If there’s one thing in life we should all learn, it’s the fact that pizza tastes bland if left untouched for a long time (unless you put it in the fridge, then it’ll taste even better). Like pizza, relationships can turn bleak over time, especially during the first ten years.

Throughout those ten years, you’ve probably been through a lot with your spouse. You have tried a lot of things. You’ve been there, done that, so you can only expect for the flame to flicker out any time. Then again, it has only been ten years. You can expect more decades to make the most out of your bond.

One thing’s for sure, there’s still a lot more you can do to heat up your marriage. Here are a few suggestions to get you started.

1. Make communication more open
For sure, you already know how important communication is to keeping your relationship alive. If you have started your marriage on a good footing, then you may want to maintain that by being more open with your spouse. From talking about how your day went to the plans that you have in mind, it’s important that you disclose how you feel. That way, you and your spouse will know how best to deal with whatever issues the both of you are facing.

2. Make room for arguments
Arguments, as long as they are healthy, provide a great way to rekindle your relationship. As much as you want to experience the sweetest moments with your partner, there should also be room for conflict. Having a word war with your spouse doesn’t have to end up in ill feelings. If anything, it can also be healthy since, at the end of the day, you become more aware of each other’s value. So, if your partner keeps on complaining about you ordering pineapple on pizza, stick to your guns! A good-natured fight adds a bit of excitement to your marriage.

3. Update your bedroom arsenal
Contrary to popular belief, sex can still be great even when you enter the tenth year of marriage. It’s only a matter of trying new techniques and positions that could boost your experience (or sexperience, for that matter). That said, you can purchase toys online and find ideas you can use in the bed. You can also make use of this cunnilingus guide that will surely spice things up. Just imagine the things you tongue can do if you let it run wild!

4. Cook your favorite meals
Another great way to get your spouse wanting more is to cook the meals that have kept the both of you together. Cooking is not only the way to each other’s heart, but it’s also a great way for you to talk about the things that matter. What’s more, cooking your favorite food together is a good exercise in teamwork.

5.Stay selfless
Finally, the key to a lasting relationship is realizing that it’s not all about you. It’s about how you’re going to work with your spouse. That being said, set your ego aside, make compromises, and make this project work out for the best.

Author's Bio: 

Lora Y.