If one was to take their car to a garage, it could be due to a number of reasons. On one hand, it could be due to something minor, and on the other hand, it could be due to something major.

However, regardless of why they have taken their car there, the main thing is that they have taken it. As a result of this, it will be possible for them to get the assistance that they need in order to carry on with their life.

Another Area

This is then similar to how one can get into self-development because one area of their life isn’t going how they would like it to go, or because every area of their life needs to change. But as they have come to realise this, it will enable them to do something about it, and this can then be a time where they will reach out for support.

One may believe that they need to go and see someone, or they might decide to see what they can do to start off with. Nevertheless, the main thing is that they are taking action and are not simply putting up with how their life is.

Carrying On

The alternative would be for one to suffer in silence and to act as though there is nothing wrong with their life. This can then stop other people from finding out about what is taking place for them, and there may also be moments when one disconnects from what is taking place.

At the same time, one could be in a position where they are surrounded by people who are not happy with how their life is and instead of looking for answers, they could come together and blame others. One is then held back by these people and they play a part in holding them back.

One First Step

The sooner one takes the first step, the sooner their life will start to change, and this will also allow them to build momentum. In the beginning it might be hard for them to get started, but if they keep going it will gradually get easier.

And as there is so much help available in today’s world, it might not take long for one to start finding what they need. The first thing one might do is to go onto a search engine and to type in a question.

One Place

It won’t matter what it is that they want to work on, as they will receive the answers they are looking for as long as they ask the right question. But even if this doesn’t take place, they could still find what they are looking for.

This could be a time where one will read an article, or they could end up watching a video. One has then got the ball moving, so to speak, and this will give them the opportunity to see what route they need to take.

A Common Area

When one’s life is not going as they would like it to go, it could be because they are not as confident as they would like to be. In this case, one could end up looking for ways to increase their self-esteem.

Or if this is a term that one is not aware of, it might not be long until they start to understand what it is all about. This primarily comes down to the fact that when one doesn’t feel comfortable with themselves or when they put up with dysfunctional relationships, for instance, it is often said that they lack self-esteem.


Therefore, this is something that will need to change if one wants to change their life. The work that they need to put in to do this will then be worth it, and there will be a number of ways for one to do this.

One may be told that they can increase their self-esteem through thinking differently; and this can be a time where one will need to make sure they have positive thoughts. Along with this, they can use affirmations; and one can use these throughout the day or a few times a day.


After a while, one may start to notice that they begin to feel different, and that their behaviour has also changed. It will then have been possible for them to change their life through adding things as opposed to taking anything away.

The whole approach would have been relatively pain free and this could be seen as the ideal scenario. Still, while one may have gone from having low self-esteem to having high self-esteem, there is also the chance that they have gone from one extreme to another.

The Opposite

At the start one may have felt as though they were less-than others and as time has passed, they can end up feeling more-than others. Through adding positive thoughts and affirmations, it simply allowed them to cover up what was taking place at a deeper level.

One way of looking at it would be to say that they have gone from feeling shameful to feeling shameless. But unless one works through how they feel at a deeper level, it is not going to be possible for them to have a healthy sense of their own value.


When this takes place, one is likely to experience a lot of pain, and this is why this is a process that is often overlooked. It is human nature to seek pleasure and to avoid pain, and so the last thing that one can want to do is to face themselves.

What these techniques and methods do is create the illusion that one can change themselves without having to experience pain. It is then not that one is getting in touch with their true-self through using them; it is that they are simply decorating their false-self.


If one wants to develop a healthy sense of their own value, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support, and this can be provided by a therapist. During this time, one can be processing emotional pain that is trapped in their body, amongst other things.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, author and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over nine hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include "A Dialogue With The Heart" and "Communication Made Easy."

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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