Have you ever wondered how people get what they want?

I mean people who consistently get what they want, you know the ones that others call lucky or fortunate or think that they have some unfair advantage over others. Whatever others think, I am sure you are wondering how they can do this.

I'll give you a hint:

"The first step to getting what you want out of life is this: decide what you want." - Ben Stein

To be truly happy and appreciative of what you get out of life, then you need to know what you want. Think about it, if you don’t know what you want then you are likely to get what you didn’t want or you won’t know if you get what you wanted, because you didn’t know what that was! This is one of the reasons people think they know what they want and then aren’t happy when they get it. You have heard the warnings, "Money isn’t everything"; "The grass is always greener on the other side"; "Happiness comes from within"; "Be careful what you wish for." These statements are true. If you don’t know what you want then you are not going to be happy; you will always be looking for happiness and what you want.

Here’s how it works: regardless of your beliefs, you are attracted to what you think about and your brain doesn’t recognize the negatives. If I were to ask you not to think of a purple elephant, what do you think of? Most likely you are thinking of a purple elephant. This is because your mind has to construct an image and think about it in order to not think about it. It’s the same idea anytime you use words like not and don’t; in order to understand what you don’t want you construct a mental image of it. This results in the image being held constantly in your subconscious awareness and means you are continually thinking about it. Then you are drawn towards it and since you’re consciously telling yourself, no, no, it creates the internal battles you have as you try to change your life.

Tips for thinking about what you want:
- Think positive
- Think specific
- Be in the present or future
- Must involve YOU taking action
- Be certain you want it
- Know how you'll know when you get it

It is very important to follow these easy, yet powerful guidelines (positive, specific, present, self-fulfilling, unequivocal, and knowing when you get it), as they will guide you on your journey. Most importantly is the fact that it requires you to take action. If you want something, then you need to go get it and not be dependent on others. You can control your thoughts and actions, but you can’t control others thoughts and actions, so relying on them for you consistent happiness is going to be disappointing for you.

Thinking about what you want in a specific, present tense, positive manner will help you develop (in your mind) a plan of action for achieving it. Knowing that you are certain it is what you want will allow you to put your plan into action. Finally, knowing how you’ll know when you get it will ensure you get it and appreciate it.

Author's Bio: 

Terry M. Drake is a Licensed Social Worker, National Board Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, Life Coach, Trainer, Speaker and Author. He specializes in helping others get what they want!

You can learn more at www.livehappilyeverafter-now.com or www.terrymdrake.org