Married sex can the best sex of your life because you are making love to your soul mate and not just any person. Let's face it, sex is very important in any marital relationship. As newlyweds, we may crave sex because of the physical pleasure that it brings us, but as you progress through the years in your marriage you may find that making love is more emotionally fulfilling than anything else.

Sex is a physical act that anyone can can enjoy, but making love is so much more than that. It creates an emotional and spiritual bond between you and your spouse that takes your love to the deepest level. It is one of the major steps in creating a marriage between two soul mates and not just two people.

Numerous studies over the years have shown that married couples who have sex frequently are more likely to have a long successful marriage compared to those couples who do not have sex very often. Obviously, this proves the point that married sex plays a vital role in having a solid marriage. So what are you waiting for? Get in that bedroom, or where ever enjoy making love, and express that love for your mate.

Okay, it might not be quite that easy for some of you. You may have some emotional baggage that you need to deal with either with your mate or within yourself. Let's see if we can help you work through some of these issues to improve your married sex life.

Sometimes the loss of intimacy and loss of those feelings of love and passion can be rekindled by going back to the basics. That might mean taking your spouse on a date and re-establishing those non-sexual feelings of love again. Dating your spouse might seem a bit unusual for couples who have been married a long time, but it is amazing how quickly two married partners are able to reconnect with those lost emotions. Once those emotions return married sex can become just as magical as it was in the first days after your wedding.

Just like in the early days of your relationship, romance is the key to keeping those passionate feelings alive and well in your marriage. Romance requires understanding your mate's non-sexual wants and needs. What makes them feel most loved? Is it an intimate love letter? A tender massage? Quiet talking time with them? Or some combination of all of this?

Romancing your mate is the ultimate seduction for a successful married sex life. The more you give to your mate what they want and need outside the bedroom, the more you will receive sexually. Be creative and have fun with this part of your relationship; you may want to challenge yourself to see how many different ways you can romance your mate, but be warned you may find you will be getting more sex than ever and you may need the little blue pill to keep up. Alright, that may be an exaggeration, but you can never show your mate enough love and attention.

Now let's talk about some important differences between men and women in what turns them on sexually. It is critical that you understand what turns on the opposite sex, specifically your spouse. Ladies, men are very visual. If you want to get them all hot and bothered then bring out the sexy lingerie, the bright red lipstick and strike that passionate pose. There is nothing that gets a man turned on more than bright colors, sexy clothing and a gorgeous woman, his wife, passionately pursuing him. Remember, he is visual creature so show him what you have to offer.

Also ladies, your husband loves when you are the sexually aggressive one from time-to-time. When they only get sex when they ask for it or when they make the first move, they begin to feel less fulfillment in their married sex life. They become more vulnerable to sexual flirting from the cutie at work or the neighborhood bar. Don't let this happen by taking a few simple acts of sexual aggression toward your mate. A man absolutely loves for his wife to be seductive and sexy, so bring it on ladies.

Gentlemen, your wife is very different than you when it comes to firing up the passion. Women tend to be very verbal. They want to hear how beautiful they are and how much you love them. You have to express your feelings out loud and let her hear those sweet nothings. They also want to be touched gently before the "main event" begins. Give your wife a soothing, sensual massage, then you can almost guarantee yourself a wild night of married sexual fun and fulfillment.

Your married sex life does not have to become boring or almost non-existent. Instead, it can be just as hot and steamy as it was in the newlywed days when you could never get enough of each other. Be attentive to your spouse's needs and you will find your sexual wants and desires will be fulfilled too.

Author's Bio: 

Debbie Schaefer, publisher of, the Marriage advice blog and information resource for couples looking for practical advice on how to improve the quality of their marriage and to have a healthy, Happy Marriage with their Soul Mate I want want a Happier Marriage with my Soul Mate now!