Nowadays, it is not uncommon for people to read books on self development, and while they can be looking for ways to change what is taking place within them; they might be looking for ways to become more successful. There is also the chance that they are looking to improve a number of areas of their life.

Along with this, they might watch videos and go on different courses, and if they get tired of reading books, they could listen to audio books instead. This shows how accessible information is in today world.

Dipping In

When one starts to look for answers, it might not be long until their life starts to improve. Once they start to see the results that they are looking for, they might decide to take a step back, and to carry on with the rest of their life.

If they were to experience an inner or an outer challenge in the future, they could soon get back into it. In this case, self development is not going to become a part of their life; it will simply be something they look into at certain times.

A Way of Life

Alternatively, one could find what they need and instead of taking a step back soon after; they could continue to look for answers. This could be because they have more challenges to work through and/or it could also be a sign that it has become way of life.

When it is who they are as opposed to something they do, it is not going to be possible for them to dip in and out. It could then be said that they are committed to gaining a better understanding of themselves, and that they want to continually improve their life.


If one is in this position, there is a strong chance they will spend time with people who have the same outlook. Through being around these people, it will give one the chance to share what they have learnt, and for them to be inspired.

Whereas if the people they spent their time with were not into self development, they may have to deny this part of themselves when they are around them. Instead of being inspired by the company they keep, they could end up feeling discouraged.


It can then be easier for one to grow, and through sharing their views with others, it will give them the chance to see if there is another way of looking at something. After sharing something, they might find that someone else has the same outlook, or they may find that they have a different outlook.

One can then listen to what they have to say and decide if it would be a good idea for them to change their perspective. They are there to support each other, and if one finds it hard to stay motivated, they can also help them with this.

Different Outlooks

If one has read a number of different books, for instance, they may have come across a number of different outlooks. One can then identify with one outlook, or they can take the time to reflect on what they have read and come to their own conclusion.

Having said that, there is also the chance that one could continually find that people have the same outlook, and this could then cause them to believe that there is only one approach. One could then try this approach and find that their life improves, or they could find that their life doesn’t change at all.

Going Down the Wrong Path

When one’s life does improve, it will be a sign that they have come across the right information, and it then won’t be a problem. They are not going to be wasting their time, energy, or money, and it could be said that they are on the right track, so to speak.

However, if one’s life doesn’t improve, it could be a sign that they have come across the wrong information. But because so many people have the same outlook, it could be a challenge for them to realise that they need to try another approach.


This could then cause one to believe that there is something wrong with them, and this could then suffer unnecessarily. Even though one approach will work for some people, it doesn’t mean it will work for everyone.

What this comes down to is that human beings are not all the same; if they were, ‘a one size fits all’ approach would work. When one can step back and see when something isn’t working, they can use their energy to find something that will.

A Common Outlook

If one suffers from anxiety, feels down, attracts the wrong type of people and/or has obsessive thoughts, for instance, they could end up being told that it’s ‘all in their mind’. Therefore, in order for one to change what is taking place within them or who they attract into their life, it will be important for them to look at what is taking place in their mind.

Through changing what is taking place, it should allow them to change how they experience life. While this approach may work, it might not, and this is because the body also plays a part.

The Body

When one struggles with anxiety, it could be a sign that they don’t feel safe in their body, and this can mean that they are carrying trauma. If one feels down, it could mean that they are carrying trapped grief in their chest area.

If one continually attracts the wrong of type of people, it may mean that one is carry trauma and/or has some emotional processing to do. When one has obsessive thoughts, it could be sign that they have an emotional build-up.

Going Deeper

What this shows is that what is taking place in one’s body can influence their mind, as well as their life. Yet all the time the body is overlooked, it can cause one to look for answers in a place where they can’t be found.

Along with this, one can also take on what their caregivers and ancestors were unable to deal with, and this is done out of loyalty. As a result of this, the cause of their problems are not going to be found in their mind, and neither are they going to be found in their body.


When one is carry trauma and/or has and emotional build-up, they can be assisted by a therapist/and or a support group. If on the other hand, they are carrying what doesn’t belong to them, they may need to have a family constellation.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over eight hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include "A Dialogue With The Heart" and "Communication Made Easy."

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