What is right and what is wrong, we all know about it. What is truth and what is lie, we all know about it. Usually we get the message to speak truth and to be right. We internalize the idea that we need to be right and trust worthy. This principle is not very simple indeed. For most of the time, we think we are right in speaking truth but actually we are telling a lie.

The first example is our media that depicts all good features of items in advertisements. The media people think they are convincing others by telling them the real facts. But unfortunately they do not tell others what these products could not justify. The weaknesses, shortcomings and drawbacks are always hidden behind a tricky, attractive, and a grand portrait. It is all a kind of cheating in itself. Sometimes, we are caught innocently and get the wrong thing due to super marketing strategies.

The second example of not telling the truth is our overly nice or overly rude behavior. When we are too good, we think we are right in justifying our politeness whereas we are telling a lie to us and others. We create an environment that causes confusion and misunderstanding. When we are too rude, we think, we are justifying our anger properly whereas we are wrong. We are telling a lie to us and others as they could get the wrong message and react in a different way based on their observation. So in both ways, too rude and too nice, we are not telling the truth – we are liars.

The third example is our silence. In some places, our telling a truth becomes very essential. So we need to talk about things as are required. If we keep on ignoring such situations, we are actually telling a lie. Our truth is what we need to do in an event – not our silence. Yes, sometimes our silence is our ‘the truth’.

Thus true feelings matter a lot but the feelings that propel us towards cheating could not be ignored. We need to analyze it when we face a situation where we could not justify with our truthfulness. We need to know if we are giving wrong signals to others in justifying our truthfulness. We have to understand when we are angry, that anger is our truth. We need to realize when we could not speak truth properly, we are liars. We have to judge our feelings truly and do accordingly.

It does not mean we behave aggressively because we feel like that. There is a delicate line between truth and false truth. When we control on our emotions to stop ourselves from hurting others, we convey the same feelings to others. When we hide our anger for some strange purpose, we are liars. So we have to decide which action is desirable and true among many false truths. Therefore not to tell a lie does not always mean that you are telling the truth.

Author's Bio: 

Mona Aeysha, PhD, is an Educational and Developmental Psychologist, have been working as a Teacher, Counselor and Researcher in several institutes of China, Pakistan and Cambodia. Her major areas of interest are: self –esteem, self-concept, conceptual psychology, belief psychology, self psychology, preferential psychology, cultural psychology and women psychology.
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Dr Mona