If a certain area of one’s life is not going very well, they could end up focusing on what is going on externally. Through doing this, they could come up with a number of reasons as to why it is this way.

Let’s say that their relationships are not very fulfilling, with this being an area of their life that has been this way for quite some time. One could think about how they have been treated by others over the years and how they continue to be treated.

On The Surface

If they were to think about how their life can change, at least two things could come to mind. Firstly, they could think about changing their visage in some way, and secondly, they could think about how their ‘luck’ needs to change.

So, although they will look into what they can do to change their life, they won’t look very deeply. And, the fact that they need their luck to change will show that they believe that someone or something ‘out there’ is in control of their life.

A Universal Outlook

It might not just stop there, though, as one could be this way when it comes to most, if not all, areas of their life. Their primary focus will be on the external world and this means that this world will have a lot of control over them.

They may even believe that they need to manipulate others and life itself in order to achieve what they want to achieve. To be this way is likely to result in a lot of struggle and strain, and they could often feel down and deflated.

Wasted Energy

Due to the experiences that they have had over the years, one could also be filled with a lot of anger and rage. This will be because they will believe that they have so often been taken advantage of and let down.

One can then carry a lot of resentment and often imagine getting their own back on certain people. It is then not going to a surprise if they have a victim mentality; it can be them against the world.

A Strong Sense of Entitlement

As a result of what they have been through and continue to go through, they can believe that the world owes them things. This can be seen as payment for all the misery that they have had to go through.

Consequently, they could try to get as much as they can whenever they get the chance and basically take what doesn’t belong to them. This will be rationalised in their mind as a way for them to balance things out.

The Law of Resonance

Taking all this into account, someone like this is likely to carry a lot of ‘negative’ energy. Thanks to the ‘negative’ energy that they carry, they are literally going to be a magnet for situations, circumstances and events that are in alignment with this energy.

The reason for this is that they will be resonating at a certain frequency and this frequency will attract things to them that are a match. Therefore, their life is likely to get even worse as time goes by.

A Downward Spiral

At this point in time, they could mainly have relationship and work problems but, as time passes, they could end up with serious health problems too. If this does happen, it could pretty much be business as usual.

Once again, what is going on could be put down to something that is out of their control and thus, there will be no need for them to make any changes. With this approach, their health is unlikely to improve and could get far worse.

What’s going on?

What stands out here is that they find it hard to take a step back and to reflect; perhaps they simply can’t do this. If they were to do this, it would give them the chance to see that they are not merely an observer of their life and that they are actually playing a part in what takes place.

This would allow them to change their life and it would stop them seeing other people as the problem. Having the ability to reflect on how their outer world is mirroring back what is taking place inner world (their conscious and unconscious mind) will direct them back to their inherent power and put them back in the driver’s seat of their own life.

The Big Question

Assuming that they do possess this ability but simply choose not to use it, it could show that they are carrying a lot of toxic shame and self-hate. As they feel so bad about themselves, it will be extremely painful for them to take responsibility for anything.

If they were to acknowledge that they have played a part in something, they could end up feeling very low. It is then not going to be possible for them to accept something, to be kind and supportive to themselves and then to see what they can do about it.

Emotionally Underdeveloped

What this can illustrate is that they don’t have a strong sense of self. Instead of having a strong core, they can have a false self that is built on sand; with this being something that has been partly developed to enable them to avoid facing how they truly feel.

Being primarily focused on the external world is generally going to allow them to avoid what is going on internally. Further, keeping their focus on what is going on around them will serve as a defence against coming into contact with their own pain and ‘darkness’.


If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or healer.

Author's Bio: 

Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, five hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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