As more people try internet matching services, online dating safety becomes more and more of an issue. According to television advertisements many people are meeting their sole mates through these services. Whether these matches are truly life long, of course, remains to be seen.

If I were to be looking for a romantic interest on line I would not go to a chat room for this. In a chat room we can be anyone we want and so can the guys. If his picture looks suspiciously like the one that came with the last picture frame you bought- it might be the best representation of him (who knows, maybe it is).

For the most effective online dating safety use a member site that employs a double-blind system for your identity protection. Do not give out any of your personal information. If you are being pressured to provide it before you are ready, cut all communication.

If background checks are not routinely completed at enrollment then it's up to you to find out as much as possible by asking questions and searching the internet. A photo or better yet, several photos will be helpful to you in forming your gut feeling, and as you know I'm a big supporter of the gut feeling. If you only get excuses as to why a photo can't be provided, you've got to wonder what he's hiding.

Is he too good to be true? Probably is! Look for inconsistencies. Do you think he's lying? Probably is! Trust your instincts!

Before you meet in person, talk on the phone, without revealing your own phone number. Does this sound like the person you've been corresponding to online or someone totally different?

Even if you do make arrangements to meet off line- you have the right to change your mind. Perhaps after your conversation that little nagging doubt turns into a big bad feeling? Cancel the meeting! You are not obligated in any way to meet in person.

If you do decide to meet in person, let your friends and or family know your specific plans. Give them his name and phone number. Arrange to call them afterward.

Drive yourself to and from the location. Do not let him pick you up in his car. During the meeting watch for any passive-aggressive behaviors. Link to intuition.

Listen for any inconsistencies from your online communications.

If you have never provided him with your phone number or address at this point it will be a lot easier to break off the relationship at this point than if you had provided it to him- only to find out he has obsessive behaviors.

To read more about online dating safety please visit: SelfDefense-4-Women.com/CyberSafety

Author's Bio: 

Su Ericksen is a first degree TaeKwonDo black belt and has taught self defense workshops. She lives in the Midwest with her family and works at a large medical center in the cardiology clinic. You may contact her through her website: Self Defense-4-Women.com