There are many ideas for gift giving today that psychologists have already explored it thoroughly. The gift can be as simple as a 'hello', and can be as complicated as a 'life'. Sometimes we need to hear some words of love as a gift and sometimes the 'presence of someone' becomes a gift of life for us. Sometimes, we expect a flower as a gift instead of an expensive jewel; sometimes we expect nothing but a gift of love. Gifts can make us happy and sad if not given in time by a proper way. Gifts can be taken as threats if given by some authority and by unfair means and gifts can be taken as a burden if we feel obligated to return them while fulfilling some custom or tradition.

Gift giving depends on many things - to whom you are giving, at what time you are giving, how much you can spend, what is the age of your receiver, what is the belief system of your receiver, what is the culture of the receiver, what colour the receiver likes or dislikes, what is your relationship status with the receiver, what is the type of occasion of gift and many other related things would need to be in mind before deciding about gifts to others.

We can explore many ways to cherish others and us with gifts of our or others choice. Mostly people want their friends happy and satisfied by having their gifts. To fulfil such a need of gift-giving, some spend a lot, some think a lot about the pros and cons before giving a gift and some try to give the minimum possible items that could satisfy other's needs. Some fulfil others demand instead of offering their own choices. Some take a step ahead and ask directly about the gift preferences. Some closely see other's likes and dislikes and decide what they will accept as a gift. Some prefer only cash as a gift - the simple and less risky way. Although there are countless ideas (things) that we can think about before deciding about gifts but still a few of them are always considered as good and cheap ones since long such as comics, flowers, and soft toys.

On the other side, we can also try to give spiritual gifts to others: we could buy a ticket to travel; could pay for the hotel to stay in; could pay for the club; could pay for a cinema ticket; could pay for the massage, could pay for the holy visits; could pay for hospital charges; could buy a business for others; and could set up a tuition fee for others. In short one can give an 'experience' in the shape of a gift to others.

For the poor people, things of need are the best gifts. For example, if they need food, water, and fresh air and they are receiving flowers, diamonds, or any other luxury items instead, they will not be as much happier with such gifts as you expect them to be. In this connection, research has also proved that people are happier when they get what they need in the shape of gifts as compared to other gifts.

Gifts basically enhance the quality of relationship and create new relationships. When there is a relationship and you want to strengthen it by your gift, it must be consistently followed by the similar gifts throughout your life (or till the time the relationship is there). Suppose you decide to give a perfume to your partner on his/her birthday or vice versa, then you must follow the routine throughout your life otherwise your gift will not be remembered any more. The second important thing is that gifts need to be according to the receivers I.Q or E.Q level. So consistency and creativity both play an important role in deciding about gifts to your friends and the family.

Otherwise, only a good quality time spent together is the best gift ever to you and your partner. The more happy and cheerful memories you have, the more grateful you will be with your friends, partners and co-workers. A good time or an adorable experience is always remembered and would not be out of sight as other materialistic gifts will lose their charm after some time.

So the best and beautiful gift in this world is no doubt neither materialistic nor spiritual-it is our human nature. We simply need to be a nice, caring, and helpful in our conduct to others and the more we are gentle, thanks- giving, and caring, the more we would be like the priceless, memorable and ever demanding gifts to others around us. We only need to stop us from giving harm to others by our attitudes, dialects, behaviors, emotions, or by any other mean possible. We only need to be human and that is the greatest gift in itself to us, to others, and to the universe as a whole, forever.

Author's Bio: 

Mona Aeysha, PhD, is an Educational and Developmental Psychologist, have been working as a Teacher, Counselor and Researcher in several institutes of China, Pakistan and Cambodia. Her major areas of interest are: self –esteem, self-concept, conceptual psychology, belief psychology, self psychology, preferential psychology, cultural psychology and women psychology.
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Dr Mona