I couldn’t believe he said yes! After our second coffee date, I’d asked him if he’d like to join my family for Thanksgiving. I didn’t want him to be alone since he was so far away from home. He told me he’d made plans a year before to get together with old friends during Thanksgiving in Atlanta and he had already bought his plane ticket. But, he said, “something” told him to come to my family’s house for Thanksgiving!

Yesterday marked five years since I’d invited him over for Thanksgiving. After dinner, he asked me out on our first date! We've been married for four years now!

My husband and I reminisce all the time. “Do you remember when . . .” starts a lot of our conversations. And thinking about the good times, special memories, and important moments in your relationship is a great way to date your husband.

There are two main benefits to remembering the good times with your husband.

First, it helps you focus on the good instead of the “not so good” things about your marriage. Dwelling on all the things he does to annoy you, or the hurts of the past, or what you’d like him to change causes anger, bitterness and resentment to grow in your marriage. And anger, bitterness and resentment doesn’t put you in the mood for romance now does it? But thinking and talking about the first time you met, or your first date, or when you first knew you were in love, brings you closer together and causes you to remember why you love each other.

Second, taking a walk down memory lane gives you something to talk about on your date. Let’s face it. Life can sometimes overwhelm you and if you’re not careful, you’ll find yourself only talking about the kids, the bills, or the “To Do List” if you ever get a moment alone with your husband. Instead, put the kids to bed, make a hot cup of cocoa, snuggle up on the couch with your man, look into each other’s eyes and talk about all the great memories you have with each other. Before you know it, you’ll be laughing, crying and growing closer to your husband.

Author's Bio: 

Aesha Adams-Roberts, PhD, is a bestselling author, speaker, and communications expert. In her book, "Can I Help a Sister Out: How to Meet and Marry of Your Dreams" Dr. Adams-Roberts reveals the step-by-step secrets and strategies she used to meet and marry her husband in 11 short months. Her expertise is highly sought after by men and women, single and married couples alike.