If someone was given the option of experiencing extreme joy or extreme sadness, there is the chance that they would go for the former. It feels good to feel good; whereas it feels bad to feel bad.

Based on this, it could be said that it is easy to see why someone would want to feel good all the time. Experiencing life in this way will have a positive effect on their wellbeing and it will allow them to spread ‘positive vibes’ wherever they go.

One Outlook

Life could be seen as being too short to feel sad and down, and that this doesn’t do any good. Along with this, they could say that if they allow themselves to be consumed by negativity, they will end up experiencing more of the same.

One is then going to be aware of the ‘law of attraction’ and they are not going to want to send anything bad out into the universe. There are going to be plenty of books out here that will support what they believe.

A Battle

Still, even though one can prefer to feel good over what they see as the alternative, it doesn’t mean that one will always be able to experience life in this way. What they may find is that there are times when it is incredibly difficult for them to experience positive feelings.

During these moments of their life, it could be as though they are in the middle of the ocean, trying to keep their head above the water. The difference is that they won’t be trying to keep their head above the water; they will be trying to keep their head above negative feelings.

Out of Nowhere

When this takes place, it may appear as though they are experiencing negative feelings for no apparent reason. There are then going to be other times when they are aware of why they feel low.

For example, a loved one may have passed on and this can be a time when they feel wiped out. Yet, they may do their best to make sure that their negative feelings don’t weigh them down for too long.

A Justification

They could believe that this person wouldn’t want them to be sad now that they are gone, with this being another reason why they should do what they can to be positive. There are then going to be things that take place externally and internally that have an impact on their emotional state.

What they may do, to make it easier for them to be positive, is to cut their ties with anyone who is negative. Cutting out any negative information may be another thing that they do try to stay upbeat.

One Big Struggle

It is not going to be a surprise if they often end up feeling incredibly drained and burnt out from time to time, due to how much effort they out into trying to stay positive. There could even be moments when they just can’t do it anymore and end up being consumed by negative feelings.

This doesn’t mean that they will try another approach, though, as they could just get back on their feet and dust themselves off. Even so, the same thing will probably end up taking place again in a little while.

What is going on?

One way of looking at this would be to say that there are bound to be moments in their life when they fall off the positivity horse, so to speak, and need to get back on again. The key will be for them to not get attached to their negative feelings and to reconnect to their positive feelings as soon as they can.

Another way of looking at all this would be to say that it is a way of being that is not built on firm foundations. This is the plane of duality after all, which is why it is not possible to completely remove one side of the emotional spectrum.

The power of Contrast

Not only this, it is through having the ability to experience ‘negative’ feelings that one is able to appreciate experiencing ‘positive’ feelings. If they were stuck in an endless state of positivity, it would no longer have the same impact on them – they would almost certainly become bored and numb.

Therefore, being able to experience both sides of the emotional spectrum gives life meaning and depth. The big question is: why would someone have the need to feel good practically all the time?


What this can show is that the reason one needs to be positive all the time is due to the fact that they can’t handle their negative emotions. What this means, then, is that being positive is a defence that their mind utilizes to avoid the pain in their body.

And the reason that they are carrying so much emotional pain could be because they are carrying trauma. No matter how many positive thoughts or feelings that they have or how much positivity they surround themselves with, it is highly unlikely that this pain will simply disappear.

Diving In

The pain that is in within their body will need to be worked through and, as this takes place, they may find that they don’t have the same need to be positive. The reason for this is that they will become more balanced within, allowing them to be with how they feel.

One will then see that they are more than both their positive and their negative feelings. They will start to find their centre, no longer being tossed around like a small boat on the ocean.


Taking this into account, if one wants to operate as a whole human being and no longer wants to disconnect from their body, it will be essential for them to heal their pain. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Author's Bio: 

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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