Often we look for joy outside of ourselves, but the capacity to find joy lies within us. Everyone has the ability to embrace the joy that is all around us, but this ability comes from the inside first. If one does not have inner joy, nothing from the outside world will create it. One has to make the decision to be joyful, to let your joy spring forth from the way you view your world and your circumstances. All conditions in your outer world don't have to be perfect for you to experience the fullness of joy. For instance, all of your bills do not have to be paid in order for you to experience joy.
Having real joy comes from having a sense that God is always working things out for your good. He has a plan for your life. Real joy comes from knowing deep inside that no matter what happens, God will see you through it.
The following are some real suggestions for allowing your joy to explode from within:
1. Look at all of the good things that have come your way. Perhaps, you have had someone to leave your life, but undoubtedly, you still have someone else who values your friendship. Find joy in knowing that goodness is always flowing your way. You have to open your inner or spiritual eyes to see it.
2.Learn to take joy in your own company. Suppose you really don't have many friends. Enjoy your aloneness. Notice that I said your "aloneness", not your "loneliness".
3. Consider doing things for others. Make that phone call to a person that you have not spoken to in a while. Savor the person's response when you say their name. One can not help but experience joy, when he extends it to others.

Author's Bio: 

Dr. Emily DeCarlo is a fascinating woman with a very strong belief in God. Her faith leads her to know that nothing that God does is insignificant and therefore, we do not have to live limited, mediocre lives. She espouses to the belief that God is great and therefore greatness lies within all of us. She is the author of several books of poetry, one of which was used as a supplemental text for English 211 at Virginia State University. She also has written a manual entitled "Using Poetry to Promote Linguistics and Language Acquisition" which was used in the graduate Special Education Department at Virginia State University. Another manual that Dr. DeCarlo has penned is entitled " The Crab Effect". It is a manual based on the story of Joseph in the Bible. The subtitle is "How to Handle the Haters in Your Life". Dr. DeCarlo is an evangelist, author, poet, researcher and entrepreneur. She is in the process of developing the DeCarlo Institute for the Healing Arts, a center for research relative to the promotion of wellness and the maintenance of healthy lifestyles. The center also addresses different approaches to maintaining and promoting health such as Thai bodywork, meditation, natural healing, faith healing, relaxation therapy and Ayurveda medicine. Dr. DeCarlo also uses poetry therapy to assist others in facing and resolving life's tests and trials. Her book entitled "Poetry for Healing" is soon to be released. She is a licensed and ordained minister and has served as an associate minister and head of the Daughters of Esther Women's Ministry for the past ten years at the Mt. Carmel Baptist Church at 925 Arlington Road in Hopewell, Virginia. She also has a poem " Epiphany" which was published in Essence magazine in 2008 (January edition). Her CD of anointed poetry made its debut in 2009 and is still available today.She was inducted into Sigma Tau Delta Literary Society for outstanding contributions to literature. She performs her original poetry for various occasions and events around the country. She has traveled to China to view the education system and learned some of their Ancient Chinese Medicine practices during her approximately two weeks tenure there