Start today by taking these 3 steps… Save My Marriage Program – An Alternative to Marriage Counseling

With the new year approaching, most of us start to think about what we want to change next year. Look for a new job, join a gym, eat healthier, take a new course, save money or sign up for some other kind of challenge. Yet when it comes to our relationships, a REALLY important area for most of us, we don’t set any resolutions or plans. Which is crazy. Because a bad relationship can impact our health, self-esteem, overall happiness which in turn can affect our spending patterns and job performance. A loving, fulfilling and fun relationship can make us feel alive and thrive in all areas. So whether you are in a relationship right now or wanting to find your soul mate, follow the below 3 steps for Relationship Bliss in 2017

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Marriage Advice Step 1. Create a Vision

In order to achieve anything in life we need to know what it is we truly want. What do you want your relationship life to be like a week, month, 6 months or 3 years from now? What would you like to experience more or less of? If this is too difficult for you to answer think back to the best times you have ever had romantically… what were you doing? How were you treating your partner and how were they treating you? List down everything that you know would increase your relationship happiness.
For your vision we don’t want to waste time focusing on anything that is bad, wrong or not working for you. Focus on the good. My favourite question I always like to ask myself is

“Nicola, what would need to happen in your relationship between now and then end of the next 6 months for it to have been the best 6 months in your life?”

Be honest with yourself here. If you could transform your relationship into your ideal or find your perfect partner (if you are currently single) what would need to be happening for you to feel excited, happy and fulfilled?

Marriage Advice Step 2. Shape Your Relationship Destiny with a Decision

Consider some of your major accomplishments in life. Your education, career, finances and even sporting achievements. At some point you would have had to make a decision, you may have had a vision of what you wanted but without a decision it would have stayed just that, a vision. All success starts with a decision. The decisions that we make shape our lives and create our future. Just like what we decide to eat will shape our bodies. What we decide to do in our relationships will shape the quality and happiness we gain from it. As when you commit yourself fully you are more likely to take the action needed to succeed. “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” Tony Robbins

Are you ready to make a decision to commit to having a great relationship in 2017, no matter what? If yes get rid of the voice that is telling you that it is not possible for you. It is! Many couples will tell me “we’re trying to save our marriage”. In this situation they are just trialling a few things out in the hope that time will improve their relationship. There is no real decision going on here to fully commit to succeeding in achieving a loving relationship. Consider this; the word decision is derived from the Latin word ‘decidere’. Its literal meaning is to ‘cut off from’. In the context of creating the relationship you really want it’s meaning is poignant as you are essentially cutting off the possibility of not succeeding in this area of your life.

A decision statement can make all the difference. By making a decision statement you will have more clarity, focus, purpose, inspiration and motivation. It will help you to stay committed even when inevitable obstacles arise.

Here are some Decision Statement Examples from men and women I have worked with:

“I am fully committed to having a loving, happy and passionate marriage
“I will meet my soul mate by January 11th 2017”
“I will get relationship support for if I or we need to.”
“I will take action weekly to meet new people and say yes to all dates”
“I’ve cut off all other possibilities than having the marriage I truly desire.”

Your turn: Ask yourself: “What decision can I make right now that will spur me into action and help me stay committed to having the relationship I want?” Write it down and memorize your Decision Statement, put it on your mirror and recite it daily.

Marriage Advice Step 3. Act and Receive

Now you have your vision and decision what are you going to do to make it a reality? What actions can you take now towards your plan? Research, read, learn… Every act you take towards what you want is important. By take no action you are also acting. Many people in unhappy relationships wait for their partner to change first, give what it is that you wish to receive and they will reciprocate. Remember you make up 50% of a relationship and that backed with a powerful vision, decision and loving acts can influence a relationship by 90%. I see it happen all the time.

I love this quote “We all make choices, but in the end our choices make us.” Ken Levine

What will you choose for your love life in the next 6 months? What would you love to experience and have happen? Make it so.

I’d love to hear from you, message me on your updates, decision statements or if you have any questions hit reply.

From my heart to yours, Nicola

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PP.S If you know the holidays are a trigger time for you or are scared that things may not go as planned. I will be available to support you through it and to help you create the 2017 you truly want. I already have several confirmed appointments for Christmas and New Year already and want you to know, that I will be here, ready if you want someone to help you deal with any challenges, fears, loneliness or other stressful situations. Where we can look at overcoming the past and creating a fresh start. A year to look forward to. If this resonates with you my number is +971509454233 you can what’s app me to book your slot if and when you want to.

With love and wishes, x

Save My Marriage Program – An Alternative to Marriage Counseling – Dubai & Overseas

Author's Bio: 

Nicola Beer is an International Relationship & Divorce Coach who helps her clients find peace and create a new beginning after Marriage Breakdown and Divorce. This includes helping couples on the verge of a breakup to resolve their relationship issues once and for all, so that they can revive the love, passion, respect, and fun that's been missing.

As well as helping clients during and after Divorce to manage stress, create more income and adjust to new financial realities, redefine who they are, create a new social life, and when they are ready attract someone great. Nicola also runs 2 parenting programs that support children through and after divorce

Nicola has combined 11 years' experience helping people with emotional issues. This comprises 7 years private coaching and 4 years as a volunteer for the Samaritans where she supported callers dealing with any emotional distress. She is UK certified in Coaching, Grief Recovery for Adults and Children, NLP, Time Line Therapy, Hypnosis.

Nicola's passion to support people before, during and after divorce comes from her own childhood, where due to the stress of divorce her mother suffered a mental breakdown. As 1 of 5 children the divorce was devastating for her family and affected each of her family in different ways. More recently Nicola's older sister with 4 children is going through a difficult divorce. Having experienced and seen the pain and stress associated with divorce Nicola is focused on proving solutions. She knows divorce doesn't have to mean disaster and takes her clients and their children from surviving to thriving. She is equally passionate about saving marriages, so has a program to overcome relationship problems.

Nicola works with expats and locals, Muslims and Non-Muslims from all over the world, mainly from Dubai, London, India, Saudi Arabia, Singapore, either in person for a 2 day intensive package or further afield US, Australia via video conference and phone.