Trying to justify my resentment, anger and hatred was not worth the price of my health, nor is it worth yours.
Today I have not only survived, but thrived and I'll show you how I did it.
Resentment is a Latin word meaning to feel anger over and over. Like a poison, it shoots adrenalin into our bodies, raises our blood pressure and begins weakening the cells of our bodies, allowing cancer and any number of diseases to mutate in our weakened cells. I know this to be true because I hung on to anger like it was a life jacket and it nearly killed me.
But wasn't I justified?
Not if I wanted to live. Besides resentment having a physical effect on my body that nearly killed me, it hurt me in so many other ways.
Divorce - I had no harmony to bring into a marriage. Only anger.
• Estrangement from My children - Resentment had so hardened my heart that I became mean and unforgiving and you know what they say about stuff rolling down hill.
• Unemployment - I took my anger out on people at work and could always justify my quitting over "their" wrong actions. But it was really my anger history that disrupted my work.
• Alcoholism - Besides it being an inherited disease, my inability to deal with stress was a contributing factor to hiding in alcohol.
I want to assure you that with God's help you can forgive anyone anything and you can stop allowing resentment to destroy your happiness.
Let me give you a few examples of some of life's biggest resentment-makers:
1. Abandonment: by parent, spouse or best friend.
2. Abuse: Physical, mental, emotional or sexual.
3. Betrayal: Cheating spouse or someone in authority.
4. Favoritism: Being overlooked for someone else's benefit, to your detriment.
I know you can think of many other causes that you've experienced that caused you to hold onto resentment much longer than you could have. But it's hurting you and it can kill you.
A hardened heart will prevent you from receiving God's healing.
Think about what Jesus had to forgive when he was dying on the cross. He had to forgive those who were taking his very life.
LUKE 23:34 Jesus said, Father forgive them; for they know not what they do.
I think there's something very important to learn from His last words.
• Realize that the perpetrator(s) of your pain are broken, and that broken people hurt others.
• When you're in trouble with resentment, pray and ask God to forgive the person who has hurt you.
• Ask that God then help you heal your resentment toward them. Your health will thank you for the effort.
From doing these simple three things I promise you'll be in an emotional state to begin forgiving your trespassers completely. If I can do it, you can do it too.
What I know today is that the person or people I've harbored resentment and yes, even hatred, toward are long gone on their happy way and I was left with a weakened body which compromised my health.
I hope you don't have to hang on to resentment so long that it makes you sick. Bur if you're already there, take an honest look at your resentments and realize your perpetrators were broken, ask God to forgive them and then ask Him to heal your resentments. Yes someone hurt you and yes it was painful, but you've got God's help and love to get you through this.
God will do for you what you've been unable to do for yourself so far. You never have to walk alone again.
I have two healing scriptures to leave you with that will help restore your happiness.
Romans 12:19 Vengeance is mine, saith the Lord. (He will repay those who deserve it. You can rest easy.)
Jeremiah 30:17 For I will restore your health and I will heal you of your wound. (God is the true healer.)
Let go and let God, because here comes your miracle. God loves you.

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