MAGIC NOW! - THE 5 KEY STRATEGIES FOR CREATING A LASTING LOVING RELATIONSHIP
Written by Andrea J Moses, M.S.W.
Creating a lasting loving relationship requires that you are clear in your mind of what that looks like. You have the power to create the exact relationship you desire if you do the right things to make it happen.
The 5 Strategies for Creating a Lasting Relationship will help you move in the direction you desire. Read these affirmations daily, and you will find your beliefs and thoughts will start expanding to create the basis of a lasting, loving relationship.
1.I VALIDATE MY WORTHINESS TO BE IN A LOVING RELATIONSHIP
Finding the right partner and creating a lasting loving relationship result from my belief that I am worthy of love, acceptance, and validation exactly as I am.
I am a kind and loving person. As the innocent child I was, I deserved to be loved, given to, valued, and honored. As well, I deserved to be safe, protected, and helped at all times.
Today as the strong powerful adult I Am, I choose to be loved, given to, valued, and honored. I expect my partner, my family, and my friends to be committed to my well-being and happiness fully and unconditionally exactly as I am. I return this same commitment.
I know I am worthy of being in a loving relationship. I have everything I need to create the love and happiness I desire.
2. I COMMIT TO MANIFESTING MY VISION OF A LASTING LOVING RELATIONSHIP
I now openly state my Vision – to be in a lasting loving relationship. I bring my Vision into reality by initiating new opportunities and creating new realities. I open my mind, recognizing and acting upon the infinite possibilities, the magical opportunities, and the abundance that surround me.
I bring my Vision into reality by clarifying and reviewing the qualities of my ideal partner. In this way, I will seek a partner who I have a lot in common with, rather, than a partner whom I will try unsuccessfully to change.
I work on developing the positive qualities in myself which I seek so that my partner will become a mirror of my best self rather than a person I rely on to fill in the gaps in my own life.
Whether or not I am in a loving relationship, I look for opportunities to be kind and caring to the people I I I I I meet on a daily basis. In this way, I build my capacity to become increasingly giving and loving.
3. I PROBLEM SOLVE & MAKE NEW DECISIONS
When I experience an unhappy relationship, I review what didn't work: Did I misjudge the person? Did I have an emotional blind spot? If so, what was it? Did I do something which I later regretted? After analyzing the situation, I make definite decisions about what I want to do differently next time.
When unhappy mirrors show up in my life, I accept that it is my subconscious beliefs, feelings, and negative experiences from the past which are being reflected in the unhappy situations I am faced with. I hereby commit to resolving my source issues so that I am free to create the loving relationship I desire.
I now know that there is a solution to every problemï¾every problem can be solved. If what I have committed to doesn’t lead to my feeling happy, I acknowledge what isn’t working, and I do something differently.
4. I HONOR MY HIGHEST GOOD / I SPEAK MY TRUTH
Today, as the strong powerful adult I Am, I now negotiate to ensure equality and respect in all my relationships. When I am being disrespected, I speak my truth openly and courageously. I challenge derogatory comments, negation of my feelings, denial of my perceptions, and imposed blame for unhappy outcomes. As well, I reject arrangements that negate my best interests.
When there’s direct conflict, I address the source issues, I listen, I assert my feeling-needs, I ask for what I want, I say no, and I negotiate a win/win whereby my needs are honored, and I am equally happy with the outcome.
On an ongoing basis, I acknowledge signs of negative change, and the actions of others that indicate “bad faith” and disinterest in my well-being. When I notice a person has no interest in my happiness and well-being, I accept that it’s time to leave.
5. I BUILD MY CONFIDENCE THROUGH MASTERY
I feel increasingly confident every day as I focus on my own worth and my goodness. I build my confidence by honoring my well-being and asserting my truth.
I feel proud of my ongoing progress which is based on believing in myself and my worthiness to be in a lasting, loving relationship. I have unlimited potential, help is always available to me, and I intend to manifest the lasting loving relationship I desire.
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Andrea J. Moses, M.S.W. received her M.S.W. degree from the University of British Columbia. Andrea is a Toronto-based psychotherapist and relationship counselor who has been working with individuals and couples for past 30 years. Andrea is the published author of Transform Your Life Now, Big-Time Change, Emotional Rescue, and Choices.
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