After a few years of marriage, a lot of people find they don’t have anything to talk about but who left their toenails under the couch, and what happened on Grey’s Anatomy. If you’re in a long-term relationship that’s lost its sizzle, now’s the time to figure out how to get that sizzle back.
The key to revving up romance is to bring one new element to date night:

Change the Place.
Go to tango class rather than spending another Saturday night at Outback, or get freaky in the guest room (or even the back yard), instead of the usual romp in your own bed.

Change the Subject.
Instead of talking about the kids, what’s for dinner, or what happened on the Spam account, ask questions like you did when you were dating: What was your college essay about? What’s the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you as a kid? Where’s the weirdest place you’ve ever gotten lucky?

Change what you Wear.
Forget jeans and dump the track suit. Get all dressed up for a big night out, even if you just hit the local Denny’s. The act of spending time on your appearance in anticipation of your date will make you feel more romantic before you even get your pantyhose on.

Change your Color.
Wear red, and lots of hit. Dye your hair or slink out in something scarlet. Wearing red increases your heart rate (and his) and mimics attraction – just enough to kick-start a slow night.

Change your Scent.
A study at the University of Chicago showed men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. When you’re looking to cook up a little romance, pop some of those ready-to-bake cinnamon rolls in the oven, or wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume. (We love the Man-Magnet Parfum Glacé) Trust me ladies, it works like catnip for men.

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Dating expert Lisa Daily blogs her dating tips and advice at She is the Dating Coach on Daytime , a nationally-syndicated morning TV show and a syndicated columnist. She’s also the bestselling author of Stop Getting Dumped! and How to Date Like a Grown-Up: Everything You Need to Know to Get Out There, Get Lucky or Even Get Married in Your 40’s 50s and Beyond. Lisa was featured as a real-life “date doctor” in the HITCH movie DVD starring Will Smith.