Why the Nice biscuits are nice? I do not know if you think they are nice. Anyhow, there could be several reasons for them to be nice :

They are sweet
They are inexpensive
They are available
Some has brought them for you
Being a child, your mother used to offer them to you
Your friend likes them
You eat them for your stomach need
You think they are light
You think they are different in shape
You think they taste different
You think your mother likes them
You got them as a reward
There are thousand reasons that one can quote for liking the Nice Biscuits or liking anything in this world. Similarly, there could be several reasons for disliking the same phenomena.

Each one in the Universe keeps his/her own logic or understanding for selecting something, liking someone, or for being with someone. We all have diverse perceptions of the same thing and more interestingly, we keep on changing our perceptions of the same things with time, new experiences, age and in different scenarios.

In the same context, we often does not understand the fact behind our choices. You might love someone for the reason totally opposite to what other person holds for you. When we encounter an argument, it is due to our different perspectives about the same source of information. Both believe in love at first sight but the definition of the ‘love at first sight’ would be totally different for each one. Therefore, it would not be wrong to say that both partners while following the same obvious beliefs, keeps altogether different values and concepts to carry out in action. Here, I am consciously neglecting the soul mates and their choices in life.

For some, the contradiction among beliefs is not worth mentioning and for others it is impossible to ignore such differences. For the second type, I would love to recommend consulting one of the psychotherapists as figures would multiply soon to a dangerous level. There must be some secret in the beliefs of your partner that is not matching with your secret belief system. If the disparity is stronger than your will power then it is not going to improve by any psychotherapy. If the variation is tolerable and you think it is not that wide, then you both can work on it to bring your love life back on track.

To conclude, before engaging with our beloved ones, we must examine the belief system of other person deeply from all relevant possible angles and compare it with our own belief system in detail. It is worth doing and not wasting the time and better than wasting two lives and their coming generations.

Author's Bio: 

Mona Aeysha, PhD, is an Educational and Developmental Psychologist, have been working as a Teacher, Counselor and Researcher in several institutes of China, Pakistan and Cambodia. Her major areas of interest are: self –esteem, self-concept, conceptual psychology, belief psychology, self psychology, preferential psychology, cultural psychology and women psychology.
You are always welcome to contact her via email if you have any query in this regard.
Dr Mona