One of Gods commandments is to "Honor thy Father and thy Mother" (Exodus 20:12). The subject-matter applies to grown children although the Biblical passages certainly applies to babies and forward to the end of one’s earthly life. The book of Ephesians 6:2-4 it repeats this commandment from the Old Testament saying: "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord". All children have been dishonorable toward their parents at times as they have been raised from childbirth, which is simply a common misbehavior kids will inevitably display. However, there are blatantly obvious dishonorable things done toward parents. Read Jesus' description of serious misbehavior in this category - Mark 7:9-12 "Corban".

As far as provoking a child to wrath, this can certainly happen but, can a provocation be something such as a dad sneaking up and saying "boo!" to a child or can it rather be severe beatings, refusing to feed a child or children seeing their mother beaten severely by a father or vise-versa? Would occasional spats between parents that are not severe, with either parent starting such a tiff, or one pushing the other (nudging not striking), merit being called abuse? This, especially when mild shows of anger are far between and do not include screaming or physical abuse? It is again, common for parents to argue from time to time - even heatedly on occasion. Adult children, cannot however, see the daily lives of their parents and may only see them 2 or 3 times in a year, once becoming married (depending on travel distance). Claims of abuse in parent's households are impossible to report (unofficially or officially) unless a parent has gone-to a grown child or children seeking help, or to confide about such abuse. Such claims by a child, non-confided by a parent may be made to justify something like the "Corban" ultimatum Jesus spoke of in the scripture referenced in The Gospel of Mark above; a must read.

Such dishonor by a child IS NOT to be taken lightly, due to spiritual consequences also involved. A parent too, may realize something like “Corban” (a form of child estrangement described by Jesus) cannot be met in the present world-realm because afterward they will feel Lorded-over. They may feel as if they need to walk on eggshells so-to-speak, in the presence of an estranged child/children from that time, until either child or parent passes from this life. A parent can immediately forgive anyone who wrongs them, but consequences of sin do not have a spiritual effect only on a person but can also have physical, and/or psychological consequences. Quote: “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” – Galatians 6:7. Sometimes lifetime consequences occur, even when the offender their self has asked God's forgiveness. The Apostle Paul stated {"...because of these surpassingly great revelations (he received). Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me."} - 2 Corinthians 12: 7-8.

I believe-in Christian Counseling and I believe one who has lost close loved ones and has many illnesses to cope with can better-remain centered with Christian Counseling. However, The Holy Spirit is our greatest Counselor, also opening up to us, God’s truths. John 14:16-18 – “And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.”

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Author's Bio: 

I am a graduate of Liberty University (1996) for completion of theological studies. Bible studies are one of my most-covered book-subjects. I was a Christian Youth Minister, beginning in the 1980s for approximately 20 years (between youth ministries I served in other church capacities as well). I was also a guest speaker to churches, who invited me to present important Bible teachings to their evangelical congregations, during those same years. I am a redeemed man, who has received salvation by acceptance of Jesus Christ and what he did for me in shedding his blood and dying for me on the cross and in his resurrection from the dead, giving me the promise of eternal life, purely by grace (not due to anything I have done, other than to accept it freely).