***Is Tantra sex?

Tantra Yoga is both a written and oral tradition that dates back at least 2,000-10,000 years. It is common in the West to equate Tantra with sex, but in actuality it is a spiritual science and way of life, more concerned with artfully approaching every activity and creating a well-rounded and masterful balance of each aspect of life.

While people are prone to attach Tantra to the Kama Sutra, history reveals the Kama Sutra to be merely a book that has been translated many times, often for kings or rulers who wanted to impose certain sexual standards. Although it does have its roots in Tantra, it has been changed so many times that you would never know it by modern translation.

Tantra is about embracing all of life and taking the middle path. It doesn’t advocate hedonistic indulgence that depletes the life force, nor is it about living an unrealistic saint-like existence that doesn’t include things like lower chakras and bodily functions and needs.
Contrary to Western assumption, several partners, or even one partner is not needed to be Tantric. There are many single and even celibate Tantricas. If the desire for transformation, empowerment and enlightenment is present, then everything needed is within. Each person is born Tantric, the inside wiring is already there.

The word Tantra is Sanskrit, deriving from the root word tan, which translates as "to extend, expand, spread, continue, spin out, weave; to put forth, show, or manifest." This includes thoughts, actions, and all physical matter. Tantras, sacred Buddhist and Hindu scriptures, are the basis for the philosophy. However, Tantra can also be seen as a type of mystical teaching set out mostly in the form of dialogs between a cosmic couple, intimate insightful dialogs, between God and Goddess, Shiva and Shakti, the male and female Tantric adepts. These were at times written down and became known as Tantras, such as the medieval Sanskrit work, the Kula-Arnava-Tantra. God Shiva is attributed as the divine author of this and many other Tantras. One aspect of Tantra, according to Yoga scholar Georg Feuerstein is, however, "the understanding that sexual energy is an important reservoir of energy that should be used wisely to boost the spiritual process rather than block it through orgasmic release."

Before there was shame, sexual energy was transformational. Tantra embraces the life force energy as being a magical, creative power. In Tantric lore it is through Lord Shiva and his consort Shakti’ s sacred lovemaking that the entire universe is born. The deeper lesson being: to listen to our intuition not our conditioning. This is the realization that wholeness is within our grasp, available to us right now.

The practice of cultivating this sexual, transformational energy is by definition different for men and women. Shiva is consciousness. Consciousness naturally expands and contracts, rises and falls. In a man the life force runs from bottom to top. Strength - sun - is in the base of the spine and receives moon from above. When men practice ejaculatory retention, eventually the stimulation builds and pushes upward into the higher centers activating them.
Shakti, on the other hand, is energy itself. Energy often changes form and shape, but needs to move or it stagnates. It is limitless, but serves us consciously only when exercised and expressed. When women practice Tantra they find a much stronger libido than any man’s. Women are the conduits by which spirit is born into matter, which means her energy runs from the crown of her head (moon) to the base of her spine.

When Shiva and Shakti are sitting upright with the chakras aligned and legs intertwined in sexual union, Yab-yum or the ‘mother-father’ position, their energy creates a circle, and in effect an endless circuit. As they continue to raise and multiply their energy, they eventually connect with the highest and most powerful part of the soul, which is connected to the infinite universal consciousness or Ultimate Reality, a state that is literally impossible for the nervous system to reach on its own.

Within all of us, however, a metaphysical bridge exists, and that is known as Kundalini. There can be no discussion of Tantra without including Kundalini, which is both spiritual and sexual energy. This "serpent power" or kundalini-shakti is also known as the creative or life force energy that lies dormant in the human body-mind. Tantric practices to awaken the life force are numerous and varied, as described in the Tantras, and begin with attempts to modify the pathways of the life force directly. One fairly familiar technique known to practicing yogis wherein it is possible to raise the kundalini-shakti, is that of nadi shodhana (cleansing of the nadis). Even so, spontaneous Kundalini awakenings have been recorded, and they have not lead to instant bliss, rather painful physical and psychological conditions, even death.

Sex is not necessarily going to raise your Kundalini either, unless you are working with yogic breath, mantra, and the intention to gently awaken that dormant energy. A person may have the potential to write a novel, but unless there is a pen, paper and strong commitment, it is just potential. The Kundalini in itself is neither good nor bad. It simply is the Goddess energy as it manifests in the human body. In the Sanskrit dictionary, there is no mention of the words “physical”, “exercise” or even “specific” under the definition of yoga. Yoga literally means ‘union’ with oneself and the divinity within. Yoga can also apply to the path, discipline or process leading up to this divine union, whatever that might be. Much of the ‘yoga’ practiced and expressed in Western renditions, despite the physical asanas that exercise the corpus (or body), focuses almost entirely on the upper chakras.
In Tantra these practices expand to reach the full body. By touching all chakras and aiding natural energy flows (including those to and from another person), the body-mind reaches a new level of awareness and ecstasy in the true, original intent of the word. It is tapping the divine light and warmth that flows within and through all of us very directly. It feels good because it touches our true nature as divine beings.

As a science, Tantra incorporates the entire chakra system by running energy through and out each one. For example, Savahadistana is the second chakra, or creative center, which governs our reproductive system and sexual energy. The second chakra can’t be renounced or cut out like a diseased organ, it’s an integral part of the whole system; just like the genitals are part of the body and sex is part of life.
To practice true Tantra you have to be initiated and complete a spiritual discipleship with a qualified adept or guru. Tantra must first be transmitted then practiced and finally experienced. This alone could take an entire lifetime, but what is that in the context of what can potentially be accomplished through living with full awareness of our unlimited and untapped natures? A book can help you grasp the concepts mentally but many Tantra students fall into the trap of trying to intellectualize and miss the essence of what it really is: A journey of self-awareness and evolution. Ultimately, Tantric transformation happens at a cellular level, affecting the body, the mind and the very soul.

The right-handed path would say it is essential to study with a guru who comes from a long lineage of gurus. A Neo-Tantric in the West might say be your own teacher, use your intuition, tune into your body and learn on the move as you traverse through the new heights and feelings. Either way, you will find places your have never been to before, in your body, in relationships and in life. A compromise may be to do both.

In essence, Tantra is an ancient way of being, a way to live that is softer, and more yin than the frantic outside world that often distracts from the feelings and intuition present deep in the soul of our being. Tantra is about being present in every moment, approaching life without fear and loving the self and others fully and open heartedly. Tantra is not really about learning something new; it’s more about remembering something that you already know.