Four Important Guidelines to Finding Happiness

Everyone wants to be happy, even though it often seems that some people are determined to be unhappy at all costs.

It is not difficult to be constantly happy. Achieving this boils down to your beliefs, your mental habits and the time you put in to becoming happy.

Here are four major guidelines for being happy. Think about them and pursue them.

1
Know that it is definitely possible for you to become happy, just like everyone, without exception, can definitely become clean after a bath.

Your happiness is covered with “mind-dirt” that can be “washed off” by refining the way you perceive things.

2
One thing that happiness depends upon is the number of things that you want.

The more things you want badly, the unhappier you will be, since you may not easily be able to get what you want. For instance, suppose you want to have a long-term intimate relationship with someone, but that person is not interested and therefore you cannot have the desired relationship.

Generally speaking, if you are really stuck on a particular want, you will be frustrated and maybe depressed if it is not fulfilled. If on the other hand you are not very stuck on a want and it did not pan out, you would just let the want go and quickly move on “unscathed.”

The motto: there is nothing wrong with wanting something as long as you can let go of the want with ease. If you get what you wanted, good for you. If you don’t, it shouldn’t matter. There is much wisdom in the pop saying, “You win some, you lose some.”

3
Separate yourself from your thought process.

What do I mean by this?

Clearly someone in that head of yours is aware of your thoughts. That someone is the real you, which one may also refer to as the “basic you.” The “basic you” is always there, aware of your thoughts. It doesn’t matter what you are thinking, it’s still always there, just observing your thoughts. Its nature does not change. In other words, it is unaffected by your thoughts. And remember, the “It” I’m talking about is the “basic you”, aka YOU!

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Once you have realized you are the “basic you”, stay rooted there. In other words, remain an observer of your thoughts. IMPORTANT: This by no means implies you become inactive. Your mind will continue to decide to do things, only instead of believing that thoughts are “your voice”, you will be calmly standing aside and watching them, and taking action according to the decision just like you did earlier.

4
Practice makes perfect.

Spend 10 minutes a day sitting quietly, asserting your identity as a pure observer of your mind (aka your thoughts). During the rest of the day, if you feel disturbed, start watching your thoughts (in other words, be your true self, the “basic you”) during those times.

With practice, you will be the “basic you” all the time, ever calm, yet dealing with the world moment to moment. Life will be a joy to live, your calmness will be contagious and you will make your part of the world a better place. Good luck!