Relationships: Can Someone End Up Being Dependent On Others If Their Adult Self Is Undeveloped?

If someone was to end up feeling upset, they may find that another part of them is there to soothe this part of them. Or, if they were to feel a bit deflated and low on motivation, another part of them may offer them support and encouragement.

It might then sound as though they have multiple personalities and are not an integrated human being. Even so, this will show that the different parts within them are working together – like one big happy family.

Inner Parents

So, when one part of them is not in a good way, another part of them will be there for this part of them. One part of them will be like a child and the other part of them will be like a parent.

Whether the child part of them needs motherly lovely or fatherly support will all depend on how this part feels. Yet, no matter what the child/emotional part of them needs, the adult part of them will on hand to give it to them.

Interdependent

Through being this way, they won’t always need other people to be there for them when they have an inner dip. If what they are going through is too much for them to handle, they will most likely reach out.

Being this way will mean that they will put less pressure on others, and this is bound to have a positive effect on their relationships. The people in their life are unlikely to be overwhelmed by their needs and to see them as needy.

An Individual

Their friends and even their partner, if they have one, are not always going to be by their side, so being able to be there for themselves in this way is going to be highly beneficial. For example, if something doesn’t go well at work and this affects them, their adult self will be there.

This part of them will give them whatever support that they need, and it may only be a matter of time before they are in good place again. One way of looking at this would be to say that one will be working with themselves, allowing them to be their own best friend.

Early Years

If one was to take a step back and to think about how long their life has been this way for, they may find that it as though it has always been this way. It may even seem as though they were born this way.

Nonetheless, the reason their life is this way is likely to be due to how they were brought up. They were then not simply born this way; they are this way because they received the right care.

The Ideal Scenario

Undoubtedly, when someone experiences life in this way they are going to be very resourceful. They will have a good connection with inner strength and love, or their inner masculine and inner feminine.

If they are not seen as ‘successful’, it might not be long until they are seen as being this way. Unfortunately, not everyone on this planet experiences life in this way, and this is likely to mean that their life is a lot harder.
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A Different Experience

When someone like this feels upset, another part of them probably won’t be there to sooth them. Or, if they feel deflated and low on motivation, another part of them probably won’t be there to offer them support or encouragement either.

Unlike the person above, another part of them is not going to be there to look after the child/emotional part of them that is not in a good way. The only way that they will be able to get back on their feet, so to speak, will be to reach out to others.

Dependent

Another option would be for them to eat or drink something, which might not serve them in the long-run. The people in their life can then serve as surrogate parents, with them providing the mothering and fathering that they can’t give to themselves.

Being round these people is going to feel good, but it is likely to be a challenge for them to enjoy their own company. And, if they are in a relationship, this person could also be more like their parent than their equal.

Self-Neglect

As they are unable to handle the pain that is within them, it could normal for them to do what they can to please others. But, while behaving in this way will most likely cause them to ignore their true-self, it will stop them from having to handle their inner world by themselves.

Still, this doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of the fact that they see other people as parental figures as this is likely to be something that is taking place unconsciously. Either way, until they develop the ability to mother and father themselves, it will be difficult for them to express who they are and to act like an individual.

In The Beginning

Their early years are unlikely to have been very nurturing; this may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected. This could mean that the emotional part of their being is not in a good way.

What took place will be in the past, but the pain that they experienced will still be held in their body. With so much pain in their body, it is no wonder than something fairly insignificant can have a big effect on how they feel.

Awareness

If someone can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.