Who are you living for? I don't think I'm the only one who has asked this question. At some point in your life you stop and think… am I really making decisions based on what I really want in my life? The following steps will get you on your way to having what you do want… living your life out the way you've always imagined.

Decide what you DO want. Taking the time to understand yourself is key. Dig deep down, what do you want in your life? And that's where most of us fail. We live on the surface, reacting to whatever comes our way with no real point of focus. We are afraid to go into those deep inner parts of ourselves. There is fear of change, fear of the unknown and maybe a fear that what you want is unattainable or impossible. Know who you are and what you want. Set a direction for what you do want in your life, with laser focus. Your life can't be what someone else wants for you, it must be what you want for yourself.

Create a sense of urgency. This feeling of being scared will prevent you from having what you want. Ask yourself these questions… What will I miss out on in my life if I don't make this shift? What is it already costing me mentally, emotionally, physically, financially or spiritually? Use these answers to create motivation or leverage to follow through. What are you determined to do? It's time to step into who you really are… be honest and true to who you are and what you want. Don't let anyone or anything deter you.

Spend time on self-improvement. How much time are you spending every day on self-improvement? Self improvement is necessary to change your lifestyle, develop your mind and shape your life. Taking ownership of your life involves investing time in knowing yourself and growing. This awareness empowers your life. You choose your how your life will be. There are hundreds of books and for those of us who don't like to read or spend long hours in the car… there are audio books. Get to reading and become a conscious creator of your life.

Speak honestly. This one is tough for me… but I'm learning. How many times have you NOT expressed how you really feel or NOT asked the questions you really wanted to ask because “what if…." Not speaking up or not asking can take you on a long detour and keep you from getting what you do want in your life. I'm sure you've all been there before. You're in the car, you have a set destination and somehow you get turned around. You have a choice to drive around hoping you will find your way or you can stop and ASK. I'm just saying, asking will always get you to your destination faster, in a more direct manner. Don't be afraid to let the world see you for who you really are.

STOP RIGHT NOW… start with 3 things. What three things do you want in your life? Be specific, the more specific you get the more clarity you will have. Describe every detail… how do you want it to be, where do you want it to be and how do you get to it, then you build on that. The more specific you can be about what you want, the more clarity you will have to move toward the things you do want.

Change is uncomfortable. But in order to have what you want in your life, you must be willing to be uncomfortable. Go through the pain, the fears, the failures… be willing to endure and push through. What are you determined to do? Set the direction for your life and follow it through. It's time to decide what you want, be focused and step into your greatness!

Author's Bio: 

Luis is a health and wellness expert, certified coach and trainer. You can find out more about Luis and his products at http://luisriverams.com