How would it feel if you packed you and your life into a suitcase and attempted to live out of this confined space? How restricted would the energy flow be in there? This is what happens when you choose to identify with being an ego instead of a soul incarnate, you choose to live in the fear farm.

All human actions are motivated at their deepest level by one of two emotions – fear or love. There are only two emotions – only two words in the language of the soul. Fear is the energy which contracts, closes down, draws in, runs, hides, hoards and harms. Love is the energy which expands, opens up, sends out, stays, reveals, shares and heals. Every choice you ever make, arises out of one of the only two possible thoughts: a thought of love or a thought of fear. You cannot feel fear and love at the same time. It is always going to be one or the other.

Everything is about love because that is the underlying motive energy, the life force of this universe, even if you see it as a negative expression, it is actually driven by love. For example, anger is about love of power and control. When you feel that you’re losing control you get angry. So it’s actually love which is the motivator.

You, as a soul incarnate, are a concentrated point of this love, like an infinitely expanding crystal that has the capacity to stretch out into eternity. Your true essence is eternal, which means it has unlimited energy, abundance and connects to everyone and everything on the planet, the universe and beyond. It lives on to see another day when your body dies, and it looks upon this event like trading in an old car for a new one. It has woven itself through many incarnations and is expressed through your heart as love.

When you are connected to your source power, your heart sings with joy and you are aligned with your puzzle piece, whether you are the best street sweeper in town or the head of the country you reside in. You love being here, engaging in life on planet earth, and you love everything you are doing in your life. Work becomes something you do because you love to do it, not just because you need to pay bills. When you choose to express love you are expressing yourself from an infinitely expanding space of oneness. It’s a bit like identifying with being part of the ocean instead of staking out your space as a droplet of water. You have a heightened sense of awareness and presence and you feel safe and secure.

Then you have your personality or ego, this is the vehicle you use to express yourself, in this incarnation. It is temporal in nature and only as old as this life, it is a mere baby in the scheme of things. The negative ego is the sum of all fear based programming, resonating in your energy system, an expression of emotional and mental imbalances. It can manifest as fear, self-sabotage, denial, avoidance, resistance, doubt, criticism and judgement etc. It is something you create and a choice you make in each and every moment. The negative ego does not have access to infinite supplies of source energy, instead it runs parasitically off your psyche. It is always on guard ensuring that you keep feeding it energy, knowing that the second you start to focus on love instead of fear its batteries start to run flat, eventually ceasing its existence. It doesn’t like going down without a fight. It is never going to want you to tap back into your source energy, because that means at any given moment you have the power to pull the plug, causing it to die. Fear has caked itself like mud all over your love and stops you from shining. You have then trapped yourself in your negative ego.

When you choose not to love yourself, you are choosing to live in fear. So you squash into this very small, constricting and limiting space, losing most of who you are, again the suitcase phenomena. This is why you feel so contracted when you are in fear, all your muscles tense up and you can’t feel energy flowing around the body. You can never feel safe in this space at any time because there is only a finite supply of energy. You perpetuate more fear because in any given moment you run the risk of the energy supply being switched off. You cut yourself off from the oneness of life, the unlimited potential, your own inner guidance, intuition and inspiration. You then get used to this existence and forget that this isn’t who you truly are.

You think that if you contract and close down you won’t be able to feel your negative emotions and pain, and this is faulty thinking. Not feeling what you feel brings pain into your life, physically and emotionally, because you are squashed into a confined space with no room to breathe or move about.

The natural state of energy is to flow. To stop this flow of energy, which is what happens when you confine yourself to the parameters of your negative ego, you have to apply force which takes up a lot of horsepower. Your life will feel like a struggle because energy is unable to flow freely through your energy matrix.

When you are holed up in the fear farm, too frightened to peak your head out from behind the clouds and see the sunlight, you have chosen to play small, to forget your true identity, to ignore the mission you chose to fulfil before you incarnated. You are either frightened of the success that awaits you or the potential failure that could result if you jumped out of your suitcase and stretched yourself out. This isn’t living. It’s the comfort zone people fall into where they never feel much joy, never feel too down and never feel much of anything really, but they think they feel safe, when in reality this is an illusion. So what choice are you making?

Some less obvious indications that you might be living out of your suitcase are:

• Being busy, being busy so you haven’t got time to feel
• Being a couch potato
• If you don’t love yourself, if you feel low self-worth and self esteem
• Dependency on other people/groups/organisations
• If you find yourself looking outside for validation
• Drug and alcohol misuse
• Smoking – when one loves oneself one cannot also choose to inhale smoke.
• Eating disorders – overeating to fill the empty hole that you feel within, undereating because of not feeling worthy enough to nourish yourself
• Dysfunctional relationships
• Workaholism – attempting to prove worth by working really hard
• Critical of self
• Physical problems – accidents, disease and sickness, the attack energy is turned inwards
Addiction to being perfect, to being the best or the worst
• When you cut yourself off from feeling your feelings, whether good or bad
• You don’t feel that there is unlimited abundance in the universe
• You spend a lot of time in your head going over and over stuff and not much time in your heart.
• You get a sense of holding yourself back
• If you don’t feel at one with everyone
• Tension in the body etc
• Feelings of superiority and inferiority

To find your way out of your suitcase you can start by asking, “What would love do now?” and follow your heart, not your fear. An easy way to tell whether you are in fear or love is to ask yourself “Am I expanding or contracting?” “Am I giving or holding onto?” “Am I opening or closing?”

You need to be able to fully embrace whatever appears in your consciousness instead of running away from it. This is achievable if you allow yourself to directly experience the emotion instead of pushing it away out of sight, in the hope that it will disappear.

Love springs eternal. By choosing love instead of fear you will extinguish the negative ego and surrender to unconditional love. In these modern times you have access to all the tools you need to clear yourself of fear and crank your heart up till it’s jumping with joy. It’s just a matter of making the decision, calling in courage, and then systematically going about this most liberating task.

Author's Bio: 

Jenny Parker is a student of the world. She has had many adventures as a student of life in her quest to find the beauty of self, from riding across the Nullabor (the stark, treeless plain between Perth and Adelaide in south western Australia) to sailing half-way around the world on a yacht. She has had many careers, including a design business in London, England. For the past 11 years Jenny has been officially working as a healer, writer, Ascension Mentor and teacher and inspirational speaker and is currently living in Perth, Australia. She has developed her own unique way of working which melds mind/body/soul mechanics. She’s passionate about all aspects of the ascension path, especially uncovering psychological clarity in self so to return to the authenticity of self, and helping others to do the same. Jenny’s vision is the transformation of humanity to compassion and joy, and the restoration of planetary health. She shares that, “My mission is to fully embody heart mastery and wisdom on all levels of my being, and to inspire others to do the same.” In her own playful way, she creates laughter and a brighter outlook where ever she goes. For more info go to or email