In today’s busy and ever changing world, we can easily become overwhelmed.

You have made your resolutions and set your goals for change but now it seems you have so much to do and don’t know where to start. At this stage it is easy to lose our enthusiasm for the changes we wish to make.

Would you like to be sure that with each step you are heading in the right direction? The following questions will help you narrow down your ‘To Do’ list and help you work towards your goals in a clearly defined way.

Ask yourself:

1. What do I really want to do?

Doing what you want to do is a process of identifying those things you really don’t want to do and replacing them with those things you do want to do to bring you closer to your goals. This will take time but over time you will find you include more of the things you want to do.

2 What do I care about most?

When you identify these things and do what you care about most will you begin to feel better about yourself.

3. How do I feel when I am doing what I am doing?

You may be on the wrong track if doing what you are doing does not give you joy and make you happy. Working towards a goal is satisfying if it is filling you with happiness while you are doing it. The expectation of satisfaction on reaching the goal will keep you motivated. Cultivate the feeling of having achieved that goal.

4. Why am I doing this?

Clearly identify that what you are doing is moving you in the right direction, towards one or more of your goals. This will allow you to be living Your Life Your Way™.

5. What shall I do now?

Create your list of all the things you care about and all the things you really want to do. Prioritise them – A, B and C. Answering questions 1 to 4 will help you narrow your focus to the things that are really important. Spend the most time and energy on items marked A & B. You may find that items marked with a C become even less important and after several days, might even fall off your To Do List.


After answering the questions and creating your To Do List create an Action Plan. Each of the things in your above list will need mini action plans and these form your Action Plan. Remember this is not a static thing. It is ever changing and evolving. As you reach one goal, it becomes replaced with another.

Author's Bio: 

Judith Baxter the Unstoppable Self Confidence coach shows you how to get from where you are to where you want to be by changing your thinking through articles, seminars, exercises and life coaching sessions. To receive her regular how-to articles visit or email her