & improvement.
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