The Key to True Success in Life

My advice for achieving true success in life is, do not worry about achieving apparent success and avoiding apparent failure. Worry is an expression of fear, which anticipates and attracts bad results. Worry is an attempt to control situations, which only backfires and makes matters worse, because life is a flow of energy that cannot really be controlled, and it flows best when we flow with it, and do not move against it. We are staying in harmony with the flow of life, or being, when we just try to do the best that we can with the task at hand, and then leaving the apparent outcome, or results, up to life, God, Spirit, or a Higher Power. Worry often produces loss of sleep, tiredness, and tension. That tension, or lack of relaxation, will lessen one’s ability to be open to new insights and intuitions that can help one to be more successful in any kind of endeavor. Worry reflects an expectation of failure, which makes it more likely to occur, whereas when there is no worry, then there is no fear, no tension, and, therefore, no blockage of spiritual energy and intuitive insights flowing into oneself, enabling one to be more successful in any task that one is doing. Performing one’s efforts with strain and struggle is an oppositional process that wastes productive energy and blocks the flow of productive new opportunities, insights, and harmonious energies that could otherwise lead to success. As has been suggested by other bloggers and inspirational/transformational public speakers, we should view ourselves as having already accomplished whatever goals we are trying to achieve, like viewing a golf ball as having already arrived in the golf hole (already reached the target, already at the goal) even before we launch the golf ball with the golf stick. The expectation of success makes it more likely to happen, whereas the expectation of failure also makes it more likely to happen. However, we should not try to control the outcome of our work, because sometimes what seems like failure is actually a productive success, and sometimes what seems like a big success is actually a failure, by moving us further in the wrong direction, away from our true destiny and best interests. What that means is, sometimes God/life does not let us achieve our intended goals because it may need to move us in a different direction, to accomplish something else that is much better and really necessary for our continued development and well being, but which might be impeded if we were able to achieve our own current goals. God, or Life, has a Greater Wisdom that is sometimes far beyond our own presumptive views of what success and failure involve. That is what is meant by the wise old adage, "Man makes plans, but God (or Life) has His own (plans)."

Author's Bio: 

I am an inspirational teacher, writer, and life coach. My insights have come through heartfelt, genuinely caring, empathic attunement to the energy-experience of myself and other individuals. I have a PhD and extensive teaching experience in interdisciplinary, multicultural, fields of study focusing on World Religions, Spirituality, Transformational Psychology, History, Humanities, and Great Ideas. In earth years, I was born in January 1958, but my spirit is truly ageless and everlasting.

In my writing, life coaching/mentoring and dialogues with other people, I like to explore how meaningful insight and substantive transformation, in any aspect of one's life, field of endeavor, or sector of society, can be enhanced through a process of heartfelt loving empathic communion with other individuals, the world of nature, one's own creative media of expression, or any other activity or situation, as a process of non-dualistic attunement to the momentary experiential truth of oneself and others. I am particularly interested in how openness to rewarding new possibilities can be evoked by a process of loving empathic attunement to the truth of the moment, arising within oneself, or between oneself and others. In the books that I am currently writing, I also discuss how caring human relationships, involving good interpersonal communication, can contribute to the progressive transformation and revitalization of individuals, groups, creative arts, global cultures, and contemporary society. Relatedly, I have a strong interest in contributing to a greater sense of caring community and ethical responsibility, locally and globally, grounded in a sense of compassionate empathic relatedness-of-being and interdependence between all people, and all living beings, as well as between all areas of inquiry and aspects of reality.