If one wanted to move something, they would pick it up and then put it down once they have found the right spot. While it was in their hands, they would have held on and, when they put it down somewhere, they would have let go.

Two Sides

It could be said that there are times in life when one will need to hold on and times when they will need to let go. And, if one is unable to do this, their life will end up being harder than it needs to be.

However, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one will find be able to embrace both sides. What they could find is that while it is easy for them to hold on, it is incredibly difficult for them to let go.

In The Driver’s Seat

What this could show is that they always have the need to be in control of their life, and that it is not possible for them to go with the flow. Said another way, they are not going to be willing to sit in the passenger’s seat.

As a result of this, it is likely to be a challenge for them to take a step back and to relax. They may even believe that they can’t trust other people to do something, and so they will be the only ones who are capable of doing anything.


But even if one doesn’t have this outlook, it is not going to stop them from using their willpower to fulfil their needs and desires. This could be seen as something that will allow them to achieve what they want to achieve.

Thus, if they were to let go and to sit back, it could be seen as something that will have a negative effect on their life. Through behaving in this way, one could believe that something will end up going wrong.

The Ideal

One way of looking at this would be to say that this is an approach that is often encouraged in today’s world. For example, if one was to get into self-development, there is a strong chance that they would hear about how important willpower is.

And if they want to achieve their goals, they will need to take life by the horns, so to speak. If one was to take their foot of the gas or they were not always taking action, their vision wouldn’t become a reality.

It Feels Good

If one has the need to be in control at all times, and they were to come across this kind of information, it is going to be like music to their ears. This is because it will validate what they already believe.

Through reading and watching videos, they will be able to arm themselves with new information and perspectives to attain what they want. It is then going to be business as usual, and one won’t feel the need to change.

Hard Work

This could be an approach that will allow one to fulfil a lot of their needs, but it is likely to take a lot out of them. If something doesn’t go to plan, they could simply overlook what has taken place and do something else.

As if they were to embrace what has happened, it could cause them to feel as though they have no control, and this is going to be the last thing they want to experience. It will be essential for them to find something else to focus on so they can feel a sense of control.


Behaving in this way will put pressure on them at a mental and emotional level, and there will be the effect this has on their health. There can then be moments when they are down and out and unable to function.

And, although this could allow them to do well in their career, it is unlikely to have the same effect on their relationships. The people in their life could feel as though they are unable to be themselves when they are around them, and that one is out of touch with how they feel.

A Dance

What this shows is that relationships can’t be controlled or forced; they need to be able to breath, and to develop naturally. Yet, if one needs to be in control and doesn’t allow themselves to embrace how they feel, it is going to more or less impossible for them to connect with other people at a deeper level.

The people in their life will have to compromise themselves, or they will need to be just as disconnected from their true-self. One will only be able to interact with people on a surface level, and other people will have to be the same.

Out of Balance

The part of them that is happy to let go is going to be inactive, and the part of them that needs to be in control is going to be active. Ultimately, this is going to be what feels comfortable.

This part of them could be seen as the only part that they need to embrace, and the other part could be seen as being weak. Nevertheless, this is going to mean that their life is harder than it needs to be.

Letting Go

For one thing, one is not always going to know what is best for them, and this is due to the fact that they will only know such much at any given moment. And, through trying to do everything through force, it is going to cause them to do more than they need to do in life.

There is then the effect this will have on their relationships; they may even find that there is no one in their life who they are close to. But while their life harder that it needs to be, there is likely to be a good reason why they are this way.

A Deeper Look

During their early years, they may have been brought up by caregiver who was abusive in some way. At this time, it wouldn’t have been safe for them to just be, and to trust in the people around them.

If they let their guard down, this probably would have caused them to experience even more pain. This would then have set them up to disconnect from their feminine nature, and to distrust this part of them.


Time has then passed, but what took place is still going to define how they experience life. If one can relate this, and they want to move forward, they may need to work with some kind of therapist.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand two hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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