It is normal for the passion that was there at the beginning of a romantic relationship to fade a bit over the years. However, it is should be a worrying thing if the marriage turns sexless.

Sex experts say a sexless or sexually starved marriage is where sex happens less than 10 times a year. This gets to a point where when the couple has sex, it feels awkward and uncomfortable.

There are several reasons for a sexless marriage:

• Health problems such as a sudden disability
• Sexual disorders like erectile disorder, orgasmic dysfunction, painful sex
• Emotional detachment brought on by serious differences, unavailability for intimate time and extramarital affairs

Apart from a situation of serious health and mobility problem, it is easy to bring back the passion for sex in a marriage.
Sex therapists say it is all about finding the spark that brought about the relationship. That is building the romance back and actively working at seduction to desire each other sexually.

There are several ways of lighting up the sexual spark again when things get stale:

• Alone time
You can only feel intimate by spending time only the two of you. This involves setting time for just enjoying each other’s company. Create a date night, time for a meal, share a hobby, work out together, or just have a cup of coffee on the porch.

This makes each partner appreciate what it was that makes the other great and attractive. You could arrange for a romantic getaway to get things on track. A sex night is a great idea to get you committed.

• Flirting and seduction
Try to relive the beginnings of your romance. Send flirty texts, smile at each other, dress the best for each other and smile at your partner. Surprise your partner with a gift just like in the old times.

• Intentionally want sex
Many couples wait to get in the mood for sex instead of working on the mood. If you have a busy day, it is highly unlikely you will be in the mood unless you actively create it when you get home. Learn to be comfortable with each other when initiating sex.

• Make it adventurous
The same routine can get boring over time. Learn new tricks with each other and explore more likes and dislikes. If it does not seem too extreme, watch a blue movie once in a while for inspiration.

• Stay at it
Sex therapists say sex becomes better with practice. Work at it.

Thanks for reading

Author's Bio: 

Hi I'm Randy Johnson, and I am a relationship coach who focuses solely on men's marriage troubles. I am not a psychologist, counselor or lawyer, which gives me a lot of freedom in what I say and I don't sound like most marriage counselors.

Marriage is about a man and a woman, and the different roles both play are very important in keeping the marriage together.

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