Here’s a recent email we received about the law of attraction and fate:

Hi guys, despite all your interesting findings on fate and destiny, of which I firmly believe, I am stunned at the amount of new age information out there concerning the LOA, whereby, so many people, particularly in my Facebook group, who seem to espouse continually how we can create our reality moment to moment, and that fate doesn’t exist. I’ve even mentioned your research but it doesn’t seem to get through. I know the task is for us all to form our own beliefs, but can’t help think why kid ourselves also. Anyway, just wanted to share that with you, keep up the good work! Regards, Chris

We’ve noticed the same epidemic for years, Chris. It’s not easy to face that a lot of things in life seem to be fated, no matter how much you try to create a different reality.

Our long-term empirical findings firmly support the theory of immutable personal fate (for everyone), certain circumstances in life that can’t be changed no matter what you do. We believe our teachings will ultimately be more helpful than promoting exclusively inspiration which, like a sugar high, doesn’t last.

According to the author of the 2006, 19 million copy best-seller The Secret, you can use the law of attraction to create whatever you want: ”With the knowledge from The Secret there is not anything any human cannot be, do or have…not a single thing. No limits whatsoever.”

11 years later, law of attraction marketers are now focusing on why it didn’t work for most people by promoting ”the missing piece.” Yes, you still can create whatever you want (according to them), but only if you buy another book or seminar ticket from someone who (claims to have) figured out how to cheat fate.

The Bad News

As much as we’d like to believe otherwise, the law of attraction can’t help you “create” whatever you want because of the 13 other spiritual laws, some of which supersede the law of attraction.

For example, the law of higher-self/soul influence over personality dictates that your soul’s agenda (which was put into motion before you were born), overrides the demands and wishes of your personality.

Another, the law of subconscious personality domination, means that your fears, beliefs, and defenses rule your existence and many of those hidden, unconscious characteristics are extremely difficult to alter.

Then there’s the law of reincarnation, law of predestination/destiny/personal fate, and the law of karma. Many people misunderstand and misuse these words, but all of the concepts work together and “created” your life circumstances before you were born. Your personality can decide it does or doesn’t like something, but if it’s your karma and fate to experience it, you will.

We can’t explain the inner workings of personal fate, such as exactly how life circumstances are chosen and, or coordinated by your soul and a higher power, but we can share our findings: Once you have witnessed, as we have, the continual recurrence of patterns in the comprehensive astrology and numerology charts, completely representing key circumstances in peoples’ lives, you will stop rejecting the idea of fate.

By the way, it’s not unkind of us to share our theory that much of life’s challenges (and rewards) are unavoidable. It would be unkind to lie to you, promising you everything you desire, as some New Age marketers do. At least we help you prepare for life’s unavoidable crises.

Based on our empirical research, we’re convinced that just as gravity affects all humans, these laws do too, even if you don’t believe in them.

Thinking positive thoughts, as The Secret instructs, will help make your life more pleasant and can be helpful with some goals. But denying reality isn’t going to magically transform a dog turd into a diamond.

The good news is that you can use your free will to work with fate.

1. Rather than believing ”anything is possible,” shoot for the stars, but at least be somewhat realistic about your goals.

If your goals are dependent upon the actions of others, and a lot in life falls in this category, keep in mind it’s unrealistic to expect others to behave as you demand.

2. Get to know yourself better. The more you know yourself, your strengths, talents, skills, interests, and most importantly, your inner wisdom, you are better able to take advantage of and pursue goals that are aligned with them. In other words, rather than trying to “create” something that isn’t part of your path, when you know yourself, you gravitate towards goals that are a better fit. Some ways to get to know yourself and your path better include daily meditation, past life regression, handwriting analysis, and comprehensive astrology and numerology.

3. Change what you can and accept what you can’t. You can’t control what other people say and do or what life throws at you. But you can control how you react to circumstances, your attitude, what you say, and how you spend your time.

4. Apply the concepts from our Mystic’s Magic Formula to make the most of your fate: acceptance, gratitude, taking full responsibility for your life, asking for help from guides of the Light, and more.

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