OK, fine... We all have different views on pornography and sexually explicit movies and pictures

Some people take a firm stand against porn, while others use porn and erotic movies to enhance and spice up their sex lives.

And these days, internet pornography is easily accessible to those interested, and it's very easy to hide from those who are against it. No more hiding magazines under your bed...

This has been the topic of many heated discussions between couples and family members for generations, and the sparks are really starting to fly.

Here's a question from Serena in Illinois. She found internet porn on her boyfriend's computer and is furious with him!

Dear Dan and Jennifer, My husband of 5 years has always seemed like an honest person. But I recently found internet porn on my computer. When I asked him about it he lied - of course.

He knows I'm dead set against Porn. It made me feel disgusting both inside and out. I told him that if that's what he needs then I'm gone because I can't and won't live like that. He swears to never do it again.

Is he being truthful? Plus if he knew I was against it why would he still do it? It made me feel like I'm not good enough for him. Did I do something wrong for this to take place? Thanks for taking the time to read this.


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Why is Pornography Wrong?

So why do so many feel that it's wrong to view pornography? I feel that it's largely due to the social stigma around sex that exists in our society today. Sex is portrayed as evil and wrong, which is just silly if you actually think about it.

Sex is not evil, so why is it wrong to watch others have sex? It's very interesting that it's OK for our kids to see incredible amounts of violence, but seeing even a breast is horrible. OMG! Don't believe me? Check out cartoon network and then pay attention to what can and cannot be shown in a G-rated or PG-rated movie. This to me is what's really scary!

Fighting, violence, and blood are acceptable for our children, but sex is not. That's just messed up!

Trying to Control Your Partner 

If you're in a partnership and your significant other enjoys porn but you can't stand it, what do you do?

Ask yourself what it is that you don't like about pornography. Why is it disgusting or unacceptable to watch a sexual act? What's really wrong with nudity?

Once you've got a true understanding in your own head, only then can you have an intelligent discussion with your partner. Yelling and ultimatums never work.

And put away that ugly jealousy monster. Just because your partner enjoys pornography does not mean that he or she does not find you attractive, or is going to leave you for someone else.

In fact, why not try watching with them to get an idea of what they enjoy. It could actually make your sex life even better.

How about accepting your partner for who they are and letting them enjoy themselves as long as it doesn't turn into a true addiction. Excessive need for anything is not healthy, whether it is chocolate donuts or nudity.

Love is not about controlling our partners and bringing them around to our way of thinking. There are some things that you'll differ on. In this case you may simply need to agree to disagree.

Why Ultimatums Never Work 

"It's X or me! Pick one!"

How many times have we heard, or said, this to someone? What actually happens when you say this is that you close the door for open an honest communication. Your partner now feels that they cannot be honest with you for fear of retribution, and that begins a downward spiral to destroying a relationship. In most cases, this person will get angry and defensive, and sometimes they'll just storm out of the room. And guess what, they're probably going to go behind your back and do it any way.

If you feel that there is a really an issue with addiction, then counseling or other professional help may be the answer, but ultimatums rarely work.

If you do choose to make and ultimatum, then you'd better be prepared to back it up, and possibly to lose your relationship. Ask yourself... is it really worth it?

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