Today, more and more people in all the different parts of the world are looking for the right partner with whom they can “live happily ever after”. Many people succeed and many others find it difficult to find the right person. But who is the right person? According to Don Miguel Ruiz, “The right woman, the right man is someone who wants to go in the same direction as you do, someone who is compatible with your views and your values-- emotionally, physically, economically, spiritually.” Some of the common reasons why people do not succeed in manifesting their ideal relationships are negative attitudes and beliefs. If you believe that you will never attract the perfect partner or that the ideal partner does not exist, you will never manifest the right partner in your life. What you believe is what you receive. It has been found that your relationships account for 85% of your overall happiness. This means that a happy relationship can literally change your life!

You can use the law of attraction to attract your ideal partner. This powerful law states that you attract into your life, whatever you give your energy, attention and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted. Since your thought is energy, by holding certain thoughts and vibrating a certain way, you become a magnet and attract to you people vibrating at more or less the same frequency. Deepak Chopra was perfectly right when he said “However good or bad you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the "right" person, because he or she is the mirror of who you are inside.” If you are vibrating at a level of 85, it is very likely that you would attract people vibrating in a range of 80 to 90 and very unlikely that you would attract people vibrating at a level of 10.

If you want to attract your ideal relationship, you must become a “vibrational match” to the person you want to share your life with. In fact, you do not get what you want but instead you get what you vibrate. The vibrations that you emit can be either positive or negative and the law of attraction will always respond to the vibration that you are sending out by giving you more of the same. If you are a very positive person, you will be emitting a positive vibration and you will be surrounded by positive people. If on the other hand, you are a person who is always angry, fearful, jealous, etc, you will be sending out negative vibrations as a result of which you will tend to attract more and more negative people, situations and experiences into your life.

If you want to attract your ideal partner, you have to see what you are currently attracting in this particular area of your life and what vibration you are emitting. If you are not attracting the relationship you want, you will have to be very clear about what you want in your ideal relationship. Clarity is of utmost importance. Most of the time, it is very difficult to know exactly what you want in an ideal partner. One of the best ways to become clear is to make a list of qualities and characteristics that you do not like in your existing or previous relationships. Once you have made your list, you can proceed by making the list of characteristics that you do want in an ideal partner. The things that you want are the opposite of the things that you do not want. For example, you can replace “I do not want a quarrelsome relationship” by “I want a harmonious relationship”, “I do not want a selfish partner” by “I want a generous partner”, etc.

Once you have become very clear about what you want in your ideal mate, you can continue with the next step which is to become a “vibrational match” to the ideal partner you want to attract. How do you become a “vibrational match” to the ideal partner you want to attract? Well, suppose in your list you want to attract a loving and caring partner. If you, yourself are not caring and loving, it will be difficult for you to attract a loving and caring person. According to the law of attraction, you attract what you vibrate. You must therefore start raising your vibration to become loving and caring. It is only then that you can attract what you want into your life. Stephen R. Covey said “The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.”

Once you have become clear about what you want and you have raised your vibration to attract your ideal partner, the last step is to allow your ideal partner to come to you. Allowing is the absence of doubt. If you have a strong desire to attract your ideal mate but at the same time, you have strong doubts, you will never be able to attract what you want because you will be sending mixed signals in the universe. If on the other hand, you have a strong desire and some doubt, you will attract our ideal mate, but it will take a little longer. The best formula for rapid manifestation of your ideal relationship is when you have a strong desire and no doubt at all.

By using all the different steps of the law of attraction in the right way, you will deliberately attract your ideal partner into your life. Always follow the wise advice given by Russ Von Hoelscher “Don't rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.”

Author's Bio: 

Priya Deelchand is a Corporate Trainer, Life and Business Coach and Founder of Success Strategies Consultants Ltd. She conducts several workshops on motivation, emotional intelligence, success principles, management and leadership skills. She also coaches and helps people worldwide in both English and French using Law of Attraction, Emotional Freedom Techniques and other powerful techniques. Please visit us at or call us on +230 7580695.