In this short life, we always crave for things- sometimes for wealth, sometimes for health, and sometimes for relationships. We strive for successes, fame, and popularity. Our ultimate goal is our happiness and satisfaction to a large level.

What we need to understand is that our time is the most precious thing in our life. Although we feel happy when we earn a lot, when we enjoy health, when we love someone etc, but our quality time that we spend (alone or with someone) is the most beautiful thing in this world to remember and to cherish again and again.

If you are very rich and healthy person who has a lot of friends and relatives to meet with, and at the same time, you are not enjoying a quality time then it means all of your treasures are not going to contribute in making you a real happy man or women. On the other side, if you are a poor person, not so much healthy from medical point of view and keeping a normal social life, even then you enjoy a quality time with you or with someone you like, then you are the lucky enough as you are getting the real pleasure in life that each of us normally strive for. And you will get fuel by recalling these feelings throughout your life. Your soul will surly rest in peace out of such quality time.
Although there are countless factors that affect our quality time, but those factors are not prerequisite. Some people among us can spend a quality time alone or in company even without any possible assumption that we think is essential for a quality time.

Moreover a perfect quality time is always in our range and does not depend on any particular thing. We can best analyze how we can spend a perfect quality time. There is no body to tell us what quality time is for us.

Of course, a good health, average wealth and average relationships contribute in having quality time, but again these factors are not prerequisite for a quality time. We can even pass some quality time in our dreams but those dreams are not in our hand. Otherwise, quality time would have become much easier to spend.

There are many examples in this regard. Children always spend quality time with their mothers when they are being cuddled and pampered. Couples spend quality time together while doing little warm ups and chat. Friends spend quality time when they enjoy something together. Workers can spend quality time when they are at work by having chat with their co-workers. Basically we all follow the same routine works but a very few of us spend the same time luxuriously –quality time.

There is only a difference of perception between one who spends time while doing everyday tasks with the feelings of burden, responsibility or order and the one doing same tasks with love, care and regard. The same job for one is heaven and for the other one is hell. The same matter, for one is life and for other is death. The same program on T.V. for one is quality time and for other is passing time. The same hobby for one is only routine and for other is passion. The same dress, for one is the need and for other is source of self-esteem. The same article for one is not so good, for other is life giving thoughts and quality as well. The same life for one is a combination of different emotions and events and for other a struggle for self actualization and self satisfaction with true feelings of ecstasy and quality.

To conclude, if you want to achieve a real happiness and pleasure in your life, please do not search it outside your heart. It will not come out of huge cash, grand property, perfect healthy recipes, and perfect relationships rather it is inside you. You can get your ecstasy feelings either by serving humanity for the sake of goodness, or through any kind of meditation in which you are lost and found. There is no limit on the ways, you could find yourself to have a real quality time in your life and that is all you need. Don’t you!

Author's Bio: 

Mona Aeysha, PhD, is an Educational and Developmental Psychologist, have been working as a Teacher, Counselor and Researcher in several institutes of China, Pakistan and Cambodia. Her major areas of interest are: self –esteem, self-concept, conceptual psychology, belief psychology, self psychology, preferential psychology, cultural psychology and women psychology.
You are always welcome to contact her via email if you have any query in this regard.
Dr Mona