Article Title: How to Develop a Good or even a Great Attitude to Life (from 'Handbook to Survive Life')
Author: Craig Lock
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How to Develop a Good or even a Great Attitude to Life:
Is Your Attitude Right?

For Success and even more importantly,
for HAPPINESS in the journey of life.

"You are today what you thought about yesterday You will be tomorrow what you think about today, Every attitude is positive or negative, It doesn't matter what happens to you, It is how you take it that matters."
"In the game of life you can be up one moment and down the next. The reason is not luck as in snakes and ladders, but the attitudes you choose consciously or unconsciously."

Your attitude will determine your entire outlook on life and how you see the world- happy or sad, positive or negative. You can choose to see it through rose-coloured spectacles (the eternal optimist who is out of touch with reality). You can also see everything as dark clouds (the absolute pessimist), or choose to see that every dark cloud has a silver lining, which is a good attitude to have. Well it's true anyway!

I am the eternal optimist, out of touch, some say. Some people pick up the doom and gloom portrayed by news- papers and the media and transfer it to their own daily living. Attitude clouds everything that happens to you and how you react to situations, crises, etc.

Your attitude is your perception of an event - it is your reality. You may perceive a certain situation to be a disaster, while another person may see it differently, as a positive opportunity for trying something new: e.g.. on redundancy or job loss or loss of a relationship.

As we have seen, one's attitude is closely related to your self-image and it is probably the most critical factor in determining how successful or how happy you will be in life. The inner attitude you have about yourself will determine your level of success far more than the skills and training you have ever received.

1. Your Attitude Determines Your Destiny

Personally, due to a traumatic event some years ago, my self-image was severely knocked, which impacted on my attitude for quite a length of time. This was passed onto my wife, who suffered a severe emotional crisis. Our negative attitudes, together with extraneous circumstances, made life very difficult and stressful, leading to mis-judgements, personal trauma and an inability to make decisions.

However, entirely on our own, we have lifted ourselves and bit by bit, regained our normal positive attitudes, which has enabled us to achieve wonders and a happy life- style.

“I still believe in setting goals (big and small stepping-stones) , but believe more importantly in going after your dreams with all you‘ve got.”

- "little old me"

2. The Factory of the Mind

Your thoughts become your beliefs, and your thoughts determine whether "good" (positive), or "bad" (negative) messages are sent from the brain to the rest of your body. There is a complex relationship between the mind and the body. Physical disorders are caused by your state of mind. What you think can literally make you sick or healthy. The attitude you hold about yourself can give rise to feelings of joy, despair, anger, rage, etc. and can even cause heart disease, asthma, and ulcers known as psychosomatic illnesses).

The attitude you hold about yourself also affects your relationships with other people. After a divorce, when a person's confidence is at a low level and they may feel a failure, they are more likely to die of certain medical disorders (because their mental powers of resistance and self-esteem are low).

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind."
So says William James, an American Psychologist

Positive thoughts produce positive results, and negative thoughts produce negative results. We should try to understand how our thoughts arise and are influenced; they come into the brain from what we hear, what we see, what we read and what we say to ourselves.

We get our thoughts/attitudes from the media, those with whom we mix and through self-talk. Negative people are the product of a negative environment. Self-talk is what we say to ourselves all day long. A number of sportsmen use this technique to stay positive. Sports psychologists also use it. (See my book on sports psychology called 'The Winning Mind'.)

Some people, on learning that they have cancer, have been known to go into shock and die. There have also been cases of people whom, expected to die far sooner by their doctors, have willed themselves to stay alive for an event like the birth of a grandchild. Australian aborigines can subconsciously will themselves to die when the bones point to them (known as voodoo). Or is it a hoodoo perhaps!

Optimism and pessimism are learned attitudinal behaviours and they can be relearned. We need to constantly monitor our inner navigational system, our attitudes to make our own course corrections. Negative thinking cripples the mind, like polio cripples the body. The cure is positive thinking - a positive outlook for opportunities does wonders for one's attitude. Many discoveries or luck come by chance. SERENDIPITY is the faculty of making happy and unexpected discoveries by accident. Do try anything!

WHAT IS your outlook on life - happy or sad? Do you see the glass as half-full or half-empty? Remember what you believe in normally happens. In other words, "YOU GET WHAT YOU EXPECT". This is known as self-fulfilling prophecies, so top golfers expect to hole their putts and are surprised when they don't.

"Blessed are those who expect little...

because they will RECEIVE LITTLE."

So EXPECT GOOD POSITIVE THINGS TO HAPPEN in YOUR life... BIG ones to happen in a spirit of anticipation! Those "rather weird pyscho-types" would use a fancy term like "positive expectancy".

Be ENTHUSIASTIC - walk, talk and act enthusiastically and you will find that it is contagious and that people will be attracted to you.

If they don't then try joining "rent-a-friend"!


* Attitudes are more important than facts.

* How you take it is more important than what happens to you.

* Attitude acts as a selective filter affecting perception : we choose to see the best or worst in any situation.



We are not as we think we are, but as we think - the quality of our thinking is more important than what we think about. How we think is our strangest secret.

"You are not what you think you are, but what you think...

you ARE"

(In other words, simply we are what we think)

If your goal is wealth, but your thinking is poverty-stricken, your attitude will cancel out the achievement of your goal. If your goal is health and you choose healthy thoughts, you will realise your goal. Don't think lack (ie. what you don't have), but think abundance!

NB: Attitudes beat facts every time.

Always remember

"We need to be beneficiaries of our attitudes, not victims."


"Our attitude determines our altitude".

Craig Lock (Eagle Productions Books)

"The task ahead of you can always be overcome by the power within you...and the often seemingly difficult or even "impassible") path ahead of you is never as steep with the great spirit that lies within you."

"Do not follow the well-beaten track of others towards success - like the rainbow, it is often an illusion always just beyond our reach. Make your own path and let your spirit blaze a brilliant trail towards the pot of gold, the prize for the gift - one that is uniquely you and YOUR successful journey down the mysterious and magical river of life.

"Our Greatest Good is perhaps not to achieve wealth and share our material possessions, our money and 'riches' with others, but through encouragement and faith in other people, to lay the firm foundation of revealing the rich treasure that lies within themselves.
Perhaps that is true success in life."
- craig

"Together, one mind, one soul at a time, let's see how many people we can impact, empower, encourage and perhaps even inspire to reach their fullest potentials. Change YOUR world and you help change THE world...for the better"

PS: Don't worry about the world ending today...
it's already tomorrow in "little" scenic and tranquil New Zealand

"If you have knowledge, let others light a candle to it." *
- Margaret Fuller

* that’s a metaphor, btw


What is Success?

"To laugh often and much;

To win the respect of intelligent people

and the affection of children;

To earn the appreciation of honest critics

and endure the betrayal of false friends

To appreciate beauty;

To find the best in others;

To leave the world a bit better, whether by

a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social


To know even one life has breathed easier because you

have lived;

This is to have succeeded."

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

"If a man is called to be a street-sweeper,

he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted,

or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry.

He should sweep streets so well

that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say,

here lived a great street sweeper

who did his job well."

- Dr Martin Luther King, Jr.

Author's Bio: 

About the Author:
Craig has written extensively in the field of self help. This extract is from his first published book HANDBOOK TO SURVIVE - a collection of writings on various subjects to help every man or woman survive in a rapidly changing, uncertain world.

The various books (including Handbook to Survive) that Craig "felt inspired to write" are available at (e-books) and

The submitter’s blog (with extracts from his various writings: articles, books and new manuscripts) is at

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