NEVER ENDING LOVE – the best spousal love

Make marriage a paradise – here’s how.

MARITAL UNIVERSE
When you marry you get more than a spouse – you actually get a whole world.

THE BLESSINGS OF MARRIAGE
Partner, companion and best friend are the three top blessings you get when you marry.

SHARING YOUR LIFE
Joys and sorrows, successes and failures, dreams and fears – all moments big and small are there for sharing. Joys, successes and dreams will be sweeter for the share. Failure, fear and sorrow are soothed and solved when shared.

CARING
When you are not AI health wise, your spouse is there to assist you. When you wake up in the morning – the first thing you will see are her/him. You will either be together or if not together then she/he will be thinking of the other – When you go to bed – the last thing you will see are your spouse's eyes and the first thing in the morning you will see are your spouse’s eyes. When you are asleep you will see your spouse in your dreams. She will be your whole world and you will be her whole world!

THE CLOSENESS OF SPOUSES
“They are your garments and you are their garments.” (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187).

Spouses are just like garments for each other because just like garments – spouses provide one another with the protection, comfort, cover, support and the adornment that garments provide for humans.

WONDERFUL WORLD
Love, affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquility are some of the best blessings.

THE REASON FOR THE CREATION OF MATES
“And Allah has made for you Mates and Companions of your own nature." (Surah Al Nahl 16:72)

"And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Al Rum 30:21)

THE REALITY OF THE HUMAN HEART
With time we may have a change of heart. Love may wither away. The marital bond must be cared for otherwise it might weaken.

NEVER TAKE ANYTHING FOR GRANTED
Happiness in marriage can never be taken for granted. Constant giving from both sides is needed to maintain happiness. There is a tree of marital happiness and to keep the tree growing the soil needs to be sustained, maintained, watered and nurtured.

THE LIFE OF PROPHET MUHAMMAD (PBUH)
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) found the time to go out into the desert and race with his wife Aisha. He also took his wife to watch the Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances.

EMOTIONAL INPUT AND REWARD
Showing one’s emotions is necessary to keep the marital bond fresh and reinvigorated. "One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife" (Prophet Muhammad).

LITTLE TO LARGE THINGS
Little things are as important as big things. Putting food in your spouse’s mouth may seem a small thing but these are the gestures of love and oil and beautify the love. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride a camel.

WAYS TO STRENGTHEN THE BONDS
Pray together. Always be good to your spouse by words and deeds. Talk, smile, seek advice, spend quality time together.

THE BEST SPOUSE
"The best of you are those who are best to their wives," said Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).

WHEN LOVE IS ENOUGH, WHEN LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH
The vow of loving and honoring your spouse needs to be reinforced. You need to love what your spouse loves too (or at least have some things in common). Your family, her/his loved ones should become your loved ones too.

NEVER ENDING LOVE
It is not enough to love until death do you part. Love should never end. In life after death, those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses. (Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70).

THE PROPHET’S LOVE FOR KHADIJA
Khadija was the Prophet’s wife for 25 years. His love extended to all those she loved. This continued after her death. He never forgot her and whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send part of it to Khadija’s family. Further whenever he felt that the visitor at the door might be Khadija’s sister Hala, he would pray saying, “O Allah, let it be Hala.”