There's nothing that crushes your ego more then when a guy doesn’t ask you out again or he decides to end the relationship. Its one thing to be rejected when you apply for a job, entirely another when this occurs in your love life. The sting of rejection penetrates deeply because this is the one area where you’re the most exposed and vulnerable. It can literally feel like a stab in your heart.

One of my cherished VIP Queen clients “Francesca” experienced this very issue last week. A man she was newly dating cancelled a romantic weekend they had planned last minute and confided he “just wanted to be friends” – ouch!

Francesca’s life has been going along SO well. She made amazing progress during her dating/relationship coaching program and has soared even higher when we switched gears the past few months to focus on fulfilling her desire to create a thriving business she loves.

So, to receive news like this blindsided her in a big way. Fortunately, I have an easy 3 question process I use with all my clients to support them with overcoming – and even avoiding - dating rejection. Let’s take a look at the 3 most important questions to ask yourself:

3 Questions To Help You Overcome Dating Rejection

1. When you look back and objectively observe the first few dates, what red flags/signs did you miss?

Francesca immediately remembered how he mentioned in the beginning he had recently broken up with someone, was just looking to have fun and demonstrated in many ways he didn’t want anything serious.

2. Where else is rejection showing up in your life currently or in the past?

This is where Francesca had a big “a ha” moment. We happen to be at the point in her business program where the rubber is about to hit the road and it’s time to begin marketing her services and attracting clients. Not surprising her fear of rejection would be kicking up – even the most seasoned entrepreneurs doubt their abilities. Her fear was great enough that it ended up manifesting in another area of her life.

3. What is the gift of this experience?

Many times when you’re in the middle of something painful, it’s difficult to remember necessary lessons are being learned. Personal growth always feels painful because of our intense resistance to change. Shifting your perspective and looking for what you’re gaining (not losing!) immediately releases the pain and unwraps the beautiful gift that was waiting for you all along.

Once Francesca remembered the red flags she ignored, connected her rejection to a bigger fear that clients won’t hire her and saw how much she gained from not continuing on with the wrong guy – her spirits immediately lifted.

Be sure to follow this easy, 3 question process the next time you’re faced with ANY form of rejection. I guarantee you’ll move through it much faster and make room for everything that will serve you!

Author's Bio: 

Kim Sarrasin is a relationship expert, mentor and speaker who helps single men and women "Solve the mystery of the opposite sex". Want to learn more about simple ways to relate with the opposite sex, have more fun dating and discover how you can get all you're needs met? Then check out her website,, to find out more about her Dating & Relating Weekend Workshop and to sign up for her FREE audio mini-workshop "5 Essential Steps For Dating Success."