"HE DUMPED ME after all i gave to him, he was my life, now i lost him." We hear a lot of people saying those lines, from being so in love to depression and heartbreak. The feeling of the person being dumped is really at the lowest, as in depression, hurt and anger. However, you need to keep in mind that those unpleasant feelings will all come to pass. Even if pain is extreme because of being left out, it will not kill you at all. Think that you can and will get over with it soon. It needs a lot of effort, help from friends and some adjustments of thinking and of course, time.

Feeling so crushed and broken from the experience, you will start becoming bitter, cautious, insecure, and less trusting. Looking for another partner will take you too long as the healing part is hard going all through the process of acceptance and change. At some point, you can think about the pain and then you start to tell yourself, "he dumped me". It is like you cannot still accept such fact. You may lead to different self questions that sound so depressing, like, "am i fat?", "am i not good enough for him?", "am i the boring person ever?", etc. No one is to be blamed for this situation, even yourself. Your partner cannot just give you the real reasons why he dumped you so don't blame yourself.So to prevent self-blaming, here are the possible reasons why your partner dumped you.

1. Love is gone

Sometimes, when a person courts you, love is not actually the reason, but he just likes you. Truly, love is the basic foundation of the relationship as relationship without love from the couples is useless. Couples now have this mistake of treating relationship as a routine rather than a commitment. Relationship as a routine can make you feel bored about the relationship, as in you no longer feel excited and thrilled about it, so at some point, you both realize that it's better off without each other as you are not feeling the glow anymore in the relationship.

2. Going Distance

This doesn't talk only on long distance relationship. It also pertains to the distance during the middle of the relationship that you and your partner make because you are also busy working, you have your own priorities and other things to attend to. You may be seeing each other 2-3 times weekly or would even meet only once in a week because of your busy schedule. That is the main reason why distance in the relationship is commonly felt. Distance can make you realize that love is already gone.

3. Daily Arguments

No matter how you avoid it, arguments come in the most unexpected time. You fight of time constraints, attention deficit, dishonesty and a lot more. Sometimes, those small fights can mean so much to you that your anger really strikes at you and so it can lead to a bigger conflict which cannot be resolved overtime. Fight in the relationship as i said is normal and healthy, but when fight has become a routine, it is no longer healthy. When fights are becoming unbearable, your boyfriend can realize clearly that the relationship is not working anymore.

4. Third party

Those mentioned above reasons can also trigger infidelity by your boyfriend. Infidelity can be triggered when the following factors above are present in the relationship.

5. Lost of connection.

What you used to do before together is no longer apparent in the relationship. You already lost touch, intimacy and connection in the relationship. And as you go along, you will realize that the connection that ties between you and your boyfriend starts to vanish.

Life has to move even the truth says that he dumped you. Go on and live a new life as you will prepare to stand again after a fall. Learn to pick up slowly the pieces of your life and forget all the hurt. Instead of focusing on all the negative feelings towards the broken relationship and to your partner who dumped you, try to dwell on a brighter perspective and think of all the good things about you and what you can still offer for someone else. For sure, there will be another person out there that will love you unconditionally. So what you will do now? go and improve yourself! Take the positive steps, you may look back on your dark times but keep on believing that it was one of the best things that happened to you and finally with faith, you can say to yourself, "HE DUMPED ME, but I AM THE HAPPIEST PERSON NOW".

Author's Bio: 

Johnny Wayne personally believes that all relationship can be saved but it all depends on how much effort is being put in. You can find out more about our Ex Recovery System Review and the tips on Fixing a Broken Relationship.