Five Steps To Increase Your Self Esteem

Like I said before, it’s essential for you realize that, your level of self esteem will eventually determine the quality of your life and the level of growth and success that will be present in your life, that is why you need to work on boosting your confidence and building your self esteem.

1. Assume 100% Responsibility

Responsibility: Response- able, able to choose the response you want.

I know there are a lot of jerks out there, a lot of people who love making other people’s lives a living hell, but no matter how many people like that you will encounter in your daily life, you can still keep if you choose to react to whatever it is that they have to say, to whatever it is that they are doing to you, instead of responding to them, you will be doomed. People treat you how you allow them to treat you, and I have noticed this a lot of times. If they feel like they can take advantage of you, if people see that they can treat you badly, making you feel inferior, making you feel worthless and of less value, they will do it. They will test your boundaries, and if you don’t have any, guess what? You will me mistreated by everybody around you, you will feel like a victim and you will be unhappy for the rest of your life.

“How people treat you is their karma. How you react is yours.” Wayne Dyer

If you want to feel good about yourself and if you want to increase your level of self esteem, you need to see yourself as the only one who’s responsible for your own feelings and emotions, you are the only one responsible for your own happiness and for whatever it is that happens in your life.

2. Change Your Mind

A lot of people let their mind run on auto pilot; don’t let that happen to you also. Whatever it is that you hold in that mind of yours, will eventually become your reality, and if you insist on thinking the way you always have , you will continue acting in that same old destructive way, getting the same lousy, feeling how you have always felt. If you want different results in your life or your work, you have to change your mind.

All those crazy thoughts that keep telling you how stupid you are, how fat, ugly, skinny, worthless, short, tall etc. you are, dump them! Dump them all in the recycle bin. You don’t need them, none of them. Change the “I can’t” with “I know I can!” , change the “It will never happen to me” with “I know it will happen to me!” , change the “I am too stupid” with “I know if I study enough I will get really good at it” and go on until you start believing them, and start acting on them, start acting on these new and empowering thoughts.

3. Break Free From Past Conditioning

Some of you might have some difficulties with this one, especially if you were raised in an environment where all you ever heard was: “You were born poor and you will die poor; you are not good enough; you will never be good at anything; you are too stupid; you are too ugly, too fat; there isn’t enough to go around; the world will eventually come to an end so why bother; if you want to be happy you need to make sacrifices, you need to work very hard; you have no talents; who do you think you are to dare on having these big dreams...” and the list could go on. We are all here because that’s exactly where we should be and because we all have a purpose, a dharma to fulfill.

Don’t let your life be ruled by what others think of you, by what others think is possible or impossible. Don't allow their limiting beliefs become your limiting beliefs and don't let them affect you.

4. Accept yourself completely

I can here a lot of you going: “What? Are you insane? How could that even be possible?” and you know what? It is possible, and if you really care about your own life and your own happiness, you will make an effort on making it happen. Would you rather love everything about yourself or would you rather hate and feel sorry about yourself? Think about it. It doesn’t have to be hard, in fact it’s not hard at all, we just THINK it is, and that’s exactly why you need to work on step number two. Run your mind, don’t let it run you!

5. Commit yourself to continuous learning and improvement

I know that’s a long time, but what else can you do? Do you have better things to do?

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." Mark Twain

Self growth is more important than self pity, don’t you think? It’s not like you will need extra time to learn and grow... Use the time that was reserved for feeling sorry about yourself, blaming your family, your friends, the sky, you God etc. for how they are treating you, for how miserable and unhappy they are making you feel, use that time for your own personal growth, for learning how to better see, treat, respect and love yourself.

All the great people that have ever lived on this planet knew this to be true and, for as long as they lived, they spent their time learning, developing new skills, new talents, and improving those they already had. You see, this is what self esteem is all about. The more you learn, the more things you will be able to do, and the more you will be able to do, the better you will feel about yourself, your results, your work and your life. There is no end to personal growth, and for as long as you’ll live, there will be something new for you to learn. The moment one person decides that is time to stop, that they already know enough because they are full with knowledge, that will be the moment they will start dying little by little. The purpose of learning is growth, and our minds, unlike our bodies, can and will continue growing for as long as we shall live.